Do you like being single??

[Pony]

I was curious how many people that frequent this forum are single by choice, or just enjoy being single.

Do you ever have moment of lonlieness??

And are the people who are not single by choice really hatinbg it, or has it given them time to think about life...

What's the story??

I might only be 19, however, after the past relationship I have had, I'n starting to feel I should just stay single after all. I'm losing desire to get married one day, and definitly losing desire to have children.

 

[caitlincares]

I am a 40 year old virgin.
I broke of an engagement earlier this year.
So I am definately SINGLE by choice.

I felt relieved when I broke it off.
I am VERY CONTENT.
I do believe I will remain single and am okay with that.

Feel free to PM me if you ever need to talk.

 

[JohnnyV]

I have not been single long, I was in a relationship for over 13 years. It was my choice to leave, yes. I do however Hate being single. I am a relationship type guy. I like the long talks, the cuddles and hugs, kisses. I am working on my life though, going back to school and getting a degree. I know eventually I will date again and maybe marry, but til then I carry on.

 

[KeilCoppes]

I'm not single by choice but by providence. Having had a few relationships, I know that they are often very good while you are in them, and I miss that acceptance, that being together and having a special connection with someone else. I also know the pain when they broke up. I fairly deeply wish I were other than single, but that is the life that God has provided for me at this time, so I work to redirect my desires.

Don't let a failed relationship destroy possibilities for something better.
Don't let the actions of sinners destroy what good thing God may have for you.

 

[carine]

Well in a way singleness is a choice for me as I have come across people who would like to take friendship further and could have entered into a marriage minded relationship with them but I want Gods choice for me and I beleive this person will be like a soul mate and have same interests as me as well as a love for the Lord and not smoke or drink.
Most of us probably could accept people who are keen on us but whom are not our first choice just for the sake of not being alone and I know of some people who cant be on their own and go from one partner to another but these people are not saved. Guess as christians many of us are on our own as we are not controlled by the flesh and our first love is the Lord.
But it can be so so lonely at times.
It has its good points and its bad points.
For me I am a single parent with some health probs and cause i am on my own I have to be handyman well ok handywoman! and do all the DIY etc and at times it has been too much I do admit to the tears of frustration when I have to do everything on my own including the household repairs but the Lord has given me such inner strength at times and made me so competant at handling tough situations which I am grateful too as its meant Ive had to lean upon him.

 

[LadyDJ]

I'm single now by choice...one too many bad relationships convinced me to look to my own strengths and my faith for the peace and contentment I never had in any relationship. I'd be lying if I said I didn't have bad days where the loneliness didn't get to me to some degree...on those days I just pray more and lose myself in my kids.

 

[wvmtnkid]

Single, not quite by choice. I don't really hate it, but it isn't exactly where I would like to be. I am trying to be accepting and trust that the Lord has a plan for me.

There are things about being single that I love, I can go when ever I want, no one to check in with, eat what and whenever I want, sleep as late as I want on Saturday mornings (most weekends ). But, having been in a serious relationship, I also know what I am missing.

I guess, if I wanted to be married by now, I could be. I could have compromised some of my morals and my beliefs just to obtain that little gold ring. But in the end, I don't think it is worth it.

 

[OhhJim]

I've been single for 20 years, and I prefer it. I miss the physical benefits, but after several relationships, I realized I'd rather be alone than with someone who didn't care about whether or not I was happy.

 

[wildthing]

No I don't care for being single. It's hard to share a sun rise, mountain view it's hard to hold hands and it's hard going to church.

 

[elyonmishpat]

I was married for 32 years, been single now for almost 5 years. For me it is a blessing to be able to serve God with all my life.

Not that marriage was a bad thing, it just fell apart when I found God. It's kind of strange to say that a married couple got divorced because of God, but maybe others have experienced that as well.

At this point, I see my life going through a new season of love. Not with a single person who is destined to be a mate, but rather, a God given ability to pour my love and encouragement into those who are desparate for love and support - who have been ostracized by society, who have been rejected, betrayed, and shunned.

There has no been no greater blessing, than the love God has given me to be Jesus hands and feet to the outcasts of society. What I have received in return, I am not worthy of. I can only simply thank God, that He is in control of my life and has allowed me to love again in a way that is beyond my wildest dreams.

 

[ausablechick]

Being single isn't a choice that I made, somedays it's not so bad and somedays it really bothers me. I take one day at a time and take my lessons in patience.

 

[cisely]

I'm single and it just seems that is what God wants for me. I have never had a serious relationship. Most of the time I am content with my 'independent lifestyle' and my total dependence on God. The lonliness comes and goes. I believe that if God wants marriage for me, He will introduce me to the right man.

 

[Rand1956]

Being newly and rather suddenly single, I haven't had to come to grips with it yet. Mostly because being a single parent with a 16-year-old daughter has kept me too busy to notice. At the moment, I'm leaning heavily on my church and friends and trying not to worry about anything else. It's amazing how loving a child can limit one's time to brood over oneself.
Randall

 

[caitlincares]

Being newly and rather suddenly single, I haven't had to come to grips with it yet. Mostly because being a single parent with a 16-year-old daughter has kept me too busy to notice. At the moment, I'm leaning heavily on my church and friends and trying not to worry about anything else. It's amazing how loving a child can limit one's time to brood over oneself.
Randall

Randall,

Welcome to CF and especially to the "mature" singles forum.
We are here for you if you ever need to talk.

 

[wildthing]

Being single isn't a choice that I made, somedays it's not so bad and somedays it really bothers me. I take one day at a time and take my lessons in patience.

I am not so much making a comment about what you said but I am making comment about your name ausablechick some of the best memories I every had was canoeing down the Ausable river and camping around Grayling. I hope you have a great fall season. If you get a chance check out the Detroit Free Press Travel Section in this Sunday's paper (Sept,19 2004)

 

[ausablechick]

I am not so much making a comment about what you said but I am making comment about your name ausablechick some of the best memories I every had was canoeing down the Ausable river and camping around Grayling. I hope you have a great fall season. If you get a chance check out the Detroit Free Press Travel Section in this Sunday's paper (Sept,19 2004)

Thank you for noticing my name, some people get it very wrong. Fall is just bearly beginning around here. Thanks for the heads up on the Free Press.

 

[hischildsindik]

Do I like being single? Hmmm.... most days it is okay, is it my first choice in life, no... it's where God has me at this moment. Guess He is trying to teach me some things, wish I'd get along with it and learn.... *pries open heart... let's see if that will work faster...

It's a huge difference between knowing God is all I need (head knowledge) and Knowing deep inside the heart that God is ALL I need. I think once I work out the later, perhaps then He will work on my behalf to fulfill the desires He has given me for marriage and children.

God bless!

 

[Rand1956]

Randall,

Welcome to CF and especially to the "mature" singles forum.
We are here for you if you ever need to talk.

Thanks very much. I might take y'all up on that, assuming I ever catch up enough. I appreciate the comfort that seems to be found here.

Randall

PS: Caitlin is a lovely name; I named my daughter that!

 

[caitlincares]

PS: Caitlin is a lovely name; I named my daughter that!

Thanks. My real name is Cathy. But named for Katherine Grayson.
But when I bought my own domain decided Caitlin Creations sounded better than Cathy Creations.
So I go by Caitlin online. I like it.

 

[Rand1956]

Thanks. My real name is Cathy. But named for Katherine Grayson.
But when I bought my own domain decided Caitlin Creations sounded better than Cathy Creations.
So I go by Caitlin online. I like it.

Katherine Grayson as in "Showboat"? ... Well, I am biased, but I also like "Caitlin Creations." But both names are nice and anyway are from the same root, right?

Randall