Do YOU have a crush on anyone? (6)

[stephanieamber]

tomorrow i see the boy I have a crush on...

 

[Bitnd12]

tomorrow i see the boy I have a crush on...

Oooooh! Do tell!

 

[stephanieamber]

Oooooh! Do tell!

it's nothing that exciting... he's a boy in my bible study. he is so freaking wise and SO SO SO funny.. but really quiet. i dont know. he intrigues me. this will probably be the last time I see him for months.

 

[deliciousBass]

I do wish that I had someone to feel excited over and possibly make me feel better, especially right now.


How pathetic is that? *doh*

~I feel the same way. I just got home at 10:30 pm after a looooong day and I feel like "dang, I wish I had somebody to snuggle up to and complain about my day with" Seriously, I can whine. I would make up for all the whining during the week on weekends by taking her patient butt out to eat Because it takes a LOOOOOOOTTTTT of patience to be with me. So FYI, if you're interested in me (not that anyone here is ) just know that you had better be in the upper 10th percentile of patience if you want our relationship to last

Okay, that was a rant but I'm exhausted so I don't care.

 

[Bitnd12]

Aw, that sucks, Steph. Sounds like a good guy.

 

[Beauty4Ashes]

This is just another way that I'm more "like a guy". I can't stand being with someone who needs constant reassurance. If I tell you I love you, it doesn't stop being true unless I say so. Don't make me say it at the end of every phone call, the end of every conversation, every time we go to bed, etc etc etc etc. Ugh. Let me say it when my heart needs to say it. It'll mean something then. And oddly enough, when I'm NOT pressured, it tends to well up a lot more often.

I grew up hearing I love you from my parents often throughout the day. I do believe it has had a positive impact on who I have become today. Though it's also something I'm just used to. It's something I say to family and friends as well. I believe in expressing affection, not just when I feel it but as a way of uplifting the other person and reminding them how much I care for them. Doesn't mean it's a constant thing, however I definately see it as a positive and don't see it as a a desire to have or show constant reassurance. Obviously it is present in my relationship with my boyfriend also because we do love eachother and why wouldn't we express it and who doesn't like to hear someone loves them? Especially when we were long distance, it really helped with to be able to say I love you to eachother because it gave a sense of closeness and security without being able to show the person that in person.

 

[stephanieamber]

he is the best. I met him in january.. and I didn't even really notice him until he opened his bible to lead the bible study and my heart justl ike... did this crazy thing and i was like "....oh crap." and i find that when he is talking in bible study, I just sit there and am like "i want you to teach me thingsm y entire life." and feel so weird inside. oh btw i dont ever say that, that would be weeeird

 

[Redstiletto]

he is the best. I met him in january.. and I didn't even really notice him until he opened his bible to lead the bible study and my heart justl ike... did this crazy thing and i was like "....oh crap." and i find that when he is talking in bible study, I just sit there and am like "i want you to teach me thingsm y entire life." and feel so weird inside. oh btw i dont ever say that, that would be weeeird

All I have to say is...

AAAAAAAAWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW

 

[Bitnd12]

Dude, Steph, I wish I could find someone like that. Give him your email address or something. Whether "something happens" or not, it couldn't hurt to stay in touch with him if he was willing to.


EDIT: And yeah, what Red said - AWWWW!

 

[.Mikha'el.]

it's nothing that exciting... he's a boy in my bible study. he is so freaking wise and SO SO SO funny.. but really quiet. i dont know. he intrigues me. this will probably be the last time I see him for months.

Facebook perhaps?

 

[stephanieamber]

well he has facebook, we're friends there.. I don't think he would e-mail me or anything. he is kind of weird. I dunno. that's not me being like hard on myself or anything - I don't treat him any differently than any other boys I know, but he doesn't seem like the kind to just randomly send an e-mail. i'll be at camp.. I'm going to try and make it home for church if I'm able to, partially to see him. Even though I don't believe in pursuing a boy or anything, I don't think there's anything wrong with being pursuable and reminding him I exist? haha

 

[Bitnd12]

well he has facebook, we're friends there.. I don't think he would e-mail me or anything. he is kind of weird. I dunno. that's not me being like hard on myself or anything - I don't treat him any differently than any other boys I know, but he doesn't seem like the kind to just randomly send an e-mail. i'll be at camp.. I'm going to try and make it home for church if I'm able to, partially to see him. Even though I don't believe in pursuing a boy or anything, I don't think there's anything wrong with being pursuable and reminding him I exist? haha

Sounds like a plan to me.

 

[.Mikha'el.]

I don't believe in pursuing a boy or anything

And why not?

 

[stephanieamber]

And why not?

I believe this holds true to most of the female population, but...

For the most part, I am very emotional. It is very easy for me to read into boys' actions; girls are really great at that. My friend Bee once said that if I guy can be summed up in one sentence, girls will write four pages about them and why they are doing whatever they're doing.

That said, I'd rather not invest tons of energy into pursuing a boy and let him pursue me. Like I wrote earlier, this doesn't mean that I am playing hard to get or even playing any games.. but I am letting the boy (not just the one in question, but any boy) be the one to make his actions/motives clear, because otherwise.. really, any boy I pursue would be in love with me unless otherwise stated (because girls can make something out of nothing).

Plus, I want a husband I can submit to.. someone that I see as being strong and able to stand their ground and who I can respect. If I am pursuing a boy, I don't feel like I'm building him up to be any of those things in my head. Instead he is weak, silly, and unaware. Again.. my own personal thoughts based on who I am and what I want.

 

[stephanieamber]

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kbye

 

[SonicBOOM]

Stephinie I understand and beleive that the guy should be the one who pursues. However I do think sometimes the tables can be turned and I think sometimes men are just to shy or slow to catch onto things.... I would try to take a plunge at some point when you feel you've gotten to know him enough where it would be approperate. Ask him out..... no relationship is ever formed without someone taking a chance and crossing the line from freindship to romance. Be brave be vulnerable be daring be a woman

 

[Tink]

Yep!

 

[ido]

Yep!

 

[.Mikha'el.]

Stephinie I understand and beleive that the guy should be the one who pursues. However I do think sometimes the tables can be turned and I think sometimes men are just to shy or slow to catch onto things.... I would try to take a plunge at some point when you feel you've gotten to know him enough where it would be approperate. Ask him out..... no relationship is ever formed without someone taking a chance and crossing the line from freindship to romance. Be brave be vulnerable be daring be a woman

I agree. I don't believe the guy should always be the one to do the pursuing. The pursuit should be undertaken by the interested party, regardless of gender.

 

[latteda]

I grew up hearing I love you from my parents often throughout the day. I do believe it has had a positive impact on who I have become today. Though it's also something I'm just used to. It's something I say to family and friends as well. I believe in expressing affection, not just when I feel it but as a way of uplifting the other person and reminding them how much I care for them. Doesn't mean it's a constant thing, however I definately see it as a positive and don't see it as a a desire to have or show constant reassurance. Obviously it is present in my relationship with my boyfriend also because we do love eachother and why wouldn't we express it and who doesn't like to hear someone loves them? Especially when we were long distance, it really helped with to be able to say I love you to eachother because it gave a sense of closeness and security without being able to show the person that in person.

Me, too. I am a little sad if I go to bed without hearing it. It's not because I need the reassurance, though. I know that he loves me. It's just good to hear it, and to be able to say it.