Do you still get butterflies?

[Violet]

Do you ever have overwhelming feelings of being in love and blessed that you just can't think of the words to say? lol Does that even make sense?

Sometimes while I'm just sitting here at work, I'll get this visual of my husband smiling in my head and I get butterflies and giddy. I just never want this to end. I mean, I want us to be new forever...I don't want it to wear off. People tell me it's inevitable....that eventually the new will fade. And that just makes me so sad!

My husband and I have been married for a year and 2 months. So we're still considered newlyweds I believe. I don't even know what I'm trying to ask LOL.. sorry, I'm a scatter brain today I guess I just want to be reassured that there are still married couples out there that are still as in love today as they were when the said their vows.

So reassure me please

 

[selune]

Well hey, we're about 10 1/2 years in and he or I can look at the other and just melt. Maybe we're still considered newlyweds too. When we get past 50 I'll let you know if the feelings wear thin Sure there are tough times to go through, but that hasn't diminished the feelings of being so blessed or crazy in love with each other. (insert sigh of contentment here) Maybe I'm not as in love as the day we were married, I think it's more now Keep up the love!

 

[Jenna]

My husband and I are coming up on our 4th anniversary, and *I* at least can say that I still get all funny over him. I don't know that he feels the same way, but guys are kind of interesting about that sometimes. He's not one to really get too mushy on me and tell me anyway. Still though, there are those times when I just look at him and feel so overwhelmed by my blessing that I want to kiss him till he's breathless and make love to him till his bones melt.

 

[MsAnne]

EVERY time I hear his voice, I grin like a geek. I didn't realize anyone else noticed it until one day the girls in my office said, "We know exactly who you were talking to - you have that goofy grin."

 

[kayanne]

oh violet, just reading your post made me smile. for me, the relationship changed through the years, but it definitely got deeper. we had our 20th anniversary a few months ago, and we frequently tell each other that we love the other more now than we did 20 years ago. the more you get to know your husband, the more you invest in each other, as you perhaps raise children together.....the bond gets SO intense. maybe it's not still the butterflies exactly, but something even better. it's not that goofy, girly swooning that i felt 20 years ago, but the genuine appreciation and gratitude that i have for him is beyond what i could have ever imagined.
i think that most people, when they get married, can't really grasp what a lifetime commitment is--oh, i thought i did, but you can't really grasp what you haven't yet experienced. for me, having been married 20 years, i feel SO blessed to have a man who has stayed faithful, has kept his vows, has loved me when i wasn't always lovely. he has truly tried to love me as Christ loves the church, sacrificially, and i thank God daily for this strong relationship. i often tell my honey "you're the best husband in the whole world!!" and he just beams!
so violet, just keep loving that man God has given you, do things that let him know you adore him, and don't ever stop treating him like your knight in shining armor----i think you'll still feel overwhelmed and blessed in the years to come.
i hope that reassures you!

 

[Mini]

Violet,

My hubby and I have been married for almost tweny years. I can appreciate exactly what Kayanne has said. I have been blessed with a four fabulous daughters and a really wonderful husband.

But YES I still get goosebumpy sometimes when I think of my husband, catch a glimpse of him, hear his voice on the other end of the line. You don't have to grow out of it.

Mini

 

[Violet]

awwww thank all of you so much! Ya'll are so great

I asked my husband last night if he's still as in love w/me now as he was when we were dating (stupid question, right? LOL) He said "No, I love you more than that now...and I'll love you more tomorrow." Let me tell ya, he was so rewarded for that wonderful answer lol.

I was watching him and my daughter bond a couple of weeks ago. (I had my daughter in high school, he's not her biological father) They were fishing on a deck w/the sunrise set right before them....it was the most beautiful sight I've ever seen in my life. The tears would not stop falling! They're finally out of that "buddy" stage and moving on to "father and daughter" stage. I will always have that picture in my mind. I just wonder what I'll be like when we have a child together and I see this little person made from him and me in his arms lol.

 

[I'ddie4him]

My wife E-Beth and I just had our 3rd anniversary today, And we are the same way Violet.
It has been rough about 50% of the time, But, Neither of us would change a thing.
We are actually still newlyweds ourselves by some peoples standards, But after a failed marriage under both our belts, We know what mistakes not to make.
Hope you have many happy years together.

 

[Raithlin]

Coming up on our 8th anniversary now, and I still fall in love with my wife every time I see her. It is something we have worked on since day one, and although it has been progressively difficult over the last few years (amazing what kids can do to passion and romance if you let them), we have seen a different bond form - the one spoken about above. Although I love my wife for who she is to me, I also love her for who she is to my two children... and I don't think I'll ever stop.

 

[Violet]

Congrats I'ddie4him & Raithlin! That is so sweet! Thanks for the reassurance

 

[SarahAblaze06]

wow these threads just make me melt! i am excited for that one day stuff that is yet to happen. hearing these stories and seeing people sucesful and ahppily in marriage is such an exciting and encouraging thing.

to Jenna- YOU ROCK!!! is all i have to say.

you guys are so inspiring in the most silly ways sometimes =)
my heart is with you all.

 

[Bunker]

It will be 16 years this August and I still get all excited when I hear his truck pull up the drive after work. After a night of lovemaking, I still get 'flashbacks' and can't help but to smile and get a lil' chill up my spine! He is my best friend..he has never, ever let me down and I trust him in all ways like I can trust no other person on earth. I am his biggest fan, and his own personal cheerleader. I still can't believe that God made this man just for me...and I am thankful everyday for him. It has not always been easy, but it has always been worth it. After 3 boys and a few too many pounds, he thinks I am still the most beautiful woman alive and can't keep his hands off me. Sometimes when I want to tell him to 'cool it'...(long day. headache, fighting kids)..I think....."Am I crazy????? After all these years He still lusts after me, and I should complain?" I think a key to a good marriage is to never take each other for granted, be your mans best cheerleader, and to always make him feel like a Man! It is so good to hear about everyones mushy gooshy marriages....proof that it IS possible!

 

[EmSchmem]

Graig and I have been married a year and 2 months also. It has been REALLY rough (we brought a LOT of **** into the marriage) but it is always worth it. We are going through some stuff now that may delay having a baby and that makes me sad, but I was thinking about our song a few minutes ago and had to email him to tell him I love him and am thinking about him. I can't wait to get into the car and put that CD in! It's going to be great and I'm going to be driving on the outerbelt crying and singing all loud and people will be looking at me and I'll just sing LOUDER!

 

[Violet]

lol...awww EmSchmem

You still have plenty of time to have a baby We've been trying for a year w/no luck so far...but whenever the good Lord is ready it will happen.

That's funny because after I posted this yesterday I put in our song and sang along in my car I had a few looks but I didn't care lol.

 

[Violet]

It will be 16 years this August and I still get all excited when I hear his truck pull up the drive after work. After a night of lovemaking, I still get 'flashbacks' and can't help but to smile and get a lil' chill up my spine! He is my best friend..he has never, ever let me down and I trust him in all ways like I can trust no other person on earth. I am his biggest fan, and his own personal cheerleader. I still can't believe that God made this man just for me...and I am thankful everyday for him. It has not always been easy, but it has always been worth it. After 3 boys and a few too many pounds, he thinks I am still the most beautiful woman alive and can't keep his hands off me. Sometimes when I want to tell him to 'cool it'...(long day. headache, fighting kids)..I think....."Am I crazy????? After all these years He still lusts after me, and I should complain?" I think a key to a good marriage is to never take each other for granted, be your mans best cheerleader, and to always make him feel like a Man! It is so good to hear about everyones mushy gooshy marriages....proof that it IS possible!

I couldn't help but let out a big sigh as I was reading this....how sweet! I will never take my husband for granted. I thank God for him every single day...and wonder what I did to deserve such a blessing.

Thank all of you so much for sharing all of this

 

[invisiblebabe]

i love your posts, y'all!

as for me, somedayyyy

 

[desi]

Sometimes I do, sometimes I don't get that feeling.

 

[EmSchmem]

lol...awww EmSchmem

You still have plenty of time to have a baby We've been trying for a year w/no luck so far...but whenever the good Lord is ready it will happen.

That's funny because after I posted this yesterday I put in our song and sang along in my car I had a few looks but I didn't care lol.

Thanks ! I'm really not too worried about getting pregnant again. At least not being able to. I am worried about being able to carry a baby to term and about making decisions if I can't. When we got pregnant we weren't trying and had only gone a few HOURS into our "not safe" time. And we had a BIG window of "not safe" time.

Emily

 

[Swtsnshyn]

It will be 16 years this August and I still get all excited when I hear his truck pull up the drive after work. After a night of lovemaking, I still get 'flashbacks' and can't help but to smile and get a lil' chill up my spine! He is my best friend..he has never, ever let me down and I trust him in all ways like I can trust no other person on earth. I am his biggest fan, and his own personal cheerleader. I still can't believe that God made this man just for me...and I am thankful everyday for him. It has not always been easy, but it has always been worth it. After 3 boys and a few too many pounds, he thinks I am still the most beautiful woman alive and can't keep his hands off me. Sometimes when I want to tell him to 'cool it'...(long day. headache, fighting kids)..I think....."Am I crazy????? After all these years He still lusts after me, and I should complain?" I think a key to a good marriage is to never take each other for granted, be your mans best cheerleader, and to always make him feel like a Man! It is so good to hear about everyones mushy gooshy marriages....proof that it IS possible!

I can totally relate!!! We will be married 25 years in October. Sometimes I think I'm just going to float away from all the butterflies! LOL! Seriously, the feelings (butterflies included) are stronger today than they were 25+ years ago. My husband and I have even talked about this very subject, and it is the same for him as it is for me. In fact, as I sit here now, I am getting butterflies!




God Bless!!
Dawn
Shining brightly for Jesus

 

[Lia]

Awesome stories! Thanks for sharing. I hope someday I will be able to share my "butterflies" story too with a future husband God has in store for me