don't know what to think

[Sappheire]

Thiers some guys I talk to at school and I think one of them may like me more than a friend. I want him to just come out and tell me if he does. Why do guys have to be so complicated?

 

[chrispykreme]

Don't even worry about it. Don't think on it. God has your plan in control, and he will bring a man to you when it's the right time.

 

[Sappheire]

I know I need to be patient. But, I am starting to get lonely and wanting someone to talk to, plus I'm getting bored

 

[chrispykreme]

I know I need to be patient. But, I am starting to get lonely and wanting someone to talk to, plus I'm getting bored

I know that feeling, I just had to let go of my boyfriend of 10 months, and at first it was really hard. But if you let God fill that void, and put all of your focus on growing in him, you won't feel that way. You won't be bored because you'll be excited to read your bible. You won't be lonely because you can get involved in the body at church and getting to know people who build your character.

 

[Erinwilcox]

Is the guy even a Christian (perhaps the answer is obvious, but it wasn't mentioned in your post).

 

[BigHearted]

Why do guys have to be so complicated?

Guys? Complicated? You're kidding me right?

I can tell you from experience that most of our fear of asking girls out isn't so much abuot rejection, but the friendship after rejection. In my experience usually the girl gives some form of a 'spiritual' no (that's not what God has for me now, etc, etc.) and then promptly disappears from my life.

Gee whiz people, just tell me flat out you're not interested in me in that way and lets keeping being friends. Is it really so hard?

 

[Sappheire]

Guys? Complicated? You're kidding me right?

I can tell you from experience that most of our fear of asking girls out isn't so much abuot rejection, but the friendship after rejection. In my experience usually the girl gives some form of a 'spiritual' no (that's not what God has for me now, etc, etc.) and then promptly disappears from my life.

Gee whiz people, just tell me flat out you're not interested in me in that way and lets keeping being friends. Is it really so hard?

and you don't think guys do the same thing?...If I admitted to this guy I'm interested in him more than a friend and I read him wrong he will completly avoid me

 

[Sketcher]

Guys? Complicated? You're kidding me right?

I can tell you from experience that most of our fear of asking girls out isn't so much abuot rejection, but the friendship after rejection. In my experience usually the girl gives some form of a 'spiritual' no (that's not what God has for me now, etc, etc.) and then promptly disappears from my life.

Gee whiz people, just tell me flat out you're not interested in me in that way and lets keeping being friends. Is it really so hard?

Yeah. Don't bring God into it unless He is ACTUALLY telling you know.

 

[kelco]

I know I need to be patient. But, I am starting to get lonely and wanting someone to talk to, plus I'm getting bored

Sappheire just because you are with someone doesn't automatically mean that you still won't be lonely and bored.
Let me tell you a little story. I know someone who is in a marrige and has children who still feels the same way you do. She got married to this guy before she graduated from high school. After the kids started coming she and her hubby drifted apart and now he has a job that requires him to be on the road alot. She has devoted her whole life to her family and now that the kids are gone and hubby also gone alot of the time, she is a basket case. She never developed any outside friends or interests other than her family and home.What I am trying to say is that you need to find yourself before you get back into a relationship. Try something new, talk to someone new, find a new hobby, get a pet, whatever you think you would like to try. I know that this sounds like the kind of advice you don't want to hear at this point but you need to find other things to fill the void. Besides when you are comfortable with yourself and who you are others find you a whole lot more attractive.

 

[_Paladin_]

Try being busy, people usually tell me that helps them avoid loneliness

and you don't think guys do the same thing?...If I admitted to this guy I'm interested in him more than a friend and I read him wrong he will completly avoid me

Actually I don't think that would happen. I might be wrong but I don't.

I think that you should just go on your way though, until he has the courage to step up. Make him be the man. That way you don't have to worry about it.

 

[JPPT1974]

I know that feeling, I just had to let go of my boyfriend of 10 months, and at first it was really hard. But if you let God fill that void, and put all of your focus on growing in him, you won't feel that way. You won't be bored because you'll be excited to read your bible. You won't be lonely because you can get involved in the body at church and getting to know people who build your character.

God can and will fill the void that is if you let Him.
And that you focus growing on Him.
Read the Bible and pray.

 

[Sappheire]

This guy has been talking about not coming back to school next quarter which would mean I would lose contact with him so yesterday I said something to him about I didn't want to lose contact with him and he just stands their looking at me After a few minutes I ask him if he is just goign to stand their and he doesn't do anything so I finally walk back to class This did upset me alittle...why can't he get the hint?

 

[sweetlambofgod]

ao we can be confused

 

[JPPT1974]

I hope that you can be able to get in touch with him.
Praying that you both will sit down and talk to each other.
Sorry this is happening my friend.

 

[MN John]

Regarding this guy: Ask him. Neither of you may be used to being open and honest with your feelings, but it is important to learn. If he totally avoids you, you haven't lost a good pal, you've lost a guy who can't deal with real life situations, and that's something you don't need in the first place.

In general: Concentrate more on being Miss Right than on finding Mr. Right. Be involved in ministry and serving God, pray for your future husband, wait on God, God will send you the right man when the timing is perfect.

Peace,
John

 

[Bill777]

Thiers some guys I talk to at school and I think one of them may like me more than a friend. I want him to just come out and tell me if he does. Why do guys have to be so complicated?

Just ask him. Nowhere says the bible that a woman can't ask a man how he feels about her.

 

[Leader of the Banned]

Thiers some guys I talk to at school and I think one of them may like me more than a friend. I want him to just come out and tell me if he does. Why do guys have to be so complicated?

Some dudes are shy. Some of us have been hurt and fear going through it again. It happens to both genders.

 

[Bill777]

Some dudes are shy. Some of us have been hurt and fear going through it again. It happens to both genders.

100% true. I've been close to women that I was totally interested in and I never told them. I'm sure every man has been in the same situation at some point or another. Asking a woman out is not as easy as many women think. Sometimes it is very easy, sometimes it is not.

 

[JPPT1974]

100% true. I've been close to women that I was totally interested in and I never told them. I'm sure every man has been in the same situation at some point or another. Asking a woman out is not as easy as many women think. Sometimes it is very easy, sometimes it is not.

Same here with men.
I have been close to men and were totally interested in them.
But never had the heart to tell them.
Nor got my point out loud and clear.