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[ciaradawn]

Eatenbylocusts,

I'm sorry that I sounded like such a downer. I guess that I haven't really given up on looking for dates and love, but I've given up on doing the "stuff" like Eharmony and am just going out and enjoying life. I have often joked to friends that I don't think I could find a man who could keep up with me!

The problem is that most of the time, I'm meeting men that are involved with someone else.

Michelle

I feel like that too. Seems like the guys I would be interested in aren't interested in me. and the ones that are interested can't keep up with me.

I do firmly believe that God will lead me in the right direction and I will meet someone that is perfect for me and that I am perfect for. Unfortunately it may not happen when or as fast as I want it to.... maybe he's living in another state right now

I also believe in living life for me and making myself happy. Also unfortunately, that can be hard when you're the kind of person I am. What I mean is that I'm a caregiver type person and that leads me to the wrong type of guy. and I get down when I don't have someone to "take care of". So I'm trying to fill that need with other things; like my job (mental health group home) and at my church. And doing things I enjoy. I wish there were more people my age around here that wanted to do the same things I like doing. I end up doing most of the stuff by myself. you'd think that'd help me meet guys but it hasn't yet. Plus I live in a retirement community pretty much.

oh well. He's leading the way so I'll follow.

Best of luck to all

 

[SRTera]

i actually finished up my subcription to Eharmony a few weeks ago. I was the free member, but i recieved an email for a discount 3 month time, so i was like what the heck. I recieved over 1000 matches, I emailed some of them, talked with some, but nothing happened. Some I thought were cool, but they stopped talking to me after they saw a picture of me. So that sucked. Anywho, they werent the one and im fine with that. Then i have this one girl, who is/was obsessed with me. She was like I LOVE YOU and I NEED YOU IN MY LIFE, and that was like after the 3rd email. I was like OK? I talked to her via Instant Messenging, but that is as far as i got.

I know some people that met their others on ChristianMingle, im a free member on that, same with ChristianCafe.com

 

[dayhiker]

Hey, its good you got to inter react with some women. More experience helps I think.

 

[jamandcrumpets]

I have been divorced a LONG time now and I'm really ready to not be alone anymore! That being said, I'm not prepared to take whatever comes along either...anyway, I met my now ex-boyfriend through RSVP and we dated for 5 years. We were a really good match! I was madly in love and tried to be patient waiting for 5 years (God had told me he was the one), but in the end he had a fear of marriage and of letting go of control of his life and we broke it off (a year ago now). He now has another girlfriend, which is heartbreaking to me. God can put us together, but we still have to make choices... anyway, back to the thread, I still think internet dating worked, and we were very compatible. I'm back on RSVP and E-harmony, but no luck so far....

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

I have been divorced a LONG time now and I'm really ready to not be alone anymore! That being said, I'm not prepared to take whatever comes along either...anyway, I met my now ex-boyfriend through RSVP and we dated for 5 years. We were a really good match! I was madly in love and tried to be patient waiting for 5 years (God had told me he was the one), but in the end he had a fear of marriage and of letting go of control of his life and we broke it off (a year ago now). He now has another girlfriend, which is heartbreaking to me. God can put us together, but we still have to make choices... anyway, back to the thread, I still think internet dating worked, and we were very compatible. I'm back on RSVP and E-harmony, but no luck so far....

That's terribly heartbreaking. What I have learned in life, if I have learned anything about men is this, they make up their minds pretty quickly that you are "the one" and if they don't?...then you will never be "the one". Does that make sense? My first true love of my life (still have a soft spot in my heart after 30 years) and I dated/lived together for over 5 years. He cheated on me and we broke it off and 8 months later he married someone else. He stayed married to her for IDK about 15 years and has been single ever since. My personal trainer at the gym a few years ago was a player when I first started training with him. Him and another trainer would talk about "going out" every weekend. Then he met this girl and all of a sudden he stopped....asked her to marry him and as far as I know they are married now (I quit going to the gym) but as soon as he started dating her he just knew she was "the one" I even questioned him about it cuz it was SO facsinating to me, but I think that's how it is with them they know right away either way, and it's not like they will wake up one day and say "OH WOW I LOVE YOU SO MUCH I DON'T KNOW WHAT I WAS THINKING!" never seen THAT happen lol