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Do you have a "backup" friend?

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Spicy McHaggis

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I had one a couple years ago. I think it was 45 yrs old we'd get married. Then I found out she had a backup at 40, so I asked my friend Jen to be my backup at age 38.

Hopefully none of us took it seriously.
 
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I have several really close female friends, and though I considered dating each one, for one reason or another I decided against it. But still they're really close friends, I talk to them at least weekly and even pour my heart out to one of them.

I don't consider them a backup at all, they're my friends and no close friend of my takes backseat.
 
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puffca said:
Was it because you wanted to use the "backup" too early? just teasing...

jeez, you are young.
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Lol, yeah I know I'm young

But the close friends thing with guys I have learned isn't a good thing, so no, backups aren't going to be happening for me.
 
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I think i was the back up friend once. I was never asked to be, but i think i was the safe girl that he would come back to when there was no one else for him or a relationship failed. And I was really nieve (sp?) and thought maybe he really liked me. It was confusing.
 
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puffca said:
Like in the movie "my best friend's wedding", at certain age if you both are still single you marry each other.

It doesn't have to be taken literally. I guess my question is: Do you have a very close friend of opposite sex?
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I don't have any close friends of the opposite sex, no.

I don't have a backup friend either, because that would be a sign that I'm not trusting God to fulfill His Promise.
God promised me a wife, and He isn't a liar.
A backup wife in case God fails? That's ridiculous.

I desire a wife more than the average person does, but I would rather be single for the rest of my life than to get married to someone that wasn't perfect for me.
To be honest, even if every girl I saw asked me out and pursued me crazily, I'd turn them all down, because I'd rather cry myself to sleep alone than to date or marry a girl that is disappointing to me. I just could not live with myself, knowing I am dating/marrying someone I have no interest in. Interesting girls are hard enough to find, I don't think I'd even be able to find a backup girl. I have a lot of confidence and self-worth, so my standards are ridiculously high, and rightly so. No matter how lonely or desperate I became, I refuse to lower my standards. I know it's ridiculous to want a girl my age with a great personality who is as passionately in love with God (or more) than me, because they're really really hard to find, but that's what I want, and I could not live with less.
 
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puffca said:
Like in the movie "my best friend's wedding", at certain age if you both are still single you marry each other.

It doesn't have to be taken literally. I guess my question is: Do you have a very close friend of opposite sex?
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Yes I have a close friend. I would never consider marrying him. I see him like a brother. Known him since I can remember.
 
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puffca said:
Like in the movie "my best friend's wedding", at certain age if you both are still single you marry each other.

It doesn't have to be taken literally. I guess my question is: Do you have a very close friend of opposite sex?
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I don't have a close guy friend at all. Heck, I barely even have guy friends..It's so bad!
 
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