Do you worry about the parenting choices you've made?

[gracepaints]

Is there anything you are doing or have done with your kiddo that you sometimes worry that you shouldn't be doing or aren't doing right?

 

[JBJoe]

Is there anything you are doing or have done with your kiddo that you sometimes worry that you shouldn't be doing or aren't doing right?

If I didn't worry, I'd probably be a lousy parent. Sometimes I simultaneously worry that I'm doing too much and too little of the same exact thing.

 

[heart of peace]

No, I don't worry about them. I tend to employ quite a bit of self-reflection in my parenting. I normally reflect at the end of the day about what I think went well and what I think did not go well during the course of the day. I don't expect perfection from myself and so I am able to correct whatever I think needs correction pretty much immediately. I also know that children do not hold grudges and are able to heal on all levels much more quickly than adults. To top it all off, children are much more forgiving than adults. So, if I happened to have lost my cool and yelled during the course of a day with my child, during my reflection time, I will reflect as to how I arrived at that point and how to avoid arriving at that point in the future. One bad moment won't traumatize him but a home of constant yelling will.

What I do worry about is the choices I have yet to make. I tend to analyze and look at a situation where I need to make a certain choice from all angles. Once a decision is made, I let go because worrying about something that cannot be changed won't add a day to my life. So, I guess I spend my time worrying when I am able to make different choices and figuring out which is the best one.

 

[DestinationHome]

On a routine and daily basis? No. I think that I've managed to worry over nearly everything at one time or another. It's something that I really struggle with.

 

[53Isaiah]

I think everyone does to some extent. I have much more confidence now then before I was saved and had children.

The world tells us that children are our #1 priority in parenting. Sounds logical, but it is not the pattern God has given us in his word.

If you keep your relationship with God #1 that will equip you for your marriage. If your keep your marriage #2 that will equip you for your relationship with your children.

 

[heart of peace]

If you keep your relationship with God #1 that will equip you for your marriage. If your keep your marriage #2 that will equip you for your relationship with your children.

What an interesting perspective! I like it.

 

[53Isaiah]

What an interesting perspective! I like it.

There are times when my wife and I are "child focused" (we have a 5 and 8 yo) and we see that our relation with God and our marriage is lacking because of it. This intern ultimately hurts, God, our marriage, and our children. Once we get back to the right pattern everything gets better !

 

[-~Truth_N_Trust~-]

occaisonally, but generally, no. I'm FAAAAAAAAAAAAAR from a perfect mother, but I am confident in the Lord and in my husband, so together we make the best desicions we can.

Plus, I really struggle with 'right' in parenting, obviously there's big rights and wrongs, but parenting is mostly personal and situational. I don't know, I just remember in the beginning wanting to do everything right and perfect, like there was a perfect formula to raise a perfect child...

 

[faithfullove]

The main thing I worry about with my children is consistancy.
Consistancy is the main key to having a well behaved child,everyone parents differently and if it works for you and is not abusive then thats fine,as long as your consistant...For example,my boys were so well behaved that everytime we went anywhere people would compliment on how good they were,we were always consistant,but then there were people,like family and friends that thought we were a little too strict so finally,we quit being so strict and consistant,and let me tell you,we never had so many problems with them,they were getting into trouble daily.We are finally back on track (almost completely)and they are getting back to being our little angels.

 

[Christdefinesme]

I try not to. Every parent has anxiety about something.
I pray a lot and then move forward. Most of the time I'm confident in the parenting choices we've made. But it's normal to struggle and question. There are so many variables.
All glory to Our Lord for wisdom and anything good we do!

 

[BananaCake]

Yes.

 

[heart of peace]

I pray a lot and then move forward.

This is a fine point. If one's decisions are made prayerfully and in earnest of God's will, then there is no need to worry.

 

[CelticRose]

I have a few *grey* areas that concern me. My youngest DD (12) is becoming a semi/professional musician already & I am monitoring what goes on really closely to make sure she is as mature & able to handle things as I think she is & that her faith is as solid as I think it is. So far all seems good but I am finding this much scarier than I thought I would even though God has opened all the doors & provided all the opportunities.

 

[Redguard]

I worry, but I think that the worrying helps us to stay on top of things.

We've recently discussed whether or not we're praying enough with her before bedtime. We decided that it's an area where we can improve, so we're working on that a bit more.