HisdaughterJen
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If a man has made no proposal of permanent commitment to a woman, he should not expect her to be exclusive to him, demanding all of her time. Sign on to eharmony and check it out.
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If a man has made no proposal of permanent commitment to a woman, he should not expect her to be exclusive to him, demanding all of her time. Sign on to eharmony and check it out.
IreneAdler
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In a way I agree but I also believe we have a postponed arrangement of sorts. We cannot be together in marriage until we lose a teenager. lol. Two unrelated opposite sex teenagers in the same house to both of us is a no-no.
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HisdaughterJen
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In a way I agree but I also believe we have a postponed arrangement of sorts. We cannot be together in marriage until we lose a teenager. lol. Two unrelated opposite sex teenagers in the same house to both of us is a no-no.
OOH, I see! LOL
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memoriesbymichelle
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I know the curiosity thing for sure, but this sounds like you would be asking for trouble. JMHO
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IreneAdler
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Oh, that's why I don't do it. I get that. I would NEVER jeopradize what I have for a shameless peek at a website.
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memoriesbymichelle
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Good for you. Sounds like you are happy and we should never jeopardize that for sure!
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IreneAdler
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I am. 
I think these sites have their place, I just am so super curious I hate things that are secret or have limited access.
I think these sites have their place, I just am so super curious I hate things that are secret or have limited access.
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Irene,
Very interesting to hear of this curiousity.
I also have had this curiousity in the past. It seems to me there are two ways of dealing with it ethically. One is the one that is always suggested, for sake the desire.
The other way is to talk with the person one is in relationship with adn see if they can be apart of the curiousity quest. This takes away the secret private thrill, but gives a companion to experience the curiousity with. The problem this could create is jealousy. Thaat is a whole other issue.
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Very interesting to hear of this curiousity.
I also have had this curiousity in the past. It seems to me there are two ways of dealing with it ethically. One is the one that is always suggested, for sake the desire.
The other way is to talk with the person one is in relationship with adn see if they can be apart of the curiousity quest. This takes away the secret private thrill, but gives a companion to experience the curiousity with. The problem this could create is jealousy. Thaat is a whole other issue.
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memoriesbymichelle
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I don't think it would be wise even doing it together. One of the parties is sure to start to wonder about things just because of the curiosity and the whole relationship could be jepardized. I wouldn't risk it if I had someone I was truly happy with.
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IreneAdler
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yeah, not walking away, not doing it together. I know where my desire comes from and it's not being unsatisfied with where I am. It's the fact I cant' see the information without logging in and having an account. I hate secrecy, whether it's reasonable or not. It just bugs me and I'm nosey.
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Ya, secret info can sure be enticing. It was part of the Gnostic religions. For me I've had enough expreience with web sites that if they want money I have little interest. Espcially the free weekends as one just can't do very much on these events that are designed to get people to buy the membership. Its not just dating sites either. Also classmates . com and ancestry . com do the same type of thing.
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IreneAdler
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yup. I have to exercise self control not to go looking just for the sake of it.
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memoriesbymichelle
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Think of it like one of those sales pitches I'm sure you've heard where you get a "free gift" right? Usually, the "free" gift either isn't all that great, or you really have to pay for it. Those sites are enticing you for the sake of enticement, AND to get you to join and pay them money, right? It's no secret that with the amount of people that are in this world that you could be matched with someone else (other than your current SO) right? So what really. So it's really not THAT secrective and since you ARE in a relationship, it really wouldn't be worth it to jepardize that.
I think Eharmoney can be a great tool for meeting people that share your interests (or so they say). Besides if you want to look at other possiblilities there are free sites like Yahoo personals. But seriously I know you don't I get what your saying but it's not really true. They aren't keeping anything secret, it's a tool to get you to think that so you will join.
I think Eharmoney can be a great tool for meeting people that share your interests (or so they say). Besides if you want to look at other possiblilities there are free sites like Yahoo personals. But seriously I know you don't I get what your saying but it's not really true. They aren't keeping anything secret, it's a tool to get you to think that so you will join.
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memoriesbymichelle
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Hey I was thinking. Any of you that have used Eharmony and been matched. Does it put any added pressure that you've been "matched". You know like your supposed to be made for each other kinda thing? I don't know if that makes sense but I was wondering if anyone had felt that or not.
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SearcherKris
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My pastor and his wife met on EHarmony. They are very happy together, although there relationship is not perfect and they don't pretend it is. They are open and honest about them both being human and both getting on each other's nerves.
LOL I love her. Every time she says, "I thought Bill was gonna kill me!" I just die laughing.
They recognize their differences and human natures, and they accept the good and the bad about each other.
I think with this kind of thing you just have to realize that as good of a match is, and as much harmony as there can be between two people, it will never be perfect 100% harmony because we are imperfect. Anyone who doesn't get that is going to have a difficult time in relationships of all kinds, whether they go through one of these sites or not.
You can only be as healthy as you are. And your relationships can only be as healthy as you are. And you can only give as much to a relationship as you have in yourself.
LOL I love her. Every time she says, "I thought Bill was gonna kill me!" I just die laughing.
They recognize their differences and human natures, and they accept the good and the bad about each other.
I think with this kind of thing you just have to realize that as good of a match is, and as much harmony as there can be between two people, it will never be perfect 100% harmony because we are imperfect. Anyone who doesn't get that is going to have a difficult time in relationships of all kinds, whether they go through one of these sites or not.
You can only be as healthy as you are. And your relationships can only be as healthy as you are. And you can only give as much to a relationship as you have in yourself.
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