Dump for not being Christian

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My girlfriend just got back from a Christian retreat in Florida.

First thing she did when she got back was to give me an ultimatum.

Become Christian for her or end the relationship.

I've already made my decision, but what would you guys/gals do?

Would you sacrifice who you are?

Ouch! That sucks.

Unfortunately, I feel that she has made an unfair ultimatum. It is not the act of a loving partner, to force such a decision upon someone they care about. A relationship with God is not something you should be forced in to - only you can make that decision, and only for you should that decision be made.

If you love her, and really think you have a future together then you can try and explain this to her. I was a non-Christian when I met my girlfriend (who is now my wife - that's us in the photo linked in my profile) and even though she brought it up, and it caused some hard times for us, there was never an ultimatum. I was allowed the time and freedom to make my decision, and it took me around two years to do so.

On the positive side, I can understand why she feels to be important. Obviously from her point of view she feels that there could be a future with you, else she would not be thinking so far ahead - your faith and beliefs can have far reaching consequences for the relationship - do you pray together, can she talk to you seriously about her faith, can she rely on you to bring her through the hard times and so on. But also especially in respects to if you ever have children.

I feel her request is unfair, but there may be hope - it's really up to you guys.