Does your ASD child have friends?

[aigiqinf]

thats probably why he's asking you to skip...he has no concept of Jesus.

Maybe ask him to go to church with you...is that a possiblity or will it make church uncomfortable for you?

You can lead a horse to water but you can't make him drink. If I brought him to church he would probably just bring a game and since my church is recorded I'd be bring him to church to be recorded for an hour playing games. I can't replace his parents.... when he gets a little older it might be easier.

 

[Snoofles]

when i drove the autistic children on the bus, there were two that interacted with each other very well. they were best friends, always played and talked together. some of the others were more withdrawn, enjoyed their own little worlds without people getting too close to them.

 

[aigiqinf]

I met an autistic person at a card game I play. He stuttered and couldn't remember what he already said. From what I've heard high functioning pretty much just means you're not trying to bite off your tonge because it feels good.

 

[kayd1966]

I met an autistic person at a card game I play. He stuttered and couldn't remember what he already said. From what I've heard high functioning pretty much just means you're not trying to bite off your tonge because it feels good.

Hi again...not sure what you mean by this comment, can you explain.

Back to the previos post, I believe it is probably going to be uncomfortable for you if you take him to church. After his mother gets married, will they still be living in the same house or moving away?

It might be easier to set up a time that you can spend with him (if you want to) so that he knows when to expect you and has something to look forward to.

As you pointed out, you are not his parents and this is actually something his mother should be intervening on if you are feeling uncomfortable. I hope his school will be provding him with more social interaction so he can learn how to interact appropriately.

Take care & God Bless...

 

[Lahmi]

From what I've heard high functioning pretty much just means you're not trying to bite off your tonge because it feels good.

Then what you have heard is patently incorrect and you really should consider the folks that are going to be reading this forum before posting such a comment.

Bro Mark

 

[Lahmi]

As being one who IS Autistic, I can say it is difficult keeping and making friends. Especially when they don't like the same things you do. Personal one-on-one relationships are very difficult for me. That's why I stick to forums and such....

understood.. it is not impossible though.

and yes, my children have friends.. some good ones, some eesshh.. weeeelll.. hmm..

anyway.. a common interest makes it much easier.

Bro Mark

 

[CJD]

My son has some friends, but he does have difficulty maintaining friendships. There are many people (adults and kids alike) who do not understand his way of thinking and that there is a reason for it. I respect those who are willing to learn about and respect people like my son. He doesn't have age appropriate social skills, but he does try to make and keep friends.

I feel so bad for him when he wants to spend the night somewhere like he sees his older sister does on occasion, but he doesn't understand that he has to be invited to do so or gain permission to spend the night. I feel so bad for him at times.

 

[CJD]

I met an autistic person at a card game I play. He stuttered and couldn't remember what he already said. From what I've heard high functioning pretty much just means you're not trying to bite off your tonge because it feels good.

To learn more about autism check out the following:

http://www.autism-society.org/site/PageServer

In the red bar, click on About Autism

 

[lostchildhood]

I`m just really couriuos, does your child with Autism or Aspergers, have any friends? And If so how did they make them? Do you think it would be easier for them to do so in a special ed. class room or a reg. ed. class room? This is really something were having problems with. If anyone has advice, would really like to here from you! Thank you.~God bless

i do not have any kids, but i studed social work at rhode island college, because i went into a coma for 3.5 months and diead more then once. i will go back after my body is strong enough, and my sprirt is too, Just before i got sick, i was two days away form getting my brown belt in karate and in the fall i would of been a jr at the college. but faith dealth me a differnt hand, and i was on life support and only one family came to see me i was told, but anyway i had to learn how to walk talk, stand or over again. It took 3 years but I am now back at my karate school, i have to start at a white belt again because it has been awhile. my i will test for my yellow next week. but karate would be a good thing for your child providing you find the right school. my school is great my teacher knows what i can do and can not at this time. we have a mom who takes classes with her daughter who has down sydome. she loves it, she is around other kids and adults and nobody puts anybody down. We have seveal kids with ADS, and the classes hellllp them control their ilness . your child needs to be around children like herself and children who are differnt just a thougt hope i hellp lostchildhood

 

[GoddessGirl]

I met an autistic person at a card game I play. He stuttered and couldn't remember what he already said. From what I've heard high functioning pretty much just means you're not trying to bite off your tonge because it feels good.

Please read up on High-Functioning Autism. It's quite obvious that you don't know a single thing about it.

And to the OP, no, I don't currently have any friends. I'm working on changing that, though, but it's a very, very slow process. The last close friend I had was in the 8th grade, which was five years ago. Ever since then, I haven't had any close friends since I don't know how to make friends on my own, without having them just seek me out (which is what the only two close friends that I've ever had did).

 

[CJD]

Thank you all so much for your replies! Alex is a 4th grader, who at a social level is more around the kindergarden age. It`s really hard right now becouse he has realized that the other kids are not laughing with him, thier laughing at him, and this just makes me cry, becouse all he wants is to have a friend (like his step brother does). He is just so sweet! He get`s kinda loud and silly and that makes him stand out from the other kids as being "diff.", He was pushed twice this week and twice some boys where making fun of the way he talks.(and these are just the ones he told me about!)~GOD bless

My son also wants to have friends and he wants to spend the night at a friends house, only he doesn't understand that he has to be invited and that doesn't happen. Only his grandma has invited him to spend the night and it creates problems when his sister is invited to stay at a friends house. He isn't able to comprehend and then I feel so bad for him.

 

[aigiqinf]

Hi again...not sure what you mean by this comment, can you explain.

Back to the previos post, I believe it is probably going to be uncomfortable for you if you take him to church. After his mother gets married, will they still be living in the same house or moving away?

It might be easier to set up a time that you can spend with him (if you want to) so that he knows when to expect you and has something to look forward to.

As you pointed out, you are not his parents and this is actually something his mother should be intervening on if you are feeling uncomfortable. I hope his school will be provding him with more social interaction so he can learn how to interact appropriately.

Take care & God Bless...

The comment was how this person's mom discribed a "high functioning" person with autism. I assume she ment you have to have really, really serious problems (not just social) to be "low functioning." I'm certain he would say no if I asked him to a church function, I might ask him when he's a bit older. For now I'll just ask him if he needs help in school.

 

[aigiqinf]

I don't think I could parent someone with autism, or someone without it for that matter. All the more power to you.

 

[faithgoeson]

Each child who has autism/asperger's is different. Some make friends, some do not. It's the same with children who do not have these disabilities. The best thing you can do is teach your child what is and isn't socially acceptable and model to them how to be a good friend. I did this with my daughter at a very young age. At 9 now, she has many good friends. She still avoids people who do things that bother her senses, but she can converse with just about anyone better than my other children even. As far as the abuse i've read about in the schools, I wouldn't personally allow any of my children to abused by someone. If this is happening to your child, I would pray you could find a way to either homeschool or find another, safer school. These kids have it so hard as it is. They don't need abuse piled on top of all the other problems they have to face every day. They have a right to live abuse-free just like any other person in America.

 

[willmrcd1]

I must tell you that this is the hardest thing for my son and for my husband and I. My son is 13 years old and I would say he is functioning on a 10 year old level, but at time he is way above adult level. It's so difficult for him to make friends, because of his behaviors that scare many kids. When he gets excited he may ring his hands together or he gets too close to people and doesn't understand space. His conversations at times are too intellectual for the ordinary child to understand and because he doesn't like sports most boys don't want to be around him. He loves to read and documentaries. Many children his age find this very boring and so they don't bother with him. He is very lonely and this always breaks our hearts. We don't have friends who have children his age. They are either too old or very young. I tried putting him in boys scouts which was great for a while, but he became bored and isolated himself.

Now he belongs to this weekend program with other special needs children. I don't know if he is making friends, but he seems to be happier. I think this is a great start, because he is placed with others who understand him and have something in common with him. I think that's what is all about. We need to teach others acceptance.

 

[gal4God]

I must tell you that this is the hardest thing for my son and for my husband and I. My son is 13 years old and I would say he is functioning on a 10 year old level, but at time he is way above adult level. It's so difficult for him to make friends, because of his behaviors that scare many kids. When he gets excited he may ring his hands together or he gets too close to people and doesn't understand space. His conversations at times are too intellectual for the ordinary child to understand and because he doesn't like sports most boys don't want to be around him. He loves to read and documentaries. Many children his age find this very boring and so they don't bother with him. He is very lonely and this always breaks our hearts. We don't have friends who have children his age. They are either too old or very young. I tried putting him in boys scouts which was great for a while, but he became bored and isolated himself.

Now he belongs to this weekend program with other special needs children. I don't know if he is making friends, but he seems to be happier. I think this is a great start, because he is placed with others who understand him and have something in common with him. I think that's what is all about. We need to teach others acceptance.

do u think it would help him if he joined abook club ir something like that?

 

[willmrcd1]

do u think it would help him if he joined abook club ir something like that?

Thank you I never thought of that. I'm going to look into it. I'm not sure if they offer that except in a local library. I'm definitely going to find out.

Thanks again.

 

[gal4God]

thats kk.

 

[QuiteContrary]

I`m just really couriuos, does your child with Autism or Aspergers, have any friends? And If so how did they make them? Do you think it would be easier for them to do so in a special ed. class room or a reg. ed. class room? This is really something were having problems with. If anyone has advice, would really like to here from you! Thank you.~God bless

My son is now 27 and recently married ! During evaluations etc. he would always state that he had friends and of course that is what went into report. Usually we were interviewed seperatly. At Dept. of Rehab. I was present... she asked James does he have friends..he said yes. She asked what do you do when you get together ... he said play basketball, football and stuff. Knowing we had moved 2 years ago and these "friends" were kind of in the past... I interrupt to clarify things asking when was the last time you saw them. It had been 2 years !

 

[Moose123]

I have 1 friend right now and I've always had trouble making friends. The hardest time I had making friends was when I was in second grade and I had a very very bad temper. When a kid would so much as look at me in a way I didn't like I would beat him up.