Emotional Intelligence

[Ada Lovelace]

Technically more teeth being used to start a fire the old way, like rubbing two sticks together!

With older dental engines the smell could be pronounced. Also modern drills do a better job of delivering a steady stream of water. It is not just for washing, it is for cooling.

I was back at the dentist yesterday and just grateful that at least you can't smell burning teeth. The noises aren't as awful and I have Beats. I would have bolted and kept running if I smelled teeth. I would have been a complete freakbasket back in the era when the drills were loud and there was a burning teeth smell in the air. Burning Man (the festival) - yes, please. Burning Teeth, the actual torture. Oh dear God no.

I thought about EQ while I was there. This lady who was like maybe 65 was annoyed others were ahead of her in the waiting room, and each time someone in front of her was called in she'd jump up and try to aggressively persuade that person and the staff to let her ahead. She repeatedly opened the door going back to the exam rooms and harangued staff. She was actually asked to leave because she kept causing a disruption and presented a safety hazard, but she refused. I would have let her just go ahead of me but everyone from school was participating in the global schoolgirl protest and I couldn't be late meeting them.

 

[Paradoxum]

It was the best I could come up with at the time.

Perhaps folk Wisdom fits better? Or perhaps it is just the specific of seeing flattery (a very high score) and recognizing it for what it is, flatteringly high.

Well the main reason I said what I said was to appear not bragging.

But I also doubt that I'm that I'm that exceptional.

And while I still do stand behind my statement that if online EQ tests follow the same pattern as online IQ tests then your 130 is average, I will say somewhere in the 110-120 range for you on a valid test seems right to me for you.

That's above average... I'll take that.

 

[TillICollapse]

Medical doctors work in the applied sciences. Arguably the best ones are high on empathy as well as the partial scientific practice of their profession. But if one has to give between the two qualities, I think it is better to have an emotionally distant doctor or surgeon that is excellent at his practice of medicine or surgery.

I had two very good surgeons work on two separate operations. One was excellent in empathy and his science and skill. The other was at one point very emotionally detached from me but he carried out excellent surgery on me. The nurses thought very highly of him as well in his specialty area of surgery.

I tended to notice that specific types of physicians/surgeons seemed to reflect a more "balanced" personality which portrayed both practical intelligence and emotional intelligence. I'd say the vascular surgeons were probably the ones whom, in my experience, seemed the most well rounded. Neurosurgeons seemed to have the most "god complex" going on.

Yes, high IQ folks, often leave something to be desired, when it comes to emotional skills in dealing with other people.

In 20 years in healthcare, I have been around certain physician specialists quite a bit and most of them are brilliant, when it comes to knowledge in their specialty. The other side of it is this; a good deal of them, have the emotional maturity, of about a 8 year old, when it comes to dealing with other people.

Agreed lol

 

[Received]

I'm not sure what emotional intelligence is beyond social skills.

That's technically social intelligence, but it overlaps a fair amount with emotional intelligence because you need emotional intelligence to understand the intentions and feelings of others -- the latter two involving mirror neurons which allow empathy.

So emotional intelligence is your ability to name your own emotions, how to change them (such as through distraction, noticing and changing your thoughts which influence them), picking up on the emotions in others (empathy), and your overall navigation of emotional material apropos your world.

And lemme tell ya: there are plenty of people out there who can't label their own feelings much less notice them adequately. You see this even with how people talk: "I feel like you don't know what's going on." But wait, that's not a feeling at all, but a thought you're expressing with just forcing the "I feel" word on; when I ask clients like this what they're feeling (i.e., use a feeling word/emotion), they'll often use vague words like "I feel good" rather than pinpointing specific emotions. Imagine how this inability to really know what you're feeling could affect your life!