the depression? nothing seems to matter anymore. my friends have left me.
nothing makes me happy either. not shopping, starbucks, chocolate, nothing.
nothing makes me happy either. not shopping, starbucks, chocolate, nothing.
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does it get better?
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I have been the sort of person who gets depressed to sad situations in my life.. like a sore tooth that you explore with your tongue.. only I don't explore sad situations too much.. sort of close down my mind to just living in the present and try to make the most of the present.
Perhaps you have the sort of depression that comes from a physical imbalance in the brain.. or maybe you have taken too many emotional knocks in life.
I remember one woman years ago told me that she closed herself off when her brother died.. she felt her family were insincere because they didn't help her brother in life (when he needed help). This woman told me that she regretted dropping out of her circle of friends..
Take some medication if you must from a good doctor.. but beware the doctor who wants to load you down with handfuls of pills and you become like stone in life.. stunted responses to normal living.
Have you no one to confide in about your low mood.. what else can I say.. pray for strength to get you through each day.
Act like a normal person even though you might not feel normal inside.. even if you have to force yourself to act like this way. The more you act normal and do the normal things that get you through a day.. the more normal you will become.
As I said before, I have no experience with clinical depression.. I do know that a tidy enviroment lifts the mood rather than living in clutter.. something to consider.
A little ramble, Jenny
Perhaps you have the sort of depression that comes from a physical imbalance in the brain.. or maybe you have taken too many emotional knocks in life.
I remember one woman years ago told me that she closed herself off when her brother died.. she felt her family were insincere because they didn't help her brother in life (when he needed help). This woman told me that she regretted dropping out of her circle of friends..
Take some medication if you must from a good doctor.. but beware the doctor who wants to load you down with handfuls of pills and you become like stone in life.. stunted responses to normal living.
Have you no one to confide in about your low mood.. what else can I say.. pray for strength to get you through each day.
Act like a normal person even though you might not feel normal inside.. even if you have to force yourself to act like this way. The more you act normal and do the normal things that get you through a day.. the more normal you will become.
As I said before, I have no experience with clinical depression.. I do know that a tidy enviroment lifts the mood rather than living in clutter.. something to consider.
A little ramble, Jenny
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MrPolo
Woe those who call evil good + good evil. Is 5:20
Depression can be very difficult and I have sympathy for anyone in that condition. It's really a form of suffering, when it comes down to it. Suffering unites us to Christ.
When you feel weakened by suffering, you are actually in a position of power. To endure it is very commendable and we will be stronger. The reason you are in a position of power, is because you are a member of the Body of Christ. When someone succumbs to the suffering, the Body also suffers. But as we know, it is honorable and commendable to overcome it, and when this happens the entire Body rejoices. And as we know, the power is not ours, but works only because we share in the all-powerful Cross of Christ.
Be sure to pray for the graces to overcome your depression or any suffering. Ask Jesus to accept your suffering as a participation in His suffering. Ask Him to strengthen the entire Church by the power of the Cross in which you share. Ask Him to show you how to rejoice in suffering. Ask Him in His mercy to bless you with the joys promised. Ask Him to help you have joy in whatever His will is for you. He will answer your prayers.
Romans 8:17 Now if we are children, then we are heirsheirs of God and co-heirs with Christ, if indeed we share in his sufferings in order that we may also share in his glory.
Philippians 3:10 I want to know Christ and the power of his resurrection and the fellowship of sharing in his sufferings
Philippians 3:10 I want to know Christ and the power of his resurrection and the fellowship of sharing in his sufferings
When you feel weakened by suffering, you are actually in a position of power. To endure it is very commendable and we will be stronger. The reason you are in a position of power, is because you are a member of the Body of Christ. When someone succumbs to the suffering, the Body also suffers. But as we know, it is honorable and commendable to overcome it, and when this happens the entire Body rejoices. And as we know, the power is not ours, but works only because we share in the all-powerful Cross of Christ.
Be sure to pray for the graces to overcome your depression or any suffering. Ask Jesus to accept your suffering as a participation in His suffering. Ask Him to strengthen the entire Church by the power of the Cross in which you share. Ask Him to show you how to rejoice in suffering. Ask Him in His mercy to bless you with the joys promised. Ask Him to help you have joy in whatever His will is for you. He will answer your prayers.
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This is a great time to really bond with the Lord. Here are some suggestions or tools to help you.
1. Pray or just having a conversation with the Lord. Think of him as a brother or a father, and you want to share with him what is going on in your life. Sounds weird, but it is refreshing specially when go on walks.
2. Good old notebook and pen, start writing daily. Writing is a form of expression, as such it can help you work thru all the thoughts in your head. Don't try to think about what to write, instead listen to the voice in your mind. Just write what you hear! This is another form of prayer imo, but good way to work thru all that in your mind.
3. Allow yourself to fall in love with the word of God. It can help you understand about this world, our vessels, our savior and heavenly father. You will find the depths of pain in psalms, juicy fatherly wisdom of the proverbs, stories of prophets and ancient times that can reflect your own problems or struggles in. (oh if reading the bible is tough, find a version that is easy to understand. NIV or NLT)
Hope this helps!
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Mrs. Luther073082
Commit to the LORD whatever you do - Proverbs 16:3
Yes, it does get better. I went through depression but recovered and have been enjoying life for several years now. I'm sorry to hear about your friends. I lost many friends during my depression, too. It is difficult for people who are not depressed to understand. Maybe you could find a support group in your area?
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Mrs. Luther073082
Commit to the LORD whatever you do - Proverbs 16:3
Sorry to hear that. How long have you been feeling this way? I took a look at some of your other posts and noted that you said you recently lost two good friends due to them getting boyfriends, are confused about school and life, and that you have social anxiety. Have you seen any doctors for about the social anxiety? If not, does your school offer free counseling?
I also noted your question about suicide in your first post. If you are having suicidal thoughts, please keep in mind that suicide is a permanent solution to temporary problems. I don't think people can grow out of anxiety but anxiety is definitely treatable. I was diagnosed with agoraphobia in 2000. Agoraphobia is an anxiety disorder where being in unfamiliar places or situations causes you to panic because you feel like there is no escape or help would not be easily accessible if you panic. It can get so bad that you don't leave your home for extended periods of time or sometimes even going out of certain rooms seems impossible. I was housebound for several months during a few years and a few times I would not even leave certain rooms of the house (I stayed in my bedroom for a week once -- I did not come out AT ALL and I stayed in a bathroom for almost two days once). I eventually went to therapy and over the years I have gone from being a person that could not leave her house or drive and had no local friends to a person that drives, is a full time university student, and has a social life. So, if I can beat my anxiety, you can, too. It will take time and patience but you can recover from depression, conquer anxiety, and enjoy life again.
Also, I don't take medications for my anxiety, but there's always that option in combination with therapy. I know medications have helped a lot of people.
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i'm going to talk to a counselor at school. idk if that will help though. i just really wish that god will bring someone in my life who i can count on to be there.
life is so meaningless without other people. nothing else matters anymore.
before i tried filling the void with shopping, but it doesn't work anymore.
life is so meaningless without other people. nothing else matters anymore.
before i tried filling the void with shopping, but it doesn't work anymore.
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Mrs. Luther073082
Commit to the LORD whatever you do - Proverbs 16:3
Well that's good to hear. Be patient. When you say you wish God would bring someone else into your life do you mean like a boyfriend, bestfriend, or just anybody to be close to?
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SlowTrainComing
Saved through faith and not that of myself
I believe strongly that it can get better, though it isn't for me at this time.
People like you and I need to keep our focus where it belongs - on God. He will sustain us in time, in this life and/or the next.
PM me if you'd ever like to talk.
People like you and I need to keep our focus where it belongs - on God. He will sustain us in time, in this life and/or the next.
PM me if you'd ever like to talk.
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I am asking god to bring anyone into my life that i can to depend on meaning a new bff or a bf. either one will work.
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I know the feeling, and wanting that special someone. Ultimately I had to give it up to the Lord, and start loving myself again. Hard road to take, but you are not alone on it. Dispite how empty we feel he is there. In your heart, listening and bottling up all your tears. Today, the Lord gave me that special someone, who I am now engaged to. Think of it this way.
Suggestion before wanting a boyfriend, look to the bible to find what a godly wife should be. I mean that is the goal of a relationship like that.
I will keep you in prayer.
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I am a survior of nearly ten years of suicidal temptation, the last six of them so intense and constant I KNOW only God kept me alive. Finally in Sept 2007 my freedom from both began, continues today, not freedom from problems and their depressing effect which all experience, but total freedom from their ability to place me in the slippery pits of depression, and total freedom from the call of suicide. That I have this freedom while yet all my problems continue, assures me a real change occured.
As others have stated in their experience, I found myself alone, abandoned by wife, parents, siblings and friends for but one in Italy, where I had gone specifically to kill myself with one last trip with my dogs. It is just me and my two 16 year old canine kids, the two creatures and responsabilites God used to keep me from killing myself--I could not leave them alone, nor could I bring myself to kill them. In the total isolation God is calling me to once again depend upon Him only, for only He will always be there, a truth I knew since 15 and lived by but had strayed from in the demands of social obligation.
You must fight the battle mentally. What is it that truly tortures you? Should it? How to resolve it whether real or deceptive? Most important: what is God saying to you? What is HIS view on the matters that torment you? Don't expect the answers to come quickly. On that Sept evening last year, finally that answer came to me, and it was in deed "the truth that set me free." I'm not in the meadow of green grass, flowers and butterflies life with God once was to me, but I can once again see and smell the beauty of such and get through my days trusting only in God.
My father attempted suicide when I was 15. My older brother and sister were both hospitalized for suicidal torment begining in their 30's. Eventually I became it's prey also in my 40's. I tell you this as an example of how deep it can be, even a family gentic problem. Yet there is hope, which I know now since Sept, but I will not lie, there seemed no hope until that very evening, no matter what anyone might tell me. It is, as the poster describes above, paralysing. It is important you understand that is "normal" with depression. Find a reason to live. Mine came that Sept evening. It was simple. God demanded that I live to serve Him. Not a new argument by any means, but suddenly it was the only thing I had need to listen to. And doing so, my freedom from the "option" of suicide was taken from me, and my freedom to live again began. I have survived, and I hope you will also.
As others have stated in their experience, I found myself alone, abandoned by wife, parents, siblings and friends for but one in Italy, where I had gone specifically to kill myself with one last trip with my dogs. It is just me and my two 16 year old canine kids, the two creatures and responsabilites God used to keep me from killing myself--I could not leave them alone, nor could I bring myself to kill them. In the total isolation God is calling me to once again depend upon Him only, for only He will always be there, a truth I knew since 15 and lived by but had strayed from in the demands of social obligation.
You must fight the battle mentally. What is it that truly tortures you? Should it? How to resolve it whether real or deceptive? Most important: what is God saying to you? What is HIS view on the matters that torment you? Don't expect the answers to come quickly. On that Sept evening last year, finally that answer came to me, and it was in deed "the truth that set me free." I'm not in the meadow of green grass, flowers and butterflies life with God once was to me, but I can once again see and smell the beauty of such and get through my days trusting only in God.
My father attempted suicide when I was 15. My older brother and sister were both hospitalized for suicidal torment begining in their 30's. Eventually I became it's prey also in my 40's. I tell you this as an example of how deep it can be, even a family gentic problem. Yet there is hope, which I know now since Sept, but I will not lie, there seemed no hope until that very evening, no matter what anyone might tell me. It is, as the poster describes above, paralysing. It is important you understand that is "normal" with depression. Find a reason to live. Mine came that Sept evening. It was simple. God demanded that I live to serve Him. Not a new argument by any means, but suddenly it was the only thing I had need to listen to. And doing so, my freedom from the "option" of suicide was taken from me, and my freedom to live again began. I have survived, and I hope you will also.
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SlowTrainComing
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Yes, sister, it gets better. if not now, then later. if not in this life, then in the next one.
God bless you. I'm praying for you, me, and the lonely ones like us.
God bless you. I'm praying for you, me, and the lonely ones like us.
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