Do you have "Oneitis"?

[Not David]

It is when you see someone you like as the best person in the world and try to have a relationship with that individual.

I have tried avoiding doing that but it is difficult to avoid with this woman:

 

[Lost4words]

Every time i get taken to the park!

 

[yeshuaslavejeff]

It is when you see someone you like as the best person in the world and try to have a relationship with that individual.

I have tried avoiding doing that but it is difficult to avoid with this woman:
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Beauty is vain (empty).

Turn away from even looking.

Instead turn to Yahuweh, to what is right, pure, and wise as He Says.

 

[public hermit]

Is "Noneitis" a word? I think I have that. Every time I see a beautiful woman I think, "She'll make me just as miserable as the last one."

 

[Not David]

Is "Noneitis" a word? I think I have that. Every time I see a beautiful woman I think, "She'll make me just as miserable as the last one."

She could write a song about you

 

[yeshuaslavejeff]

Is "Noneitis" a word? I think I have that. Every time I see a beautiful woman I think, "She'll make me just as miserable as the last one."

There shouldn't be a last one, or rather , the last one should be the last one, no more to sin with another one.

 

[HisGraceAbounds]

I had this once. I was incredibly enamored with a woman, and she was "perfect" in my mind. I was a fool for her.

She did not feel the same. Not at all.

 

[yeshuaslavejeff]

Job 31:1 "I have made a covenant with my eyes ... - Bible Hub
Job 31:1 "I have made a covenant with my eyes. How then could I gaze with desire at a virgin?
Verse 1. - I made a covenant with mine eyes; rather, for mine eyes. The covenant must have been with himself. Job means that be came to a fixed resolution, by which he thenceforth guided his conduct, not even to "look upon a woman to lust after her" (Matthew 5:28).

Job 31-35 KJV - I made a covenant with mine eyes; why - Bible ...
Bible Gateway passage: Job 31-35 - King James Version
Job 31-35 King James Version (KJV). 31 I made a covenant with mine eyes; why then should I think upon a maid? 2 For what portion of God is there from above? and what inheritance of the Almighty from on high?

 

[Not David]

I had this once. I was incredibly enamored with a woman, and she was "perfect" in my mind. I was a fool for her.

She did not feel the same. Not at all.

I have done that in middle and high school and even in college but then I noticed that "the most wonderful girl" was every girl I got fixed on.

 

[MehGuy]

Not really.. I find some women really cute and think about them more often than others.. but with my psychology.. I can't really "fall in love" with women in the traditional sense.

 

[Not David]

Not really.. I find some women really cute and think about them more often than others.. but with my psychology.. I can't really "fall in love" with women in the traditional sense.

What do you mean in the traditional sense?

 

[dayhiker]

I don't have oneitis, as I love spending time with women. They are beautiful creations that God has given to us guys. I find women are lonely and so I try to help them with their loneliness. I find that keeps me full of job at the goodness of God to me.

 

[S.O.J.I.A.]

I've experienced this in the past, in my less knowledgeable days.

quite foolish if you ask me.

 

[ReesePiece23]

Not really.. I find some women really cute and think about them more often than others.. but with my psychology.. I can't really "fall in love" with women in the traditional sense.

I know exactly what you mean - more than you'd ever realise, actually.

What I initially thought was "a fear of getting hurt" (a mentality which came from a break up that was quite frankly, bloody YEARS ago) I now realise is just a sense of resounding indifference for the conventional idea of "love".

I'm not likely to ever say "I love you" - I'm the type to most likely paint some sort of weird avant-garde painting to show it instead. Something that no one else but me will understand.

 

[blackribbon]

It is when you see someone you like as the best person in the world and try to have a relationship with that individual.

I have tried avoiding doing that but it is difficult to avoid with this woman:
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That is setting yourself up for diappointment and a failed relationship if that person ever actually entered into a relationship with you. No person can meet that imaginary image of perfection and it is burdensome to place on them.

Oneitis is what God wants from us. No human is ever going to fill that void in us.

 

[Sketcher]

I unfortunately find One-itis very hard to avoid when I allow myself to get significantly attached to someone.

 

[Not David]

I unfortunately find One-itis very hard to avoid when I allow myself to get significantly attached to someone.

Try to thing of the times you had Oneitis before and how you don't find those girls special anymore.

 

[Sketcher]

Try to thing of the times you had Oneitis before and how you don't find those girls special anymore.

That doesn't really solve the problem. My brain doesn't seem to have a setting between "Jaded" and "Oneitis". That's the problem.

 

[Not David]

That doesn't really solve the problem. My brain doesn't seem to have a setting between "Jaded" and "Oneitis". That's the problem.

Well, try to find value on yourself. Oneitis makes you needy and women hate that.

 

[blackribbon]

Why do any of you get that attach to someone you are not in are real relationship with? Obviously your attachment is to an imagined version of the person you are focusing on.