Does age matter, and why??

[marezee]

I wasn't being defensive. just matter-of-fact-ive

Anyway, getting back to the OP ... I don't think age matters at all. Because in my case, I married late and had children late...that was my only point.
thanks for letting me share!

 

[Sign Of The Fish Burger]

I'd like to be done by 30 because I'd like to be a young mom. I know that makes me a bad person, but I'm ok with that

 

[marezee]

I'd like to be done by 30 because I'd like to be a young mom. I know that makes me a bad person, but I'm ok with that

who said that?
you are not a "bad" person.
It's just your choice....if you and your DH are ok with that, so be it, right?

 

[Christdefinesme]

For us, age doesn't matter, because we have taken our cues from the Lord. We are still waiting to "hear" if we're done yet, or if there is another in our future, even though it's already been 4 plus years since our last!

We're getting older by the minute, but I don't really feel "too old" to have another, and I am not all that concerned what age I will be when I'm a grandparent or kids are graduating.

I'm tired, but I can't tell if it's age, or 4 kids, and all the craziness.

But, it seems, if we do have another, it may be in the next year or two, and then I feel that would be it for us. But again, haven't gotten a clear picture from the Lord, so we'll see.

This thread is fun! I love seeing where everyone's at.

 

[Sign Of The Fish Burger]

who said that?
you are not a "bad" person.
It's just your choice....if you and your DH are ok with that, so be it, right?

No one said it, I said it. Why the defensive?

 

[3girls2dogs]

Well, I can say for certain, the Lord and I have discussed it, and we both agree we are done.

 

[Redguard]

I could state why Mrs. Redguard wants to be done by 30, but it most likely goes against every "CF Christian Female Principle" that exists on this board.

To answer the OP... Does it matter? Yes.
Why? Not saying.

 

[Sign Of The Fish Burger]

I could state why Mrs. Redguard wants to be done by 30, but it most likely goes against every "CF Christian Female Principle" that exists on this board.

To answer the OP... Does it matter? Yes.
Why? Not saying.

Not with me it wont I feel the same way about the age 30 thing

 

[Leanna]

I could state why Mrs. Redguard wants to be done by 30, but it most likely goes against every "CF Christian Female Principle" that exists on this board.

To answer the OP... Does it matter? Yes.
Why? Not saying.

We must know why!

 

[3girls2dogs]

Not with me it wont I feel the same way about the age 30 thing

I was done at 30 as well

 

[jgonz]

What does a "young" mom mean? Why is that better than... what?... and "old" mom?

I have about the same amount of energy I've always had... so being a "young" mom or an "older" mom is the same to me. The best part about being a little older is that I have more patience than I used to.... and hopefully more wisdom.

 

[Leanna]

I always want to know what energy they are talking about .... I am exhausted!

 

[Redguard]

 

[Assisi]

One of my aunts was telling me that her favourite age to be pregnant and having a baby was 40. That's when she had her youngest.

I'm hoping that God will give us lots and lots of children. I don't imagine I'll ever be 'done' until God makes me done. Some people like to have a set number or age, but that's not a philosophy that sits well with me.

 

[-~Truth_N_Trust~-]

well, if God listened to me and gave me the situation of my choice (God forbid!) I'd also like to have a few more and be finished having babies by 30 - purely for selfish convienience reasons! As in, getting the 'baby' days over with (and preggy/nursing days over with too!), still having time with my DH while we are young enough to enjoy many more years together, having my children around the same ages for company for each other...

 

[JulySheMustFly]

What does a "young" mom mean? Why is that better than... what?... and "old" mom?

I have about the same amount of energy I've always had... so being a "young" mom or an "older" mom is the same to me. The best part about being a little older is that I have more patience than I used to.... and hopefully more wisdom.

I don't know I never liked being seen as a "young" mom. In my experience it meant that I would be treated by those who didn't know me as someone who didn't know what they were doing or whose children all came from different daddies.

Age doesn't matter. What matters is that we all listen to how God is leading us and follow with faithful obedience.

 

[FaithLoveHope9]

I guess since DH only wants 3, we'll keep trying until we reach 3. If I'm 30, 35, 40 when that happens, so be it!
If for some reason I am not able to get pregnant, we'd look into adoption...
After we have 3, it's up to him to stop us from having more- I'd be quiverfull if he let me

 

[3girls2dogs]

What does a "young" mom mean? Why is that better than... what?... and "old" mom?

I have about the same amount of energy I've always had... so being a "young" mom or an "older" mom is the same to me. The best part about being a little older is that I have more patience than I used to.... and hopefully more wisdom.

There are 9 years between my oldest (18) and my next younger (9), and I assure you, I am taken much more seriously as a mother of my younger girls than I am of my oldest. I had her when I was 20. People still think I am incapable of parenting her because I was so "young", but get me around my kids' elementary school, and suddenly I am too old to be the parent of my 8 year old. You can't win sometimes.

 

[progressivegal]

Yeah! We'd really like to travel in our 50's the way we wanted to in our 20's but didn't have the money.



I find that very hard to believe. Women's physical prime is in their 20's, and fertility is already on the decline by 30.

It was the February 08' Issue of Marie Claire (The one with the beautiful Christian Aguilera pregnancy pics ) if you're curious. I don't remember word for word (it was just a few paragraphs) but I don't think it was in regards to when one is the most fertile (which is obviously late teen and 20's, because you have more eggs.)I would imagine it had to do with as I said, the quality of medical care (women in their 30's are more likely to have insurance) for mom and baby and it may have had to do with psychological things as well.
Anyway, I remember the ages being what stuck out at me. It's not like Marie Claire is a medical journal anyway, and I'm not sure what study was referenced. Bottom line I think is that at any age there are more risks and more benefits in different areas as far as getting pregnant, being pregnant, giving birth, and being a parent goes.
I know for me, I might be able to get pregnant easily, but I don't have any of the other stuff going for me, if somebody my same age has insurance, and is emotionally prepared to be a mom, and WANTS to be a mom, it's probably a great age for them. Everyone's situation is so different, and like I said before I'm all for people having kids when they're ready, regardless of their age. Just because I'm not ready at 22 doesn't mean I don't think any 22 year olds should have kids, but it is really young, and just because someone is physically able to have children doesn't mean they should, and in contrast, just because someone is emotionally, financially, and mentally prepared to have kids, doesn't necessarily mean they can. There's no overall "perfect age", but there are statistically "optimal" ages depending on the category one is looking at. Everyone who wants children just kind of has to weigh their desire, their health, and their situation and find out what's best for them and their family

 

[Adela]

I used to think I wanted to have the first by age 26. Now that 26 is only 2 years away I've changed my mind. I likely won't have any kids before age 30, and that's what I prefer.

I don't want to wait until I'm retired or my kids are grown before I can travel all over the world. I want to do it now and then. Also, both of us are going to be in school for a while yet (my husband has 5 more years), so a child would not fit in with our plans.