do you think i should go?

[secretx]

hello,

I have been debating whether or not to go see someone about my SI. It has become a bit out of control as of recently, and tonight was definately the worst.

I would use the university's free service, and this is the main reason I have not been able to decide. It is a very small university, where mostly everyone knows everyone

But I have been reading some posts which talk about this, and realise it would be confidential, but I'm still unsure. I am extremely shy as well

I guess I am asking what you guys would do

 

[kathleenmary]

Hey,
Well first of all, I'm really sorry that you cut. I know how hard it is to stop and fight the urges. I really think that you should see someone about this, i think it would really help you to talk to someone. I know it helps me. Like especially last year, I had a counsellor is school that i went to and i talked to her very often. she was always there for me when i needed her and i felt so much better going to school. everything is confidential, unless you are under a certain age, then they have to tell youre parents. but i dont think thats ur case since ur in a university. i hope that youre feeling better soon. you can pm me anytime.
-Kath

 

[texannurse]

I would definitely consider going to someone. Sometimes just talking about it can really help loosen SI's grip on you. It can be a very liberating feeling to not be alone with your secret anymore.

Believe me, when they say confidential, they really mean it. There are all kinds of laws to protect health information, including who's been to a clinic, why, etc. I too got help at a very small university's health clinic and it was a great experience for me. Totally professional and confidential - they wouldn't even leave a message on the answering machine in case my roomate listened to the messages!!

Good luck! I'll be praying for you.

 

[Mr.Cheese]

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[berry2000]

Definately yes. You should go. Talking about self harm is the first step towards quitting. It is also very healing. Remember you don't have to share anything until you are ready and comfortable. You have to find the right person. You can go and side step the issue for a while until you are ready and feel confident with whom you are talking too. So really going is just a trial. YOu really don't have anthing to loose because you don't have to say anthing you don't want to.

HOpe this helps. I'll be praying for you. I know it is scary. The first time I talked about it I was shaking uncontrollably. But it got easier.

 

[Finn88]

Hey chick!
If its free I reckon you shud go for it!
Its so important to have someone you can talk to about this and if they are a proffesional then all the better I think!
But remember-you dont have to tell them anything straight away! why not go see someone, just a couple of times and see what they're like, if you think you like and can trust them then carry on, if not you dont have to go again. but continue looking for help elsewhere!

this is my thought!

Finnxx

 

[ConcreteAngel]

I agree! Absolutely go and it is confidential...and if you want to make sure, just ask them straight out! Psychologists/counsellors are used to being asked questions like that!

luv CA

 

[HolyOne87]

hello,

I have been debating whether or not to go see someone about my SI. It has become a bit out of control as of recently, and tonight was definately the worst.

I would use the university's free service, and this is the main reason I have not been able to decide. It is a very small university, where mostly everyone knows everyone

But I have been reading some posts which talk about this, and realise it would be confidential, but I'm still unsure. I am extremely shy as well

I guess I am asking what you guys would do

its okay. i was super quiet and stuff as well when i went to my school's psychiatrist. I didnt completely open up about my SI until the second session. i, on the first session, asked the psychiatrist questions about herself and also let her get to know me (the simple stuff..like what im studying to be and stuff). I did this more toward the end of the session because at the beginning i barely said a word..It was complete silence for a while..she would try and ask things..i'd answer then wouldnt go more in depth about it.
I would say give it a try. Open up to the person once you feel comfortable to do so...even if it takes you a few sessions.You will know when the right time is.
I hope things work out..And don't worry about not opening up right away..They wont force anything out of you if you dont tell them right away. They are very patient.
And that person wont tell anyone. They take oaths not to do that..everything is confidential. The person cant just go off and tell everyone what you say in sessions. If that person does, their certificate in psychology will be in jeopardy im sure.
Everything will be fine!
I will pray for the best for you!

 

[katylees]

Hey, i'm at uni and i see a counsellor there. I am very shy, getting better now though but the first time i went i was terrified .. try it out. PM me about it if you want to know more. Good luck, please try and get some help x

 

[littlevoice]

I would strongly suggest talking to someone.
Does you uni have more than one campus? Can you go to another campus? You will still get the free service and it might make you feel more comfortable about going to see someone.