e-harmony---WOW

[faithopelove]

I tried E harmony. They matched me with 2 guys. One did not respond to my first contact (which is totally out of charater for me). The other contacted me and most of what he said was good until he stated that he didn't like to spend a lot of time in relationships. So I told him he was not the one (I got that "he probably married vibe).

 

[Jenster]

(I got that "he probably married vibe).

Oh wow -- really? Tha's bad!

 

[faithopelove]

Oh wow -- really? Tha's bad!

The reason I say that is I think it's strange that a guy would go through the trouble of signing up for a service and then stress over and over that he doesn't have much time for a relationship. If he acts like that during the courtship phase when most people are giddy and infactuated. How would he act once the newness wears off. My mate must want to spend a lot of time with me. I'm not into longterm casual dating. I want to work towards marriage.

 

[covenantwmn]

LOL I was thinking about Lower Expectations.com

 

[jcj3803]

I'm done with eharmony - with dating sites in general, actually. I just want to meet a guy the old-fashioned way - and honestly, I've had this growing feeling lately that my church is somehow the key to all this anyway. So I'm taking a break ... even though there's this persistant little voice that reminds me of the 3 women I know who have found husbands (and good ones too) via EH or CC ...

A good friend who is a psychologist told me that she thought the eH surveys were poorly designed and not truly informative. She emailed eH with her concerns/questions and never received a response. Make of it what you will.

 

[Pilgrim1951]

I know exactly what you mean HC! and I also believe EHarmony is not all that they claim it is...
I personally like a Christian site called www.Relationships.com

I agree Tumbleweed. I have been a member of relationships.com for about 4 months, and I like it. Pilgrim

 

[NoHoldingBack]

I tried eHarmony over a year ago. I went out with a few women but they weren't really my type. I am not so sure about that whole "Personality Test"... or, maybe I'm just picky, eccentric, ... who knows? A couple of them, on the first date, started talking about marriage and kids and salaries and so on. I was like "Hey, wait a minute! You don't even know my last name yet!" LOL

Anyway, I enjoy being single fairly well but I do like to date occasionally.

 

[steflou64]

I could not even get on Eharmony. After filling out their lengthy questionnaire at least twice (a good hour and half each time) they told me "I was one of the 10% of people they could not help now|. I hear that happens to alot of people! I did not give weird answers!!

 

[sparkydave]

I wonder if I miskeyed something or if I am just that much of a dork. In the entire United States there isn't a match for me. Is that for real? The largest online dating service, which is the first I've tried, has NO matches for me across the entire US? Thats kind of rough. It must be me. How do I find out what it is about me that is such a turn off?

I used eHarmony years ago, and I also got the "no matches" if you look right away. It starts sending you matches periodically.

My experience was different from others; I met someone I complimented nicely, although we were different in many ways. We agreed if we had met our equal we probably couldn't stand each other, but they got some formula right for matching the right personalities. They do stress that you might have to look outside your pre-conceived idea of your perfect match, but that's not to say you should ignore your "must haves" or "can't stands".

I thought their personality profile was spot on when I took it.

 

[miss-a]

I had a similar experience as the OP. A while back, sometime in the last year or so, eharmony did a freebie. I tried it and I was surprised that there were only like 3 matches that weren't matches at all. I mean I could see just from the profiles that they did not match me. It wasn't like that when I tried a freebie of theirs ten years ago. There were a lot of choices then.

 

[Mydnyte]

I tried this mess once. They couldn't find a match for me until surprise, surprise, my paid subscription was about to expire. Then they found all kinds of matches.

Total waste of time and money and I wish the BBB would investigate these claims they make in their commercials.

 

[dayhiker]

BBB is financed thru cooperate funds so they aren't that concern with policing companies, as I understand it.

 

[miss-a]

No, no no, it's not you! I've had that happen on a number of sites where I tried the free offer. It's not you. It's the service. I think part of it is that people are burning out on this online dating thing, recognizing it's not what we'd hoped it would be, and the pot to pull from is smaller than it once was. The last one I was on for a free trial, when I clicked on the "Who's online now," button there were 254 people online. That included men and women. It was at least the whole U.S. and it may have inclueded other countries as well. I'm one who participated in the past and has given up on them.

So, no, it's not you. It's that online dating worked for a small minority. The rest is a bust.

However, don't forget, "Delight yourself in the Lord, and He will give you the desires of your heart." So, He will give you a mate or free you from that particular desire, online dating or not.

Blessings, friend!

 

[exitstageright]

I totally relate! I did the e-harm test and they said only 3% of the population of the US was compatible with me . . .and apparently no one in that 3% signed up for e-harm!

I've tried match, and christian mingle (now relationships), and a variety of other sites - secular and faith based - and I volunteer with several agencies in the area ("they" say it's a great way to meet people with similar interests) and have for years. I've come to the conclusion that if God wants me to remarry He'll drop a man in front of me. The web is not a place for me to find one. But it's a great source of profit for the website companies!!!!!

Have you ever thought that God may haved dropped a man in front you?
And,you must have Friend-Zoned him?

 

[exitstageright]

The reason I say that is I think it's strange that a guy would go through the trouble of signing up for a service and then stress over and over that he doesn't have much time for a relationship. If he acts like that during the courtship phase when most people are giddy and infactuated. How would he act once the newness wears off. My mate must want to spend a lot of time with me. I'm not into longterm casual dating. I want to work towards marriage.

Good for you!

 

[exitstageright]

I tried this mess once. They couldn't find a match for me until surprise, surprise, my paid subscription was about to expire. Then they found all kinds of matches.

Total waste of time and money and I wish the BBB would investigate these claims they make in their commercials.

Well,...you do not belong to a private little club. That has happened to me and other people that I know. One women told me about her not getting many matches.She asked me,"What am I,a freak?"

 

[Mydnyte]

They talk about all those questions as being a good thing, but if you actually honestly answer them, you don't have a chance of being matched.

Then, there are those who just flat out lie on there. About smoking preferences, having kids etc. One woman listed that she had no kids when in reality she had 4.

 

[dayhiker]

Just watched a Ted talk about dating sights.
Seems the most replied are sent tho those who have a short profile, like under 100 words.

 

[kymphony]

I went through the questionnaire that took well over an hour and then the page went blank. I couldn't get past it, a software glitch. I tried to contact someone at eHarmony to no avail. Then I got an automated email telling me to finish the questionnaire. I tried responding to the email, also to no avail.

Then it dawned on me, God didn't want me going there.

 

[steflou64]

I was depressed about my worthless date Saturday night with the homely man I went out with (blind date) that I contacted Mike-the guy I pseudo dated last summer for two months and asked him if he could help me find a date! LOL! For a price, of course-was going to be $150 but I got him to agree to $100 and a free lunch (on me). Maybe he being an attorney can help me rewrite my profile on dating sites-he wants me to join e-harmony-I told him I tried about 2 times b4 (after spending close to 2 hrs each time answering the questions only to be told I am one of the 10% of people they can't help-lol)! I have to watch the money and can't afford to join it and Christian Mingle and Single C!