Does anyone else have anger issues?

[jess91877]

I have been having anger issues throughout my life, but I am actually getting worse everyday, especially about certain things in my life, and I get angry about how other people are. For instance, I get angry almost daily about:

• My family (raised in a dysfunctional home)
• I get angry about not being able to find a church since I moved to a new area in September.
• I am angry about moving so much...I just want to settle down and plant roots already!!
• I am angry about how other people act, whether it be Christians or non-Christians (such as co-workers).
• I am angry about myself...how introverted I can be, and how people are so "fast-paced" that by time I am comfortable in a conversation with them, they are gone! World is surrounded by quick speakers with low attention spans, or so it would seem?
• I am angered by how fast paced the world can be. It angers me that there is so much traffic where I live, and it angers me even more that the area is growing so it gets worse everyday! It angers me that they are ripping up farmland to build more sprawl!
• I am angrered by the state of the world, and things I can not control, such as the rampant amount of materialism and corruptiion prevalent in America.
• I am angry about how worldly a lot of churches are in my area - how they succumb to the influence of pop-culture, and do not stick to their guns against the influence of worldliness. Also, churches bother me with how they water down services. They go through the ninety announcements, an update on their missisions, have a watered down message for 10 minutes! Where is the MEAT!
• Reading/keeping up with the world of finance bothers me...especially by the real estate market (Since the rise in prices, my husband and I are struggling to find an affordable home to buy which doesn't help us plant roots).

I know I need to just let things go, but when I try to relax, I end up reading something or seeing something that just sets me off again. I know I have to change my attitude, but through prayer and reading scripture it helps for like 20 minutes, and then I am angry again. I can only remove so much of the influence which angers me (I can buy a home and plant roots somewhere slower paced, or I can avoid reading the paper or finance news), but there are things I can not change (such as the state of the world, my family, etc.).

I know I need to stop getting angry, but I am truly stuggling. I am trying to keep a positive attitude about the upcoming year, and aim to stop the anger attack every 15 minutes. This Sunday, my husband and I are trying another church in our search for meat and hopefully some fellowship with Christians in the longterm. I want to get involved with church to channel some of this anger as well. Especially since I am always "thinking" about things, I really need to get into a deep Bible study...one that really picks apart verse by verse. I plan on walking/exercising more in the evenings as well to channel some of my energy.

Does any one have any advice, words of encouragement, a shoulder to lean on, etc?

 

[Onlythingavailable]

I am no expert, and I may be horribly wrong, but this is what I think. Looking at what angers you, it seems like you fear you are losing control of your life. All the change in the world makes you feel powerless. This makes you angry at every little thing that bothers you. But worry not, you are in God's hands.

Almost everything you've listed are things that are beyond your reach. There is a prayer that goes something like "God give me the wisdom to realize what I cannot change, and the strength to change what I can." We cannot carry the world on our shoulders. As an example, you seem to be worried about materialism and worldliness . Maybe if you start focusing on this where you can make a change (unless you already are, of course) you would feel some peace. I mean cut down on the materialism where you can, talk about it , and in general just point it out. When you go to a church let the pastor/priest know about your concerns, let them defend their services and ways instead of just going to the next church.

Praying and reading the Bible is indeed wise. Keep asking God for help, ultimately it's only He who can help us! May God bless you and guide you.

P.S If you want to talk, feel free to PM me.

 

[FallingWaters]

I used to be a very angry person such as you describe.
When Jesus came to live in my heart, everything changed.
The scripture that "God works everything together for the good of those who love Him..." would go through my mind night and day.
And the one about God not letting us be tried beyond what we're able to endure, I would meditate on also.

When people did something offensive toward me, I would say to myself, "Father forgive them for they know not what they do."
The bottom line was, I was placing my trust in God's hands.
This went a very long way toward removing most of the anger in my life.

I came from a severely dysfunctional family, so I had a lot of wounds from my past that have needed healing.
The more I have healed from the wounds of my past, the less anger I have.
A lot of times, a current day situation can make us react in a way that seems extreme.
That's because we are responding not only with our current anger but with our anger from the past, too.
People think we're over-reacting, but they don't know the hidden wounds we carry.

Trusting God and being healed are the keys to freedom.

 

[Blackness]

Your no where near alone, I am a very angry person...the thing is somtimes I fear "letting anger out" so I fill up and let it out.

 

[artjack]

stop compeating, there are people even more angier than you, find a group you can invole yourself in that helps others or each other, make sure you have a pass time and drink plenty of water, use your energy that way, you may find you eat alot, dont let it bother you.

 

[Anti Existance]

Always tell yourself 'negativity leads to nowhere'

Watch the anime called 'aria the animation', even if you hate cartoons , i have experienced nothing more relaxed and being carefree in my life, if you have winamp you can watch it in the shoutcasttv anime section.

Next i want you to jump, i want to you to scream frantically and get as angry as you can possibly be, throw vases if you like and get angry over the fact that their are hurricanes on this planet that destroy everything. If you are done and totally exhausted, come back to me to tell me how it has prevented hurricanes from still coming and destroying people's houses?

Zero, so wether you jumped in great anger, it helped NOTHING. In other words its no use to worry about the things you can't change, only focus on those things that you can change, and your entire attitude should be different.

The meaning of life is to love and help eachother, so focus on that. Even better focus, close your eyes, imagine a lake in a cave. Calm and serene, the water is completely still unmoved by anything, and this is EXACTLY how your emotional state should be. Not like a ship adrift on the waves in a big storm on an ocean,with lightning and all. No, calm and serene.

An important life lessons will now follow:

Be like a castle gate, close yourself to bad people/things/events, and open yourself up to good people/things/events. Also ask yourself what good has being shy ever done to you? Zero, so trash it. There is more

Journalists collect all the miserable information all over the world, they then gather it in a newpaper or news report, then all of that misery goes thru your television and is exposed to (guess who) yes right you. So unconsiously you are opening yourself to a lot of damage. When was the last time you became happy when watching the news? I won't disregard the importance of news, because it keeps us informed. But how much of that financial news did you actually needed to know, how much misery have you brought into your life unneccesary? My guess is a LOT.

Again negativity leads to nothing, so another life lesson will now follow.

How can a seed grow, if someone constantly destroys and jumps on the soil, and kicks down every attempt for something to grow? Nothing can grow in negativity. A flower needs the oppertunity to grow, it needs love,care and attention from the owner to make it into the most beautifull flower ever. Love is a fragile thing, and its time to replace your doom thinking with positive thinking, why? Negative thinking, leads to a downward spiral of misery that only ends in death. For example if a random person goes in circles in life , it sort of resembles like you might know one of those donkeys that goes into a treadmill, it doesn't go anywhere.

For us there is only one real way to go, and that is in a vicious positive circle upwards to God. And since negativity leads to nowhere, then there is no reason to be negative nor angry. So think Positive. By helping and loving other people you can make your world a better place.

 

[Buttermilk]

You have been offered lots of good advice here - I can't really add to it, I will offer that shoulder to lean on though.

 

[jess91877]

Thanks everyone who responded to my post, and that gave me advice. I will follow the advice given to me, and pray about it. Thanks for reading and allowing a shoulder to lean on, I really appreciate it.

Many Blessings

 

[BigToe]

It can also help to talk to someone about it. I don't know if there is a woman at your church or a therapist or something, but it can't hurt to talk to someone. Anger isn't necessarily a bad thing either. I'm not sure why it became an emotion to avoid at all costs, but I think that makes it worse and allows it to build up. The trick is figuring out what makes you angry and why, and then to find a healthy release of that anger.

 

[Chococat]

I have been having anger issues throughout my life, but I am actually getting worse everyday, especially about certain things in my life, and I get angry about how other people are. For instance, I get angry almost daily about:

• My family (raised in a dysfunctional home)
• I get angry about not being able to find a church since I moved to a new area in September.
• I am angry about moving so much...I just want to settle down and plant roots already!!
• I am angry about how other people act, whether it be Christians or non-Christians (such as co-workers).
• I am angry about myself...how introverted I can be, and how people are so "fast-paced" that by time I am comfortable in a conversation with them, they are gone! World is surrounded by quick speakers with low attention spans, or so it would seem?
• I am angered by how fast paced the world can be. It angers me that there is so much traffic where I live, and it angers me even more that the area is growing so it gets worse everyday! It angers me that they are ripping up farmland to build more sprawl!
• I am angrered by the state of the world, and things I can not control, such as the rampant amount of materialism and corruptiion prevalent in America.
• I am angry about how worldly a lot of churches are in my area - how they succumb to the influence of pop-culture, and do not stick to their guns against the influence of worldliness. Also, churches bother me with how they water down services. They go through the ninety announcements, an update on their missisions, have a watered down message for 10 minutes! Where is the MEAT!
• Reading/keeping up with the world of finance bothers me...especially by the real estate market (Since the rise in prices, my husband and I are struggling to find an affordable home to buy which doesn't help us plant roots).

I know I need to just let things go, but when I try to relax, I end up reading something or seeing something that just sets me off again. I know I have to change my attitude, but through prayer and reading scripture it helps for like 20 minutes, and then I am angry again. I can only remove so much of the influence which angers me (I can buy a home and plant roots somewhere slower paced, or I can avoid reading the paper or finance news), but there are things I can not change (such as the state of the world, my family, etc.).

I know I need to stop getting angry, but I am truly stuggling. I am trying to keep a positive attitude about the upcoming year, and aim to stop the anger attack every 15 minutes. This Sunday, my husband and I are trying another church in our search for meat and hopefully some fellowship with Christians in the longterm. I want to get involved with church to channel some of this anger as well. Especially since I am always "thinking" about things, I really need to get into a deep Bible study...one that really picks apart verse by verse. I plan on walking/exercising more in the evenings as well to channel some of my energy.

Does any one have any advice, words of encouragement, a shoulder to lean on, etc?

I'm not sure I can be of much help except to say I can relate to your anger at as I have a problem with it too. Indeed much of the things you mention anger me too.