dude... how annoying..

[chickenfeet]

anyone else got their parents, or grandparents, or distant relatives.. friends or co workers, etc trying to hook u up with so and so?

man.. how frustrating.. it seems like all ppl who either are married or dating, want to play match maker. they don't seem to understand that i *want* to be single. even my g-ma's on my case, she's like i want some babies around here. ... she set me up on a blind date, and i dont know how to get out of it. telling them no don't seem to do any good. these ppl are driving me mad.

anyone got a trick on how to get these ppl off ur back?

 

[Out of the Flames]

1. Tell them you're gay.

2. Tell them that the next person to say something is going to doom the family line because you will become a nun, so help you God.

Although I personally find that the phrase, "Back off" when delivered correctly, can be quite effective.

 

[jenptcfan]

anyone else got their parents, or grandparents, or distant relatives.. friends or co workers, etc trying to hook u up with so and so?

man.. how frustrating.. it seems like all ppl who either are married or dating, want to play match maker. they don't seem to understand that i *want* to be single. even my g-ma's on my case, she's like i want some babies around here. ... she set me up on a blind date, and i dont know how to get out of it. telling them no don't seem to do any good. these ppl are driving me mad.

anyone got a trick on how to get these ppl off ur back?

Yes! Several months ago I was inundated with people trying to "hook me up". The final straw was when my sister (she lives 2 1/2 hours away from me) called to tell me she had given my contact info. to her coworker's son (he also lives 2 1/2 hours away from me).

I love my sister....but she doesn't even know what I'm looking for in a guy, and in my mind, that means she probably has no business playing matchmaker.

I asked her what made her think that he and I would be a good match, and she said..."uh...well you both like to fish!" (though he bass fishes and I bream fish). When I asked her what character qualities he possessed, she said, "Well I don't know him that well."

Thanks, sis!

 

[remy]

nope, everyone outside my immediate family lives at least 500 miles away.

why cant they just get a puppy or something.

 

[Nico]

yeah, i get it all the time. let me tell you i've been on a few horrors of a blind date. sometimes it's awfull when it is a family member that's setting it up b/c they're usually friends w/the one who you're going on the date with. and when it doesn't work out, it can be awkward w/you and family member. i was set up once (by a friend, though) and it worked out. i try to keep an open mind, accept the date. but if it sucks, there's not gonna be 2nd. and i'm firm in that. i'll try anything and be open once, but i refuse to force anything that's not there, you know?

 

[Sketcher]

My grandmother on my dad's side has done that once - she suggested someone I went to high school with and left it at that. I have a aunt on the other side of my family who suggested I date a friend of my cousin - "Her parents own lots of land". They live in the sticks, I'll forgive that. Besides, she's got her own son she's worried about hooking up, who is older than me, and therefore a much higher priority.

 

[LionOfJudah]

aye it gets worse when you are in Bible college and two churchs are trying to set you up with preachers kids and bible colleges are known affectionately at bridal colleges sometimes.

 

[Spicy McHaggis]

You reminded me of a great quote I heard once.

"I used to get so mad at these little old ladies. They would pinch me on the arm at weddings and say "Pretty soon, that'll be you up there!". So I started doing it to them at funerals."

Me, being the stubborn guy that I am, I'd tell them No, then, when they set me up despite my objection, I'd call the person they set me up with and tell THEM no.

 

[Highland Watchman]

... sorry about the double post... see below...

 

[Highland Watchman]

aye it gets worse when you are in Bible college and two churchs are trying to set you up with preachers kids and bible colleges are known affectionately at bridal colleges sometimes.

True Story! And sometimes, you get those who hop from relationship to relationship, and who insist on "reforming" you so you fit into their mold...


To whomever asked how to get rid of the "meddlers":
I don't know the best way to get people off your back about dating. I would not suggest telling them that you're gay, as that would get around, and could be potentially hazardous. I guess through showing that relationships don't work for you, being honest, and waiting it out, they might get the idea... You could also talk to the preacher at their church to preach on the validity of singleness as a life... that is, assuming they belong to a church and they actually listen to what is said from the pulpit...

 

[kelco]

After you say no 1 billion times they finally get the message. I just tell em if I ever find the person I'm looking for they will be the first to know.

 

[chickenfeet]

1. Tell them you're gay

-laffs-

i'll hafta try that one.

"I used to get so mad at these little old ladies. They would pinch me on the arm at weddings and say "Pretty soon, that'll be you up there!". So I started doing it to them at funerals."

lol! thats cute.

i'd get out of it if i could.. but my g-ma knew i'd do anything to get out of it.. so she invited him to a family get together.. making apple cider. meaning i have no choice but to show..

ah well, i'll just not show up. that'll teach her

anyway.. thanks for ur replies... good to know, i'm not the only one whoes had to go through this. ppl really need to mind their buisness.

 

[wildthing]

-laffs-

i'll hafta try that one.



lol! thats cute.

i'd get out of it if i could.. but my g-ma knew i'd do anything to get out of it.. so she invited him to a family get together.. making apple cider. meaning i have no choice but to show..

ah well, i'll just not show up. that'll teach her

anyway.. thanks for ur replies... good to know, i'm not the only one whoes had to go through this. ppl really need to mind their buisness.

I had a deacon of the church do that to me once at an wedding. Then He ask me when I was getting married? I said when h*** freezes over. Go figure.

 

[Wild_Fan4Christ]

You are lucky...my family and friends haven't even tried once to hook me up with someone. They give me a hard time for being single but don't give me any advice or introduce me to friends.

 

[wvmtnkid]

For awhile I was queen of the blind dates. I learned though that most of my friends thought what made me and the person they fixed me up with compatible was that we were both single. That was it. Spent a lot of looooonnnnnngggg evenings. Now, I hardly ever do a blind date (it's actually been a couple of years), unless the person doing the fixing up can give me more info then "well, you are both single......"

 

[Nico]

the truth is, that i think that most people that set me up on blind dates don't even think that he and i will get along, they just don't think at all. it's more that we're both single--hey of course we want to go on a date! there's very little consideration as to what i actually want and like (and the guy too--i will be the 1st to admit that it takes a very special man to handle a girl like me). the other trick is to laugh at it all. laugh at the awkward situations (but not at the guy, no need to be rude. wouldn't want him laughing about you behind your back). but just be like, "yup, just got set up on yet another no-win blind date situation." and all the wierd and horrible things that happen during the date. it can be quite entertaining to retell your friends. maybe.

 

[KeilCoppes]

"Pretty soon, that'll be you up there!". So I started doing it to them at funerals."

ROFL. On the other hand, wait 'til you're in the middle of nowhere and simply having a conversation that doesn't have to do work with work or commerce is a great blessing. You know, I'd almost rather have people setting me up - then I could start collecting material for a book on the subject and do cultural studies on what people actually think flies.

 

[Spicy McHaggis]

For awhile I was queen of the blind dates. I learned though that most of my friends thought what made me and the person they fixed me up with compatible was that we were both single. That was it. Spent a lot of looooonnnnnngggg evenings. Now, I hardly ever do a blind date (it's actually been a couple of years), unless the person doing the fixing up can give me more info then "well, you are both single......"

I've been in situations similar, where people's assumptions have NO merit. I went to Mexico with a co-worker on a missions trip with like 30 other people. About a week in they're like "Wait, you two aren't engaged?!?!?!"

I'm like "No, why would you think that?"

"Well, you're both the same age, you're both from Michigan, and uhhh, ummm, well, that was it..."

Yes people, I'm engaged to every 27 year old female from Michigan.

 

[wvmtnkid]

Yes people, I'm engaged to every 27 year old female from Michigan.

That's kinda like the same mentality that when you tell someone where you are from, they assume that you know everyone in your state.

"Where are you from?"

'West Virginia"

"Hey, do you know Bill Jones? He's from West Virginia."

 

[Spicy McHaggis]

That's kinda like the same mentality that when you tell someone where you are from, they assume that you know everyone in your state.

"Where are you from?"

'West Virginia"

"Hey, do you know Bill Jones? He's from West Virginia."

Well, last time I looked at a map, WV was only a couple of inches across, I figured you guys were all pretty close.