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Does virginity matter?
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immersedingrace
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yes it matters. It matters because it is what I believe the Bible tells us is important.
It matters/ed to my husband as well for the same reason.
It matters/ed to my husband as well for the same reason.
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It should as that is what the Bible talks about. People make all kinds of excuses to have their own way, but it is very clear.
That being said, if I were to be with someone who made mistakes in their past but has become a Christian since then or has gotten right with God AND I feel led in that way then it wouldn't be a factor as long as they have repented and are right with God.
People tend to leave God out of the 'dating' question. God should be the main factor in the whole thing. God should be the one who leads. If it is will, who, when and what circumstances are up to Him.
That being said, if I were to be with someone who made mistakes in their past but has become a Christian since then or has gotten right with God AND I feel led in that way then it wouldn't be a factor as long as they have repented and are right with God.
People tend to leave God out of the 'dating' question. God should be the main factor in the whole thing. God should be the one who leads. If it is will, who, when and what circumstances are up to Him.
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No, it wouldn't matter any more than it would to know that my husband had told a lie before he married me.
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If you are asking, does it matter if the person your marrying was still a virgin, then no.
If you asking, does it matter if people in general stick to abstinence, then yes it does matter, the biggest reason being God commanded us to obstain from sex outside of marriage.
If you asking, does it matter if people in general stick to abstinence, then yes it does matter, the biggest reason being God commanded us to obstain from sex outside of marriage.
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It is of no consequence to me. What would bother me is if he thinks of the whole of his dating past as one big mistake that he regrets. Some people get together, have sex, part ways for one reason or another, and aren't left scarred for life. That's the kind of sanity I like in a guy.
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dusky_tresses
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As a Christian, it is important. My husband wasn't a virgin but made it clear that it was a mistake and wishes he had waited. That's enough for me though.
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waving_palm_branches
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I wasn't physically a virgin when I got married, something I regret deeply, but I took on a secondary virginity type attitude and was pure of heart, that physical peice of skin may have been lacking, but what mattered the most, which was the regaining of my spritual purity was there. My husband wasn't a virgin either and he wasn't bothered by my past, he was bothered though by how I had been treated in the past. Christ made it clear, it's what comes out of a person's heart that truly defiles them. When you regain that purity of heart physically a virgin or not, you are pure in the Lord's eyes and should be pure in everyone else's as well.
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No. It never did for me.
Why not? Simple: Past is past. It has no impact on my present other than in how it formed each of us as people. I love my husband for who he is, and he for who I am, who we are now. If we were not virgins (and we were not), that is simply a part of the past that brought us to this moment. It is irrelevant except for the fact that at one point in history it existed. However, it holds no bearing on how we exist now, and how we will live our lives into the future.
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Why not? Simple: Past is past. It has no impact on my present other than in how it formed each of us as people. I love my husband for who he is, and he for who I am, who we are now. If we were not virgins (and we were not), that is simply a part of the past that brought us to this moment. It is irrelevant except for the fact that at one point in history it existed. However, it holds no bearing on how we exist now, and how we will live our lives into the future.
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Yes, it matter to me because I love God and respect His law.
However, my husband was not a virgin when I met him, nor was he a Christian.
However, he was recently saved and has accepted Christ as his Saviour and he repented for his sin, and knows that it was wrong.
And he also now believes that people should not have sex before they are married.
However, my husband was not a virgin when I met him, nor was he a Christian.
However, he was recently saved and has accepted Christ as his Saviour and he repented for his sin, and knows that it was wrong.
And he also now believes that people should not have sex before they are married.
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dusky_tresses
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I do-- but much of it can depend on interpretation, and the rest of it we can take for what it is. I don't want to get into a debate here, but I would say that the majority of Christians believe in following waiting until you are married to have sex because of the underlying spiritual ramifications the act has. When two people have sex, they literally become "one", and sharing this with someone is a huge deal (at least IMO, should be a huge deal). A lot of what the Bible has to say deals with not taking serious things lightly. At least, that's what I get out of it. Why would it be in the Bible if it were false??
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yes and no - yes if given away by choice, no if not.
If given away by choice, absolutely! It can effect your sexual life with your spouse later on.
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