I don't know what to do anymore. I want so badly to be over this. I don't want it as part of my life anymore. But everything is just bringing up more issues. I'm realizing that I have a lot to fix with God, and i want to do that. It just feels like nothing i do is making this any better or easier. Any advice?
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Don't know what to do
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Dear Trying, I am so happy that you have a desire to stop. Please know that it just takes one day at a time. I use to feel like a hypocrite because I cut and was so depressed but SI is a sin just like any other. I still struggle with it but the main thing you have to do is keep praying, keep trying, and one day you will be free again. This just takes time... Until then, just remember that everything that you do and think depends on how fast you recover. If you don't see yourself healing then it will definitely hurt the healing process. You seem motivated but you just have to keep your eye on the prize. When Peter started walking on water, he started to sink because he looked at the obstacles around him. Same with us. Obstacles are those things that you see when you take your eye off of the prize: the prize is healing, the prize is closer fellowship with Christ, the prize is increase faith and strength. My favorite verse is "I can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth me." Phillippians 4:13. It is just so true. I say it everyday and it has just helped me so much. I would definitely recommend a therapist if you don't have one already but if you ever need to talk, I am here. I will be praying for you and welcome to Christian Forums! 
Best Wishes. Lily00
Best Wishes. Lily00
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trying2survive09 said:
i don't have lots of advice. just simple and encouraging. reading God's word will help your walk... and be encouraged! God builds us up while helping us learn and builds us up as we begin to change. so, it's all going to be full of blessings. 
(being in God's word helps us see and feel these things).
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Though you said you didn't know what to do, I can sense that you are an intelligent person and already know what is at the root of the issues, that is, things to fix with God. And you also have the desire to do the fixing.trying2survive09 said:
May I ask you to elaborate "nothing I do makes this better or easier?" How does it get in your way?
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IKTCA said:
I guess i mean that i feel like i'm trying very hard to get over this and not feel drawn to this course of action, but it doesn't seem to get any better. The desire to do this is still a huge part of me...a part I don't want. And it's not easy to avoid inflicting harm on myself...I guess that's what I meant
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Okay, this is going to sound bad, but a huge part of me doesn't completely feel ready to give the cutting up. Like it defines such a huge part of me (even though it's a bad way to be defined). I don't know what to do with the hole it will leave me with. And since I do it to mostly cope with my emotions, what will I do instead? I know that this was a lot of questions, but it's late and I was thinking and I just need to know if anyone has answers.
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the answers vary for us. we all have different needs. counselling is a great way to get help with learning about why you do this.
the spiritual answers are the same for us. we all learn from God at a different paces though. He, our loving Father offers you many blessings of help and healing.
what you need to do is to daily search God's word for answers. up in the top of the forum, we started a bible study to help anyone study, who wants to learn how to read the bible. you are welcome to come join hun.
the spiritual answers are the same for us. we all learn from God at a different paces though. He, our loving Father offers you many blessings of help and healing.
what you need to do is to daily search God's word for answers. up in the top of the forum, we started a bible study to help anyone study, who wants to learn how to read the bible. you are welcome to come join hun.
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Trying,
I am kinda in the same situation. When it seems like things are getting better something else happens. But just know that Jesus is always there for you whenever, where ever, He's there and He loves you so very deeply. I'll be praying for you. Godspeed!
I am kinda in the same situation. When it seems like things are getting better something else happens. But just know that Jesus is always there for you whenever, where ever, He's there and He loves you so very deeply. I'll be praying for you. Godspeed!
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The first thing I want you to tell yourself is that you are not defined by cutting. That is something you do- not who you are. You are much, much more than that.
I struggled with the same problem. If I quit injuring and I'm not "the cutter" anymore, then who am I?
I am Christ's beloved. As are you. And He wants better for us
I went to counseling because it was the safest way to learn to let out my emotions. It was a safe environment to do that before I could learn to do it when I was by myself. I also began to replace the cutting with coping skills that were healthy and good for me. Some I just made up on my own, and some my counselor sat down and helped me work up. Talking about my feelings with someone I trusted, reading, going on-line, doing anything to distract myself can work. For awhile when I was angry I would hit a pillow. Now when I feel over-whelmed and get an urge to self-injure, I stop, breathe, pray, and usually end up taking a long bath while listening to quiet, soothing music.
Those are just the some of things I've done to overcome this. I know you can do it. You are in my prayers.
xxmeh
I struggled with the same problem. If I quit injuring and I'm not "the cutter" anymore, then who am I?
I am Christ's beloved. As are you. And He wants better for us
I went to counseling because it was the safest way to learn to let out my emotions. It was a safe environment to do that before I could learn to do it when I was by myself. I also began to replace the cutting with coping skills that were healthy and good for me. Some I just made up on my own, and some my counselor sat down and helped me work up. Talking about my feelings with someone I trusted, reading, going on-line, doing anything to distract myself can work. For awhile when I was angry I would hit a pillow. Now when I feel over-whelmed and get an urge to self-injure, I stop, breathe, pray, and usually end up taking a long bath while listening to quiet, soothing music.
Those are just the some of things I've done to overcome this. I know you can do it. You are in my prayers.
xxmeh
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Sounds like youre at the same place as I am.
Fix things with God. He will be your strongest supporter in recovery. Ive recently recommitted my life to Him and am trying one last time for recovery. I have no idea if its going to work, and no idea if I want it to work ... but Im trying one more time. Care to try with me?
Im here if you need someone to talk with about anything really.
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