Eharmony

[TurnandLove07]

I tried EHarmony for three months @$50.00 a month.

I got to the open communication stage with four men. The open communication stage is the last stage where you can exchange email addys. Anyway, I would get an email from Eharmony stating that these men were banned from Eharmony. Due to their privacy policy, Eharmony would not disclose why they were banned.

Also, I didn't like some of the pre-programmed questions and answers. I feel that sometimes my true personality didn't show up in those questions/answers.

I also got tired of the rejections. I figure why should I pay $50.00 a month when it can happen to me in real life for free?

I think that I will focus my attention on attending local Christian singles events where men can get to know me on the basis of my personality and not some photo.

Michelle

 

[AlohaAquamarine]

I was on it but as I am in Australia there are not very manyn matches for me. It was one of my first experiences with dating sites a while ago and I remember being quite miffed at guys who initiated contact but then closed the match based on one photo.

Now I know how commonn it all is, but I don't have much success on dating sites I don't seem to get much interest. Probably based on my photo or my age, that's what I put it down to. Could be something totally different tho

 

[deliciousBass]

No, I didn't read the whole thread.

I have tried it before, yes.

I didn't like it and I was matched up with ~300 people. This is why I don't think I will find anybody in my area lol. I only met one girl from it and she was sooooooooooooooo materialistic it wasn't even funny. She was a preacher's daughter too! I was surprised that she didn't fit the stereotype

I think in our age group, people have such unrealistic expectations of a potential partner that it ruins it for everybody. Once you start getting in your 30's and are desperate, I'm sure it will be easier since everybody is lowering the bar.

 

[AlohaAquamarine]

No, I didn't read the whole thread.

I have tried it before, yes.

I didn't like it and I was matched up with ~300 people. This is why I don't think I will find anybody in my area lol. I only met one girl from it and she was sooooooooooooooo materialistic it wasn't even funny. She was a preacher's daughter too! I was surprised that she didn't fit the stereotype

I think in our age group, people have such unrealistic expectations of a potential partner that it ruins it for everybody. Once you start getting in your 30's and are desperate, I'm sure it will be easier since everybody is lowering the bar.

Maybe if you're a guy. Most guys my age are hooking up with 20 year olds and bypassing the fabulous women in their late twenties/early thirties.

From my personal experience it's the early twenties friends that I've had that are more desperate to have a boyfriend/be married than my peers ( in age ) - they are more likely to date and marry an idiot so that they are married and aren't left on the shelf so to speak.

I laugh at that -they don't realise the view from the shelf is fabulous ! Lol !

 

[LetHimThatGlories]

Maybe if you're a guy. Most guys my age are hooking up with 20 year olds and bypassing the fabulous women in their late twenties/early thirties.

From the perspective of a guy, those 18-20 year olds represent the cream of the crop so far as physical beauty goes, at least generally speaking. However, a 30 year old guy is going to get pretty impatient with a girl this age, once he realizes that the maturity just isn't there yet, and that girls his own age are so much more fun to be around.

From my personal experience it's the early twenties friends that I've had that are more desperate to have a boyfriend/be married than my peers ( in age ) - they are more likely to date and marry an idiot so that they are married and aren't left on the shelf so to speak.

I laugh at that -they don't realise the view from the shelf is fabulous ! Lol !

I went to a youth group that was experiencing the engagement disease. It was highly contagious, apparently.

 

[sampa]

Found out not long after I posted that you can cancel after 7 days and get a refund. Since my financial resources are in less than a comfortable, I'll most likely cancel.

Most all the matches haven't been geographically close, but even in the ones I've answered I've been learning my views on certain topics, which helps me better answer someone when I date them on certain things.

I think if I can be more up front with some people when we date I'll be able to save them some confussion. If this makes any sense. There's been guys I've been with and I just didn't (still maybe don't) know how to explain I don't want anything physical in initial stages or that I don't want to see them exclusively and have chances to date others so as for space and healthy balance or perspective.

eHarmony makes it a little easier by allowing you to ask questions like "How do you feel about Pre-martial sex?" or "How would you describe yourself with finances?" so the things that are most important to you, like convictions and responsibility can be up front without it being confrontational.

 

[radhead]

People who meet through those computer matchmaking services always seem a little desperate. (That's the impression anyways. I'm only the messenger.)

 

[sampa]

People who meet through those computer matchmaking services always seem a little desperate. (That's the impression anyways. I'm only the messenger.)

yeah, I get that impression sometimes too. In many of the introductions I see it in answers. People that are desperate just kind of "smell bad", I don't know how I know, I just know. No offense intended to anyone, its just my feelings.

 

[puffca]

What's wrong with being desperate? Men need wives.
I think I'll register as a paid memeber next year when I become less busy.

 

[sampa]

What's wrong with being desperate? Men need wives.
I think I'll register as a paid memeber next year when I become less busy.

nothing puffca, it's just not my preference. Some may and it's fine, I just feel uncomfortable with it at this stage in my life. Maybe it'll change if I'm not married still in a couple of years.

 

[puffca]

nothing puffca, it's just not my preference. Some may and it's fine, I just feel uncomfortable with it at this stage in my life. Maybe it'll change if I'm not married still in a couple of years.

OK

Speaking of being desperate, it's funny that my parents are even more so than I am.

 

[sweetlambofgod]

for you?

 

[koban4max]

Maybe if you're a guy. Most guys my age are hooking up with 20 year olds and bypassing the fabulous women in their late twenties/early thirties.

From my personal experience it's the early twenties friends that I've had that are more desperate to have a boyfriend/be married than my peers ( in age ) - they are more likely to date and marry an idiot so that they are married and aren't left on the shelf so to speak.

I laugh at that -they don't realise the view from the shelf is fabulous ! Lol !

good for you.

 

[AlohaAquamarine]

double post

 

[AlohaAquamarine]

Thanks. Although that said it can get awfully lonely on the shelf at times !

So those who said internet matching/dating smells of desperateness and you can read that in some profiles, what sort of stuff have you read that indicates that ? ( Just out of curiousity )

 

[radhead]

This might sound desperate: "Please! Will pay all dating expenses if you just go out with me."

 

[koban4max]

Hmm...everyone is desperate.

 

[AlohaAquamarine]

This might sound desperate: "Please! Will pay all dating expenses if you just go out with me."

Lol !

Ok fair call

 

[Princess Pea]

Thanks. Although that said it can get awfully lonely on the shelf at times !

So those who said internet matching/dating smells of desperateness and you can read that in some profiles, what sort of stuff have you read that indicates that ? ( Just out of curiousity )

"I desperately want to be happy and in love ... "

 

[Princess Pea]

People who meet through those computer matchmaking services always seem a little desperate. (That's the impression anyways. I'm only the messenger.)

Hmm...everyone is desperate.

So you think that only desperate people use those sites in the first place? Why do you say that? Just asking ...