Do you think you are Goodlooking ??

[trentlogain2]

attractive women are a dime a dozen. it's the ones who carry themselves with dignity and are friendly that i like to talk to.

there are many who might be attractive but act like someone that you don't want to be around.

 

[broken_one]

Alright, I'll admit that I can't tell if I'm attractive or not. Straight guys really never can tell. Therefore, I have to take my "judgment" on empirical evidence.

This is what it tells me:

• Overabundance of men compared to attractive women at school means that I've been often almost out of the league of these women.
• This lack of attraction by attractive women continues on often into my "non-school" life. Often the women who still are attracted to me tend to have serious personality issues (unlike medical or mental issues, which I guess are normal and could be let go).
• I cannot even seem to date any sort of religious woman. Even when I was very involved in church activities and was a "light in the darkness", I was continually being shut down by a large variety of churchwomen. Continually. The more attractive, the more I was turned down for real tools. This continued into the last time I was at church in January. I really have since given up on women who go to church.....it's not worth it.

To go by numbers, I don't get the "7s, 8s, 9s".....10s are just not even in my conscious mind. However I do get hit on or can feel the "2s, 3s, 4s" and occasionally "5s" being attracted to me. Therefore I can put myself into the category of being a 5 or a 6, because that sounds about right from what is around me. Of course my "number" may be lower than it actually is, but judging from what is around me I think that's a fair score.

My scoring isn't just solely on looks but also on character and personality. Just fyi for the other people reading this.

You know, I've been thinking about this post throughout the day.....I think that I might not be attracted to people who are attracted to me.

Maybe. I'm not sure.

But it does make sense, in a way. If it's true, I have terrible self-worth.

 

[mina]

sometimes yes, sometimes no
I've overcome a lot in this dept. where I believed, truly believed, I was the most wretchedly ugly person on Earth. It's been a hard road. I still have my moments; but I am also able to see the beautiful in myself now- but not in a disgusting self absorbed way.

 

[Rhye]

You know, I've been thinking about this post throughout the day.....I think that I might not be attracted to people who are attracted to me.

Maybe. I'm not sure.

But it does make sense, in a way. If it's true, I have terrible self-worth.

Its okay if you are not. Don't be so hard on yourself.

 

[broken_one]

Its okay if you are not. Don't be so hard on yourself.

I have to be hard on myself....it's how I become a better person. And a worse person. It's hard to draw a line between healthy self-criticism and then being a producer of too many poisonous thoughts.

But if I do reject these people, this really sucks.

 

[~Beauty_from_Pain~]

I don't think that I am drop dead gorgous or one that always turns heads. I think I'm average, which doesn't mean "bad looking." I think I have the "cute" look going for me but I don't think that I meet the "beauty" requirements of a majority of men. I don't say that to say I ned to meet anyone else's requirements, but just in an attempt to describe myself to others in terms of my attractiveness. LOL. I think that it's my having some extra weight is the only thing that keeps some from seeing me as an attractive person. I do think though that I am not ugly and that when the right guy comes along, he will find me beautiful on the outside, but even more beautiful on the inside

PS. I'm photogenic so my pictures are not really a good judge of my attractability...lol...least not all of them!

 

[LoveJC9]

Not at all.....

 

[catzrfluffy]

Do I personally think I am good looking? Most days, hm, nah.

 

[Nom De Guerre]

I kinda feel awkward, after readin' everybody elses posts, pointing out that I most definitely do feel, think, and believe I'm good looking.

 

[Apollo Celestio]

How much does it matter in your life? I think it's a good question.

 

[broken_one]

How much does it matter in your life? I think it's a good question.

Only when I think of sex. Which for guys is pretty often.

Otherwise though I'm a pretty cool guy who is the chillest man on earth.

 

[PinkSweetart]

Sadly I don't think I am. It'd be cool if I could at least have peace with the way I look... but that's kind of hard when you have a gorgeous sister with an extream "cute-like" personality. Don't get me wrong though, I love her to death! It's just hard when she's always being complimented and I'm not. Oh, well.

I don't always like feeling negative though, and that's as close to feeling good about myself as I'm going to get. If that makes any sense...

 

[Themistocles]

Not especially? I'm ok. I tend to be pretty absent-minded/unconcerned about looks, so until recently I've had a ridiculously untrimmed beard for most of my life. That tends to detract a bit from your attractive quotient. Now I either have a trimmed beard or I'm stubbly and maybe I'm not so bad?

 

[LadyL]

It saddens me to read so many negative comments, I can remember when I thought I wasn't beautiful, and I can remember when God changed that POV for me.

I don't even think my looks have changed much, but how I see myself has. And believe it or not, that does come out. Not to sound conceited or full of myself because I am very aware of my faults, but I am not a size 4, not caucasian, and not tall. Basically, not the typical American version of what beauty would be.

And yet, I have no problem attracting men. But whether people tell me how beautiful I am or not, I know that I am and that is all due to God. And again, it does show- I look up a lot more, look people in the eye, basically all my confidence changed the moment I realized that I was beautiful. Not because I think I can be on the cover of a magazine, or because I can attract men- but because I just am.

 

[Oddish]

I wasn't being negative, just realistic. It is the way it is and have to accept that. What is so wrong with not being good looking anyway? It isn't the end of the world, there are other things in life.

I would say that physically I am around average or a little below that. That is fine, can't change it, just got to make the most of what I have got.

 

[Miss Spaulding]

Uh, well, I don't believe I am ugly, but I've never thought I was beautiful or even very good looking. Never. (wow, this is actually the first time I've ever admitted this).

 

[alexier]

I have to say that I don't think I am good looking - and sadly I am vain so this really gets me down. I sit there and think "Yes, I know that beauty is in the eye of the beholder" and I know that in the Lords eyes we are all beautiful, but in reality it is still a looks based world we live in.
Its very sad really isn't it? That we have become obsessed with looks because if I fall for someone myself - its generally not the looks that attracts me to them!
Still I am sticking to the idea that God has someone for everyone - we just need to be open to his love and send it out there!
The waiting is SO labourious though lol!

 

[foodiepeep]

I dislike my face, but I like having collar bones..

 

[ceh85]

sometimes yes, sometimes no
I've overcome a lot in this dept. where I believed, truly believed, I was the most wretchedly ugly person on Earth. It's been a hard road. I still have my moments; but I am also able to see the beautiful in myself now- but not in a disgusting self absorbed way.

I could have written this. My view of myself fluctuates with my weight too. If I've put on weight I feel a lot worse about myself, even though my face looks basically the same.

 

[yam]

WOW, this thread is still going after almost 3 months ? LOL cool, I love to post topics that people can discuss amoung themselves ...from body image , dreams, love , fears , doubts....so many times so many people are experiencing the same issues that you may experience or your friends are going through.