Doing the opposite

[memoriesbymichelle]

So this past year and beyond, I have been trying to work out my issues and make positive changes in my life.

It just dawned on me that an easy way (for me) to think about it is by thinking about doing the opposite.

For example, I like certain colors when I am choosing clothing and I rarely stray from that, so to be different the last blouse I bought was in colors I would not normally choose and I did it purposefully.

I felt kind of stuck in a rut and am realizing more and more how I can change little things that might affect big things and so on.

What about you? Do you have a strategy when trying to change your ways? How about doing the opposite?

 

[prov1810]

In terms of self-improvement, it seems like, if you're trying to be kind, the unkind part of you starts fighting for survival. Romans 7 and all that.

In terms of goals, like whether you should have something or someone, imagine not having them. Whatever you cannot get rid of is truly yours. You kinda discover yourself this way.

 

[TheyCallMeDavid]

So this past year and beyond, I have been trying to work out my issues and make positive changes in my life.

It just dawned on me that an easy way (for me) to think about it is by thinking about doing the opposite.

For example, I like certain colors when I am choosing clothing and I rarely stray from that, so to be different the last blouse I bought was in colors I would not normally choose and I did it purposefully.

I felt kind of stuck in a rut and am realizing more and more how I can change little things that might affect big things and so on.

What about you? Do you have a strategy when trying to change your ways? How about doing the opposite?

I heard a sermon once where the pastor said : ' Just do the next RIGHT thing !' And while that seems so basic, it is quite a valueable action when confronted with an issue that needs attention. It gets you thinking about what would be the wrong thing to do next and so you have a change of focus to doing the correct thing or way. And for the most part, Gods Word is that avenue we should take for the next right step and if it isn't addressed, then, direction from the H.S. will allow us that knowledge if we ask for it.

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

Successful weekend.

I had a lot of plans this weekend. Things I wanted/needed to get done and I am happy to report that I completed all of them.

I got my laundry done
vacuumed the house
did the dishes
took out the trash
got my son to clean their bathroom
worked on Sat 12-6
went grocery shopping after work (ugh!)
went to church
got my hair cut/trimmed
got a pedicure
got my truck washed
went to see God's not Dean (Friday night)
went to see Son of God (Sunday afternoon)

usually there are a couple of things I don't manage to accomplish but this week I was successful.

 

[dayhiker]

The change that I made a while ago now was I shortened my bangs. They used to come down close to me eye brows. Now they are pretty short. It seems to be working.

 

[iambren]

I need to change the habit of not taking vacations;haven't taken one in 5 years. Living in the middle of Ohio there's nothing too exciting here. Tropical places where I can swim/snorkel are so rejuvenating to me. It's nice to get the mind to be in a different groove.

The PAIN of it all is it would be sorta blah without a wife or at least a girlfriend and you can't just pluck those out of a tree. The last vacation I flew to my old home in Newport,RI which was ok by myself but muted without a partner.

 

[dayhiker]

iambren .. consider a singles cruise ... lots of fun, lots of people to meet ... I'm going on my 2nd one this Halloween!

 

[BarelyBreathing]

So this past year and beyond, I have been trying to work out my issues and make positive changes in my life.

It just dawned on me that an easy way (for me) to think about it is by thinking about doing the opposite.

For example, I like certain colors when I am choosing clothing and I rarely stray from that, so to be different the last blouse I bought was in colors I would not normally choose and I did it purposefully.

I felt kind of stuck in a rut and am realizing more and more how I can change little things that might affect big things and so on.

What about you? Do you have a strategy when trying to change your ways? How about doing the opposite?

Doing the opposite is a great idea and can definitely work! Actions can influence cognition just as cognition influences actions.

 

[TheyCallMeDavid]

iambren .. consider a singles cruise ... lots of fun, lots of people to meet ... I'm going on my 2nd one this Halloween!

Lots of lonely women there too who need 'helping' ?

 

[dayhiker]

I don't think there were many lonely woman there. But there was definitely a lot of time to talk with people and share a little about what Jesus means to me.

Lots of lonely women there too who need 'helping' ?

 

[blackribbon]

Lots of lonely women there too who need 'helping' ?

I think this is called "goading/provoking" and going "off topic". Both not allowed.

 

[com7fy8]

If things are blowing my mind in different directions, it can help to stop in prayer until I'm in a quiet spot, then see where God takes my attention.

I have a lady friend now, and I am seeing that I could not readily find another. And she is close enough so we can share in each other's real lives, not someplace far away, and not limited to evening dates.

 

[dayhiker]

com7fy8 ... Glad you have a lady friend. Nice

 

[dayhiker]

I noticed that. But I didn't let it provoke me.

I think this is called "goading/provoking" and going "off topic". Both not allowed.

 

[iambren]

The real purpose of this thread eludes me too, BUT one question:


On a singles cruise who shares your room??

 

[dayhiker]

Some singles get a room alone which of course doubles the cost. The singles cruise company will match you with someone if you each request to share a room ... as Tim and I did for my Oct. cruise. If you don't know anyone they will match you with someone of the same sex and about the same age.

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

So this past year and beyond, I have been trying to work out my issues and make positive changes in my life.

It just dawned on me that an easy way (for me) to think about it is by thinking about doing the opposite.

For example, I like certain colors when I am choosing clothing and I rarely stray from that, so to be different the last blouse I bought was in colors I would not normally choose and I did it purposefully.

I felt kind of stuck in a rut and am realizing more and more how I can change little things that might affect big things and so on.

What about you? Do you have a strategy when trying to change your ways? How about doing the opposite?

The real purpose of this thread eludes me too, BUT one question:


On a singles cruise who shares your room??

The real purpose of this thread was to find out if other people have better strategies when trying to change their ways. My way currently, is to think of doing the opposite to get me out of my comfort zone and effectively change my life.

 

[dayhiker]

I guess I look at what I want to do and then go do it.
Now it I find it intimidating to do, I figure out a way to do part of what I want to do.

Almost always doing something new is pushing an edge where I'll feel uncomfortable. But I know I'll not die from feeling uncomfortable, so I can so do it. I used to feel very uncomfortable going into a place I didn't know and talking to people. But I figured I could 1st go there and just be there observing and not talking to people. So I'd go back a few times and people would have noticed me. Then they were willing to talk with me as I wasn't a total stranger cause they had seen me there.

Now I can go about anywhere when I know I will not know anyone there. So I break down where I want to be into steps I can do and start working the process to get to where I want to be.

Sometimes that involves studying things, sometimes it involves meeting people. But its not doing it in one step but figuring out small steps.

 

[TheyCallMeDavid]

I think this is called "goading/provoking" and going "off topic". Both not allowed.

No. I think its called making reference to a reality that One has already publicly admitted to doing previously. It was a legitimate question I asked. That is allowed in CF.

 

[mjmcmillan]

No. I think its called making reference to a reality that One has already publicly admitted to doing previously. It was a legitimate question I asked. That is allowed in CF.

If the fellow you're trying to goad-- sorry, calling it as I see it-- chooses not to engage, would that bother you?

Walking away from a fight is often a sign of strength rather than a sign of weakness.