I have been recently given my options with HUbby, we have been separated for 3 years. I can either go through the courts, or work out a settlement. Is it normal to go through a gammit of emotions... I go from Happy (we've both moved on) to raging mad, to bawling my eyes out.... And he laughs at me when I go from one extreme to the other.... Is this a normal reaction???
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I think people have 100 different reactions to separation and then more emotions to the actual divorce. Yours are on one side and those that feel relief are on the other. They are all normal.
I think once you make your final decision as to what you are going to do and how you are going to evaluate the end of your marriage you emotions will become more consistent.
I think once you make your final decision as to what you are going to do and how you are going to evaluate the end of your marriage you emotions will become more consistent.
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It is very common to have a wide range of emotions and reactions. Separation and divorce is a traumatic experience. As far as his laughing, that is a hard thing to judge.
My ex laughed at me a lot when I was threatening separation and divorce. But when I followed through he did not laugh. I laughed when he continued to deny adultery when there was solid proof of it. I also smiled and laughed when we had our court day for the divorce. Each time the laughter on my part was a nervous laugh. When he denied the adultery, it was also an uncontrollable, crazy kind of laugh, almost like a substitute for crying.
Don't expect anything normal for this time in your life. There is no "normal" for the end of a marriage.
My ex laughed at me a lot when I was threatening separation and divorce. But when I followed through he did not laugh. I laughed when he continued to deny adultery when there was solid proof of it. I also smiled and laughed when we had our court day for the divorce. Each time the laughter on my part was a nervous laugh. When he denied the adultery, it was also an uncontrollable, crazy kind of laugh, almost like a substitute for crying.
Don't expect anything normal for this time in your life. There is no "normal" for the end of a marriage.
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We had been going to church together... that came to an end this week. I am finishing up my last day in the nursery in 2 weeks, and i will be looking for a new church for our children and me... there is too much pain and resentment right now to keep thw mascarade.... i just have to remember that this was something we both needed to happen... pray for peace.
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Sometime branching out to new people and support networks can make a huge difference. I couldn't continue going to the church we had been members of together. It is important to make new relationships and gather as much support as you can.
It takes time, but new people, places, and things can be a blessing.
It takes time, but new people, places, and things can be a blessing.
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