Let me tell you a true life story. My home, growing up was a truly biblically arranged life when it came to the hierarchy of my parents marriage.
My dad was the "head", the "boss" and nobody questioned this. In 99% of the decisions in that house the result was not ever a worry. In 1% of them, my dad's word, which may not have been what my mom wanted... was the word, the law and final.
That marriage ran so smooth and my mother was never in doubt that my dad would put her before himself in all cases except those that were best for the household that her wishes not be appeased. My mother still knows that my father loves her and would die for her... don't ever insult, condescend, ignore, be rude or disrespect my mom in front of my father... you will get his wrath.
Now, look at my marriage. A modern marriage where the wife has equal say. What a mess. It's dysfunctional. She is the text book case for Genesis 3:16:
"and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee"
Our marriage has Two Heads and it is truly a monster.
On decisions of finances it's in shambles. Child rearing, the same. Luckily our kids have, through prayer and Christian schooling, turned out so far so good.
However, I am just a butler, a house boy. I do not feel respect from her and thus we are disconnected. I am far from a demanding tyrant that she makes me out to be when I disagree with her demands.
Our pastor told me that out marriage is "biblically inverted".
The woman has usurped the man's role and done so in the miss represented application of scripture.
I cannot show her the love of dying for her as she has already "killed" the man in me.
So, you decide. Man as the leader or equal leadership.
Proper, Godly, arrangement of authority in a marriage is why our grandparents lasted 60 or more years and why, now, even Christian marriages fail more than non christian marriages.
My dad was the "head", the "boss" and nobody questioned this. In 99% of the decisions in that house the result was not ever a worry. In 1% of them, my dad's word, which may not have been what my mom wanted... was the word, the law and final.
That marriage ran so smooth and my mother was never in doubt that my dad would put her before himself in all cases except those that were best for the household that her wishes not be appeased. My mother still knows that my father loves her and would die for her... don't ever insult, condescend, ignore, be rude or disrespect my mom in front of my father... you will get his wrath.
Now, look at my marriage. A modern marriage where the wife has equal say. What a mess. It's dysfunctional. She is the text book case for Genesis 3:16:
"and thy desire shall be to thy husband, and he shall rule over thee"
Our marriage has Two Heads and it is truly a monster.
On decisions of finances it's in shambles. Child rearing, the same. Luckily our kids have, through prayer and Christian schooling, turned out so far so good.
However, I am just a butler, a house boy. I do not feel respect from her and thus we are disconnected. I am far from a demanding tyrant that she makes me out to be when I disagree with her demands.
Our pastor told me that out marriage is "biblically inverted".
The woman has usurped the man's role and done so in the miss represented application of scripture.
I cannot show her the love of dying for her as she has already "killed" the man in me.
So, you decide. Man as the leader or equal leadership.
Proper, Godly, arrangement of authority in a marriage is why our grandparents lasted 60 or more years and why, now, even Christian marriages fail more than non christian marriages.
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