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Does Scripture Teach Delayed "gratification" ?

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amorosi

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What has led to this posting/ discussion saints is a recent message that i sat through on a sunday morning service.

The senior pastor ( chief pastor ) of the flock was teaching that it is quite okay to have things in life, goods, material possessions, riches, substance galore etc etc

On the condition we abstain from them for a season and delay from - what he refered to as the "instant gratification " mentality in Society.

The basis for this was he wanted us to use wisdom in our.... " purchase buying "

In other words ( IOW ) he was instructing the flock that if they wait 12 months or 2 years before buying that plasma T.V OR that NEW CAR - then that product will by virtue of time be thousands of dollars cheaper....and this may save you from using those wretched "in-store credit cards" as well.

Now this sounds like he's giving good sound practical advice to the flock...does it not ?? i mean it sounds plausible to the hearer to listen too. And furthermore im sure the majority of people went away thinking that morning - yeah what great advice from our pastor, and what great wisdom, if i only just delay ...my lust... for that plasma or mercedes benz, then i will ultimately save thousands on the original sale price.

yes I think i will heed his advice and practise....this " delayed gratification " ( teaching )

In other words i can have what i want ( no limits ) i can gratify my desire for this material good and that material good....but if im a smart buyer - i will refrain from my urges for a season and wait till the prices dwindle- and then i can rush out and get me the latest plasma, the latest Lexus, the latest digital cameras etc

So basically this pastor of a very large denomination in the earth toDAY WAS not saying that we couldn't have everything that our hearts "desire" - but just be a smart buyer and hold off and delay your lust for instant gratification, and then ultimately you will save lots and lots on the bux, and after all if stops you from using those in-store credit-cards, then do i not... come bringing good sound advice to the flock today ....well i think...i do :scratch:

Good advice ?? plausible arguments ?? good speech ??

DID not Paul however teach the Corinthians that he knew both how to abound and to be abased ??

And no matter what state i find myself in - that ive learnt how to be content ??

In other words if im in bounty then i rejoice in the abundance i have ( in the Lord ) but conversely if im in want and have needs, then i rejoice in this state also.

Godliness with contentment is great gain !! :thumbsup:

Or does your " bible" not have that passage in it ??

Did not BALAAM accept the " rewards" of divination
which in the end totally corrupted him ?? - and even to the point he worked against God's people in attempting to curse them through prayers and words ??

Did not the madness of this one prophet "sell out" over filthy lucre, and indeed he did sell out friends ....so much so that - the angel of the Lord told him that his way was ....perverse before him.

And stood before him ( Balaam ) with an up-raised "sword" to block his going forth....to and with.... the princes of Balak.

Balaam's life ended in tragedy friends and we are told by the apostle Peter that his downfall was " he loved the wages of unrighteousness" further more Jude enlightens us that Balaam ran greedily after reward.

Have you ever heard the lame excuse some proport today and it goes something like this and i quote " i want to be rich - so i can be a blessing to others along the way " in other words the " ends " justifies the means ( of how i will have achieved it ) others call this mind-set " situation ethics " meaning ( the ends always justifies the... means )

Paul states in Romans chapter sixteen regarding deceivers that " with good words/ speeches, and convincing arguments ( plausibilty ) they the deceivers would succeed in ...exploiting the hearts of the gullible.

At first glance and on the surface this senior pastor's advice seems just great, and wonderful ...you can have what you want in life but just delay having them for now - delay your lusts and delay your gratification needs just for the moment, and the reward for you will be "multiplied savings on interest and multiplied savings on eventual store mark-downs"

hmmmm sounds even plausible ....i think :confused: ( i think not )

The book of Colossians states this emphatically to all out there who are promoting that abundance is to be satisfied with-out restraint " no coveteous person has any inheritance or place....in the kingdom of God " ( period - full stop )

Just getting back to this argument "that i wanna be rich and wealthy so i can be a conduit blessing to all others that come my way who have needs and are in want"

If that is such a burning desire in you - to have access to lots of funds and money, in order for you to bless the less fortunate in our society - then why do you have to be " rich " yourself in order... to accomplish such feats ??

Is that your justification for wealth ?? let me become affluent Lord so i can get to all those poor ones around me and give till it's over-flowing, pressed down, shaking together - if your motive for having your own wealth is sincere ( meaning you really want it so you can share it around ) then i propose to you that you do not have to become rich in order to do this charity to people.

What i mean is this - if your motive was pure and not tarnished with spoiling yourself in riches along the way to blessing others - as you claim for justification to have wealth ... then i propose to you this " why not start up a christian non-profit charity for the ...less fortunate in the community" ?? and for those poor ones, and those defrauded and robbed of precious goods !! why do you have to get rich yourself ...in order to help others ?? :blush: this can all be achieved still ...by starting a non-profit christian charity for the poor - could it not ?? so why then this justification for God to bless you with wealth - so in order for the less- fortunate around you can be helped or be helped ??

If your motives are sincere in wanting to help the poor in the community....there is no need for any of us to "pray" God please make me filthy rich....so i can help and deliver the poor around me.

Brethren be not deceived by these preachers with there good words and plausible arguments !! Peter said they would sneek in...damnable heresies, that would go undetected by casual observers.

And may i conclude with the words of James ....the reason you have not, is becuase you ask amiss....that you may consume it upon your own lusts.

Therefore your requests are denied and your prayers will not rise above the ceiling....you have not becuase you desire to gratify your requests...upon your own filthy lusts. You have not - because you practise "gratification" from a polluted heart.
 

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Personally, I'm content without a Plasma TV or a Mercedes Benz, or any other big-ticket item you could list (I notice you left out small ticket items) but that doesn't mean they wouldn't be nice to have.

Does that mean I'm "lusting" after these things?

Hardly.

IMO, we get into terribly shaky territory when we think we can judge the motives of others.
 
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Kind of sounds like this guy on TV one night who was preaching on "How to start a Buisness". Seriously though. After the end of his show, Rod Parsley was promoting this guys video series on "How to start a buisness".

Is this really the kind of stuff that needs to be taught from a pulpit?

There is certainly nothing wrong with having plasma TV's and nice cars. If you have put yourself in a posistion to be able to afford such things than by all means, go for it. But always remeber what comes first. God.

That was good advise coming from your pastor. But that kind of stuff knowledge is pretty much common today. Wait a little while. It will come down in price. As everything does.

I don't know... To me, that kind of stuff IMO, should not be preached from the pulpit.
 
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In a way, I agree with his "impulse buying" statement. But, I think if we resist it, we end up not buying it at all.
We have 2 vehicles, one is a 94, one a 95. Would I like a newer one? Of course. Do I need a newer one? No. Because above all, we are to be good stewards with what God has given us, and it is a lesson I am ever learning.
 
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probinson said:
Personally, I'm content without a Plasma TV or a Mercedes Benz, or any other big-ticket item you could list (I notice you left out small ticket items) but that doesn't mean they wouldn't be nice to have.

Does that mean I'm "lusting" after these things?

Hardly.

IMO, we get into terribly shaky territory when we think we can judge the motives of others.
Seriously have you never read...we do judge those...that are "with-in" that is the church !! we have no place to judge them that that are with-out ( that is the ungodly ) as God judgeth them, but as for making righteous evaluations and being scripturally discriminating....it is the rather commended in the scriptures as something lauded !! or how else can we protect ourself/ yourself from deception ??

If none of us uses discernment or grows our senses that we are able to detect good from evil ?? as exhorted in hebrews chapter five ??

Peter was rebuked from Jesus - was he not

As Peter had allowed a lying spirit, a deceiving spirit to infiltrate his mind...to the which Jesus replied to Peter as he turned him about and motioned to his other disciples to listen to what he was about to say " get thee behind me satan - for thou savourest ( carest ) not the things that be of God....but of men "

Satan does not like to be exposed and so he hides behind mis-quoted replies like " judge not - that you be not judged "

we can judge all of the following ( legitimatly )
1. doctrine ( berean discernment - book of acts )
2. ministries ( rev 2:2 )
3. sin in the camp ( 1 cor 5 )
4. the operation of gifts ( 1 cor 12-14 ) ( matt 24:24 )
5. manifestations ( 1 john 4 ) ( 1 thess 5 )
6. right and wrong offences commited against others that have need of reconciliation or restitution ( matt 18 and 1 cor 6

WE just need to make sure we judge righteously and judiciously according to the pattern of scripture and to the gospel... Paul brought and gave to us !! amen
 
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amorosi said:
Seriously have you never read...we do judge those...that are "with-in" that is the church !! we have no place to judge them that that are with-out ( that is the ungodly ) as God judgeth them, but as for making righteous evaluations and being scripturally discriminating....it is the rather commended in the scriptures as something lauded !! or how else can we protect ourself/ yourself from deception ??

If none of us uses discernment or grows our senses that we are able to detect good from evil ?? as exhorted in hebrews chapter five ??

Peter was rebuked from Jesus - was he not

As Peter had allowed a lying spirit, a deceiving spirit to infiltrate his mind...to the which Jesus replied to Peter as he turned him about and motioned to his other disciples to listen to what he was about to say " get thee behind me satan - for thou savourest ( carest ) not the things that be of God....but of men "

Satan does not like to be exposed and so he hides behind mis-quoted replies like " judge not - that you be not judged "

we can judge all of the following ( legitimatly )
1. doctrine ( berean discernment - book of acts )
2. ministries ( rev 2:2 )
3. sin in the camp ( 1 cor 5 )
4. the operation of gifts ( 1 cor 12-14 ) ( matt 24:24 )
5. manifestations ( 1 john 4 ) ( 1 thess 5 )
6. right and wrong offences commited against others that have need of reconciliation or restitution ( matt 18 and 1 cor 6

WE just need to make sure we judge righteously and judiciously according to the pattern of scripture and to the gospel... Paul brought and gave to us !! amen
I would like to have a plasma tv..so....a week ago I went and bought one..nothing wrong with the tv I had, except I like to see the big picture. How did it all work out? Great, my neighbors tv went out, and she is raising 3 children and her husband was laid off work. I gave them my good working tv..but never the less I wanted a big new tv. Was I lusting after things, or was it more a matter of God working all things for the good?
 
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The body of Christ is much more in jeopardy of falling short of the promises of God, than they are in jeopardy of causing a run on the Bank Of Heaven.

We're going to get up there, and the Lord's going to let us know he had so much more for us to receive, but that we didn't press in to receive His promises.

There is a much richer and fuller life for all of us to live!

Everyone else can let it be unto them according to "what people on forums think is all I should have"! Lord, be it unto me according to your Word!

God supplies my need according to his riches in glory by Christ Jesus, not according to what people on forums think is okay for a Christian to have!

Lord, be it unto me according to your WORD! And don't pray for God to "humble" me by breaking me down, for as you sow unto me, you will receive, pressed down, shaken together, and running over! :D
 
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Trish1947 said:
I would like to have a plasma tv..so....a week ago I went and bought one..nothing wrong with the tv I had, except I like to see the big picture. How did it all work out? Great, my neighbors tv went out, and she is raising 3 children and her husband was laid off work. I gave them my good working tv..but never the less I wanted a big new tv. Was I lusting after things, or was it more a matter of God working all things for the good?

If you had the money, and weren't neglecting paying bills, you had every right to buy what you wanted. God used that situation to bless someone else, nothing wrong with that.
 
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others call this mind-set " situation ethics " meaning ( the ends always justifies the... means )
Revkidd said:
Is this really the kind of stuff that needs to be taught from a pulpit?
This is my inital reaction, that he's preaching more out of frustration with his counseling or personal experiences. I get an internal squirm that shaping the church's lifestyle can get into some shady areas. But I don't see that as unscriptural at all.

Pr 30:8
Keep deception and lies far from me, Give me neither poverty nor riches; Feed me with the food that is my portion.

Ec 7:12-19
For wisdom is protection just as money of is protection, but the advantage of knowledge is that wisdom preserves the lives of its possessors....Wisdom strengthens a wise man more than ten rulers who are in a city.

Ec 5:10
He who loves money will not be satisfied with money, nor he who loves abundance with its income. This too is vanity.

Psalm 90:12-17
So teach us to number our days, that we may present to You a heart of wisdom....confirm the work of our hands.

Pr 2:6
For the Lord gives wisdom; From His mouth come knowledge and understanding.

Pr 29:15
The rod and reproof give wisdom, But a child who gets his own way brings shame to his mother.

Pr. 13
A wise son accepts his father's discipline, but a scoffer does not listen to rebuke.

From the fruit of a man's mouth he enjoys good, but the desire of the treacherous is violence.

The soul of the sluggard craves and gets nothing, but the soul of the diligent is made fat.

There is one who pretends to be rich, but has nothing; another pretends to be poor, but has great wealth.

Wealth obtained by fraud dwindles, but the one who gathers by labor increases it.

Good understanding produces favor, but the way of the treacherous is hard.

Poverty and shame will come to him who neglects discipline, but he who regards reproof will be honored.

A good man leaves an inheritance to his children's children.


It's not his call to tell people how to spend. But I would guess he's just frustrated that some of his parishioners complain of debt, while making unwise choices.

By the way, I've noticed that when I shop, if I put something in the cart I'm not sure about, then by the time I'm done shopping, I've decieded I don't need it. If I leave the store without it, I forget I ever "needed" it.

Sometimes grasping for me is just declaring that I want it... and that's enough for me.


 
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