What do you think is an appropriate time period to have that talk? Is it appropriate for the girl to bring it up or should she wait for the guy? What is the best way to approach it?
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DTR-Define the Relationship
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i think it depends on the situation. my bf and i had that talk about a week or two after we admitted to having feelings for eachother and he was the one that brought it up. I think i preferred to have him be the one to take that initiative in the relationship too.
but i think if it were a case of the 'relationship' going on and on for months or longer and there was no clear indication what was going on and where both of us stood i probably would bring it up with him. I don't think it has to be a huge issue either to bring it up. i'd just sit down with him and ask him what he thinks of the relationship and where he would like to see things go.
but i think if it were a case of the 'relationship' going on and on for months or longer and there was no clear indication what was going on and where both of us stood i probably would bring it up with him. I don't think it has to be a huge issue either to bring it up. i'd just sit down with him and ask him what he thinks of the relationship and where he would like to see things go.
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PassionateOne
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It just depends on how you feel about having that talk? You kinda' get the feeling from the other person, whether they are into you like you are into them. There's no 'set time'......it's just how you feel about how things are going between you.
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miss_klara
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Our DTR was right at the start, when we transitioned from being friends to a couple. We already knew each others' convictions that you should date with the intention of marriage, so that was clear from day one. From there, it was just a natural transition - we had our DTR discussion, and stood up with the knowledge that we were exclusively dating.
The key is to know from very early on what you both want out of the relationship. Don't leave the DTR chat for 2 months, then finally get round to discovering that one wants marriage while the other is looking at the relationship as being non-exclusive, and is happy to date on the side. Ouch!
The key is to know from very early on what you both want out of the relationship. Don't leave the DTR chat for 2 months, then finally get round to discovering that one wants marriage while the other is looking at the relationship as being non-exclusive, and is happy to date on the side. Ouch!
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Maramixi
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I doubt it.
Jason started asking me "where I saw this going" and whatnot not too long after we were set as a couple. Poor guy was under the impression that for no reason other than that he was my first boyfriend I wouldn't want to stick with him for the long run.
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