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[stn0404]

I wonder if religion provides emotional stability to someone. My emotions have been very unstable, blowing cold and hot frequently.

At my age i have very stable emotions, but i am not having any. Lots of fear, bad self esteem etc... i am 36 btw. Very old already i wonder why this thing still happens.

I don't seem to be very emotionally matured either. There's a big child living inside of me, i get excited easily.

I wonder if religion helps with this.

I have been going to church recently, hoping god can help me with this.

Any suggestion?

 

[manitouscott]

Welcome to Christian forums!!!

Any suggestion?

1-Pray to God that He give you the wisdom you need to understand His message and invite Him into your life.
James 1:5 But if any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all generously and without reproach, and it will be given to him.


2- Do you have a bible? If so, start reading the gospel of John to learn about and meet our Lord Jesus Christ. It seems that you are seeking Him and He will honor that.
Matthew 7:7-8 Ask, and it will be given to you; seek, and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you. For everyone who asks receives, and he who seeks finds, and to him who knocks it will be opened.


3- Keep going to church, when the message really hits home or you have questions, ask the pastor after the service or write them down and email him.

I am saying prayer for you!

PS My granny is 89 years and she still doesn't consider herself to be old yet, or too mature to laugh out loud til she cries. God bless her.

 

[Peripatetic]

Anxiety isn't really about age. Many of us struggle with anxiety even more as we hit middle age. Responsibilities increase, even though we still feel young in our minds, just as you said.

One aspect of Christianity that can really help with this problem is to focus on loving and serving others. The more I turn my attention in that direction, the more "stable" my mindset seems to be. It doesn't mean that I'm always happy, but there is fulfillment.

 

[miss-a]

I definitely believe that having a relationship with God through Jesus helps to calm and stabilize us. It doesn't mean there will be no upsets, but as we grow in relationship with Him and learn and trust more and more that He is in control, loves us deeply and is for us, and truly has many good things planned, it helps us get through the hard things more confidently.

 

[Pal Handy]

I wonder if religion provides emotional stability to someone. My emotions have been very unstable, blowing cold and hot frequently.

At my age i have very stable emotions, but i am not having any. Lots of fear, bad self esteem etc... i am 36 btw. Very old already i wonder why this thing still happens.

I don't seem to be very emotionally matured either. There's a big child living inside of me, i get excited easily.

I wonder if religion helps with this.

I have been going to church recently, hoping god can help me with this.

Any suggestion?

Jesus is the healer and so if there is anyone who can help
you when doctors, therapy, medicine and man's wisdom fails you,
Jesus can help you.

I have seen many healed of their afflictions and I have been delivered
out of many afflictions also.

Psalm 34:19
Many are the afflictions of the righteous, But the Lord delivers him out of them all.

Religion can't help you but a relationship with God in flesh, Jesus Christ,
can bring forgiveness, healing, a sound mind and eternal life to those who
are willing to put their faith, trust, life and hope in God with man, Jesus Christ.

Jesus said it best....

Matthew 11:28
“Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened,
and I will give you rest.

www.youtube.com/watch?v=xAhM2fCxq7w

 

[parsley]

You might also want to do some reading on different ailments related to emotions. People are born with certain tendencies, some of which can't be altered by determination.

To your question, yes definitely. My first reaction was to say that God does the healing not religion, but actually those are two distinct sources of stability. Yes, people do find stability in ritual... and yes, God has the power to change you. God promises to heal, restore, bring peace and patience. Look at the fruits of the Spirit -- they are not fruits of our own strivings, but of His Presence being in our lives.

For me personally, yes God does help with an even keel. Sometimes it's rationale in a situation, showing me higher values. Sometimes it's reminding me to move forward and forget unforgiveness behind me. Sometimes it's God's pure healing.

 

[asiyreh]

I don't know about religion. I suppose maybe it does to some extent.

However what is it that people who have emotional problems most often say?
They feel empty, like there's something missing. That something missingness, is the void that a personal relationship with Christ fills.

“There is a God shaped vacuum in the heart of every man which cannot be filled by any created thing, but only by God, the Creator, made known through Jesus.”
― Blaise Pascal, Pensees

Pascal is best known to Christians because of the Pascalian wager -

Pascal's Wager - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

Walking with Christ does tend to make one more sober. Outsiders can have a tendency to see this as boring. Those stuck up Christians. However this soberness doesn't come by being sanctimonious. Or at least it shouldn't, I find it more because of the wisdom having a knowledge of Christ provides.

It makes one a little mmmm sad is not the right word exactly. It's just because you know what having a relationship with Jesus can bring and you wish everyone would have it. There's of course the enormous sense of fulfillment that you have finally answered the question that drives all questions.

Humans have an inert need for God, that perfect relationship.

Relationship not religion is what you need.

 

[insurchoftruth]

Emotions change like the weather, all the time. Obviously, the positive emotions like joy, peace, and others, are good, and healthy. But, emotions like anger, fear, and other negative emotions are leading to sin, and are unhealthy for our bodies, and for our relationships. The Bible says that our human anger is sin, or leads to sin. It is sin, because comes from the sinful nature in us, and is the fruit of the sinful nature.

But if we are born again from the Holy Spirit, He will helps us to control our negative emotions in a such way, that they will not control us. Yes, it is difficult at some times for us to control our negative emotions like anger, fear, and others, but the Holy Spirit can helps us do that. He is called the Comforter in some English translations of the Bible. Also Jesus said that he gives us his peace and joy. Galathians chapter 5.

 

[paul1149]

Thomas Jefferson said that Jesus Christ purifies the waters at the fountainhead. If there is any underlying reason for emotional problems, the Holy Spirit will lead us to them for healing.

As has been stated, it comes through relationship with the Lord Jesus, by virtue of His precious Blood shed on your behalf. By it's merits, we have the right to become sons of God, and heirs of all things. Healing is part of that package. Religion, in the sense of ritual and do's and don't's, can provide structure. While that is not necessarily a bad thing, it can only go so far, and can't provide true healing.

Spiritual healing may not come instantly. Many times we are led back through our emotional landscape in order to find and deal with the root. During those times we may experience the emotions all over again. Indeed, sometimes the problem gets worse before it gets better. But Christians are called to live in the spirit by faith. That means that whatever our soul goes through, our spirit remains constant, in communion with the Lord, who is our eternal source of love and spring of life. This is what gives us the patience and perseverance necessary for obtaining the promises God has made to us.

People with all kinds of ailments came to Jesus for healing. They intuitively sensed the power within Him, and they saw the mighty works He had done. Relationship with Him is still the source of healing and life.

 

[Dunban]

Religion can provide a sense of purpose and meaning to your life. For some, it may help with their self esteem, but I'd say you're better off building up your skills, abilities and so forth rather than trying to get your identity from a church or religion. As for fears, no, you should probably see a therapist for that. Religion can introduce new fears, and many times, it does.

I don't think religion will make you feel less emotionally unstable. I know that the more religious I was, the more of an emotional rollercoaster I was on. Now, I'm more rational and less guided by swaying emotions. If you have deep emotional problems, most churches will only make that problem worse, especially if they're of the brimstone and hell fire style churches that are so popular in the Bible Belt.

Godspeed.

 

[Tigger45]

Hey my friend many of us experience anxiety and other physical and emotional trials. Weather my life is in a good place or bad I will worship the Lord. There is a thing called the manifold grace of God where He can work on your problems from different points. As far as religion goes part of the definition of religion is discipline. I know structure can help many people. I think that's one of the benefits to AA. The military can also help clean up some peoples lives. So yes religion can help on a tangible level. But there is so much more that God has to offer through His manifold grace. Typically God's grace is instituted through faith in Him. So if you go to a good church for structure and instruction and get around people with that mind set it will help in the healing of your emotions. But if you receive Jesus as your atoning Savior and let the Holy Spirit be your school teacher and renew your mind to the mind to Christ then you will start seeing an even deeper level of healing. Praying for your healing.

 

[thesunisout]

I wonder if religion provides emotional stability to someone. My emotions have been very unstable, blowing cold and hot frequently.

At my age i have very stable emotions, but i am not having any. Lots of fear, bad self esteem etc... i am 36 btw. Very old already i wonder why this thing still happens.

I don't seem to be very emotionally matured either. There's a big child living inside of me, i get excited easily.

I wonder if religion helps with this.

I have been going to church recently, hoping god can help me with this.

Any suggestion?

Hello,

When you're living apart from God you won't have any emotional stability because situations change. The reason you can have emotional stability with God is because He never changes. God will always love you no matter where you are at. He will never fail you and you can trust Him with your whole heart. He will meet you where you're at and He will give you peace and rest.

What you need is not religion but a personal relationship with Jesus Christ. There is a huge difference between the two. A religion is a set of rituals one tries to find comfort in. A person with a religion thinks that if they just do A B and C then they have pleased God and they are okay with God. The bible tells us that this is not the truth. No matter how much you go to church, read the bible, do good works or pray, it won't make you right with God. This is what Jesus tells us:

John 3:3 Jesus answered him, "Truly, truly, I say to you, unless one is born again he cannot see the kingdom of God."

There is nothing you can do on your own to find peace or get into Heaven. You need to be born again. What does that mean? It means that when you surrender your life to Christ as Lord and Savior, He will send the Holy Spirit to live inside of you and make you a new person.

John 3:6 That which is born of the flesh is flesh, and that which is born of the Spirit is spirit.

Just as you were born once in the flesh through your parents, God will cause you to be born again through His Spirit. He will transform you from the inside out and give you a new heart with new desires. Your emotional stability will come through a personal relationship with Jesus Christ and not through religion. It is one thing to know things about God, but an entirely different thing to know God personally. Jesus Christ is real, and He is the living God. You can experience Him today if you will surrender your life to Him and invite Him to come into your heart. You can pray this prayer to do that:

Jesus, I know that I am a sinner. I have done wrong things, but I believe that you paid for my sins on the cross. I accept your sacrifice for me, and I believe that God raised you from the dead. I am asking you to come into my life right now. I am sorry for my sins and I will turn away from them. Please forgive me for all of my sins Jesus. Please send the Holy Spirit to live in me and make me a new person. I thank you for saving me and for coming into my life. Amen.

If you pray this prayer and you mean it, Jesus will save you and you will come to know Him personally. If you do pray it, let us know and we will minister to you and help you take the next steps. I am praying for you. God bless.

 

[stn0404]

Thanks for some many replies here. Many of your words are very comforting to me. Really appreciate that, God Bless.

One thing, how do we know if it is god who send a message rather than self talk.

 

[LoricaLady]

No, religion will be no help whatsoever. There are many religions in the world. What you need is not religion but a Friend, a Healer, a Savior, a relationship. You may or not be helped in that direction by people in a Church. It depends on the Church and the people you encounter. (Some report here that they have been very disillusioned with Churches & Church folk, and too often have found them to sort of be operating like they are in a social club, pretty much like the rest of the world.)

If you want healing and peace go directly to Messiah, aka Jesus. Many people have found their lives changed through simply saying simple, but heartfelt prayers like, 'If You are real, if You are Who the Bible says You are, help me to know and love and follow You and be Your child. Help me to know your peace and joy and healing."

And speaking of the Bible, getting into it on a regular basis is essential for spiritual growth. It helps to pray before you begin reading, to pray for the Holy Spirit to open the eyes of your understanding as there is much in there that seems strange and confusing without His help.

Praying you will become a child of the Almighty, that you will walk closely with His Son and that you will develop a passionate love for Bible study.

 

[OntheHorizon]

I wonder if religion provides emotional stability to someone. My emotions have been very unstable, blowing cold and hot frequently.

At my age i have very stable emotions, but i am not having any. Lots of fear, bad self esteem etc... i am 36 btw. Very old already i wonder why this thing still happens.

I don't seem to be very emotionally matured either. There's a big child living inside of me, i get excited easily.

I wonder if religion helps with this.

I have been going to church recently, hoping god can help me with this.

Any suggestion?

This realization and this desire, the existence of this conflict is evidence that you are in the process of dealing with this right now. You are growing in this as we speak. Be strong, keep trying, focus on who you want to be and try to do those things. The process has already started, just don't become apathetic again, keep going. In time you will see improvement

You are already dealing with this, this post is one of the effects of you growing in this area

 

[DiscipleHeLovesToo]

I wonder if religion provides emotional stability to someone. My emotions have been very unstable, blowing cold and hot frequently.

At my age i have very stable emotions, but i am not having any. Lots of fear, bad self esteem etc... i am 36 btw. Very old already i wonder why this thing still happens.

I don't seem to be very emotionally matured either. There's a big child living inside of me, i get excited easily.

I wonder if religion helps with this.

I have been going to church recently, hoping god can help me with this.

Any suggestion?

Jas 1:27 KJV
(27) Pure religion and undefiled before God and the Father is this, To visit the fatherless and widows in their affliction, and to keep himself unspotted from the world.

Joh 14:1 KJV
(1) Let not your heart be troubled: ye believe in God, believe also in me.

as a reborn believer, you can control your emotions; this is not to say that you can control how you feel every second of your life, but that you don't let the feelings of the moment control your actions. the more you focus God, the less you focus on self; and the less your emotions will rule over your actions. fear is a good example; you can have feelings of fear and still not be in fear - you are only in fear when you act on those feelings of fear. if you resist, the feelings of fear will subside. the more you focus on God, the more your feelings and emotions will tend toward peace, joy, and love

 

[jsimms615]

I wonder if religion provides emotional stability to someone. My emotions have been very unstable, blowing cold and hot frequently.

At my age i have very stable emotions, but i am not having any. Lots of fear, bad self esteem etc... i am 36 btw. Very old already i wonder why this thing still happens.

I don't seem to be very emotionally matured either. There's a big child living inside of me, i get excited easily.

I wonder if religion helps with this.

I have been going to church recently, hoping god can help me with this.

Any suggestion?

Depends on what you mean by religion. If you mean religious pracices, by itself it does not make one mature. There are a lot of immature people in churches.
I would seek to give your anxiety and problems to God and allow him to change you from the inside out.

There is a book by Dr.Larry Crabb called "Inside Out" that is really good. If you can get a copy or find one at the library with this title it might by helpful.

 

[paul1149]

how do we know if it is god who send a message rather than self talk

1Jn 4.1 tells us to test the spirits, because not all spirits are from God. The best way to know the real from the counterfeit is to go to God with the right attitude, saying that you want to know Him. Then study His word. He is never going to say or do something that runs counter to the word, so this is a protection to you. Spend time in prayer, both listening and speaking. If you can find a good assembly of believers, Body ministry can help you greatly. The more time you give yourself to something, the more defining details begin to present themselves to you. This is how experts can tell original artwork from the fake.

 

[stn0404]

When someone says show your love for god. How do we actually do it?

 

[theophilus40]

When someone says show your love for god. How do we actually do it?

You show your love by responding to the love he has showed to you.

God shows his love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us.
(Romans 5:8 ESV)
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God wants you to receive the salvation that is made possible by Christ's death.

He desires all people to be saved and to come to the knowledge of the truth.
(1 Timothy 2:4 ESV)
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The only way you can show your love to God is to do what he wants and come to Christ for salvation. Once you are saved there will be many other ways for you to show your love for God but this must the the first step.