Do you get angry at God or them?

[radhead]

Do you believe God brings undesirable people into your life because He wants you specifically to help them? Does it make you angry?

Bullies. Bad coworkers. Work/love rivals. Unwanted love interests. Unwanted friends.

Who is your anger directed towards?

 

[mina]

at them.....
But I feel like God puts many of those people in my life to teach me to love them or to have patience- it's where i put to work the things that God has taught me

 

[E.C.]

I get mad at them. It is easier.

I believe that God allows it for a few reasons.
-To teach us humility via them.
-To teach them something via us.

Or maybe even to test. Let us say that I have a wife. I am one day assigned to work on some project with the most attractive single woman at my job. I would imagine that God allowed or orchestrated this so that A) I could find out, the hard way, how faithful I am towards my wife and B) Say she had doubts for a while about my faithfulness. Should I manage to work along side the co-worker without an affair or suspicions of one occurring, than my wife has realized that the faithfulness between us is strong and thus normalcy returns to the universe.

Most of the time, I believe that it is to test us.

 

[Janetlove]

Hi I'm new here!! But I was just thinking about this today!! It seems like lately I'm surrounded by undesirable people(coworkers, crazy family members etc.). There are days when I feel like wow what the heck is going on??! At first I was angry with both God and them. Now I believe God is working with me on patience and how to deal with people. But believe me there are still some days when I feel like running and hiding!!

 

[soccerdad66]

Neither honestly, not to say I don't get mad. God isn't to blame, but we live in a fallen world that we are all a part of.

 

[mina]

Those that deserve love the least, probably need it the most; so i try to keep that in mind.

 

[Stravinsk]

Do you believe God brings undesirable people into your life because He wants you specifically to help them? Does it make you angry?

Bullies. Bad coworkers. Work/love rivals. Unwanted love interests. Unwanted friends.

Who is your anger directed towards?

I know some pastors and councilers say that it is "ok to be angry at God" and that it is natural and even expected.

I disagree.

After my wife died I was extremely angry at God. My prayers to Him were filled with blame and contempt. I even publically expressed this anger, bringing shame to the faith by saying some of the things I said.

All of this anger did nothing good for me. It did not help me bring me to any spiritual insights and it certainly did not bring any peace.

In the course of the next few years, gradually I made some decisions to be more obedient at certain points, specifically some of the Commandments I was rebelling against. It was during this time, one night that I felt a great sense of peace wash over me as I apologized to God for the things I had said and the anger/hate I had kept.

Sometimes we are hurt by people or circumstances in our life. The example of Christ teaches us to try to obey despite circumstances, not to get angry and resentful because our life isn't perfect.

 

[Xen_Antares]

I know some pastors and councilers say that it is "ok to be angry at God" and that it is natural and even expected.

I disagree.

After my wife died I was extremely angry at God. My prayers to Him were filled with blame and contempt. I even publically expressed this anger, bringing shame to the faith by saying some of the things I said.

All of this anger did nothing good for me. It did not help me bring me to any spiritual insights and it certainly did not bring any peace.

In the course of the next few years, gradually I made some decisions to be more obedient at certain points, specifically some of the Commandments I was rebelling against. It was during this time, one night that I felt a great sense of peace wash over me as I apologized to God for the things I had said and the anger/hate I had kept.

Sometimes we are hurt by people or circumstances in our life. The example of Christ teaches us to try to obey despite circumstances, not to get angry and resentful because our life isn't perfect.

Anger never really resolves anything, whether it be directed at God or fellow man. I lose my cool at ball games and shout at the TV, it doesn't do any good and I feel even worse about it in the end. My neighbors probably think I am crazy too.

Getting mad at God is natural, if you have any sort of relationship with him, anger will occur, and believe me God understands, he will listen and he will forgive. Its when you never get mad at God that should make you worry, because as part of any relationship in your humanly life, anger is part of it.

Now as far as the OP, I can not bring myself to getting angry at God for those things. God only put them here, its their decision to be annoying. Only time I ever get mad at him is when circumstances are beyond my control and are so overwhelming I about lose it, or have lost it.

 

[Blank123]

I get angry with people who are being in appropriate in their behaviour towards me in whatever regard when they're perfectly aware they're not acting in an appropriate manner.

People who just have a crush on me when its not reciprocated or people who want to be my friend when i ordinarily wouldn't strike up a friendship with them on my own don't anger me though unless, as i said, they're going about expressing that to me in an inappropriate way.

 

[WileyCoyote]

Do you believe God brings undesirable people into your life because He wants you specifically to help them? Does it make you angry?

Bullies. Bad coworkers. Work/love rivals. Unwanted love interests. Unwanted friends.

Who is your anger directed towards?

Why are my hands made in such a way that they fit so perfectly around their necks if I'm not supposed to strangle them?

 

[Blank123]

 

[toastface_grillah]

Meh. I get mad at the people. God brings people into our lives for a reason, but if those people treat us badly, that's their deal.

 

[Ladielissa]

I don't know if it is God. I don't know who puts toxic people in my life. I try to get rid of people that are toxic, mean, etc... in my life. The thing that gets to me is circumstances that I can't control. When someone that is a fixture in my life, an important immovable fixture, associates with toxic, downright ugly people... I get angry. I don't know if I am angry at God for not removing these people, or at them for being there. I try to remember that God has a plan and a list of lessons for me to learn. I TRY to see the positive side. I am human, so I do not always succeed, and I get frustrated at my lack of control.

 

[GoodNewsJim]

I could never be mad at God. He's so good to me, and very personal too. He doesn't need to get me high daily, but he does. It is a real high that is even better knowing eternal life is forever. God's awesomeness makes me want to serve him with more and more drive. Every day I wake up and go,"What can I do for God today?"

Wow, I love God. I know its off topic. But God really is excellent.

 

[stephanieamber]

It's interesting to me that whenever something happens we assume the Lord went out of his way to cause it, when the reality could be that he just didn't do anything to stop it. That means that He neither brought them to you or made specific plans for you to do anything with them.. but they just happened to be there.

and I always get frustrated with the Lord regarding those kinds of people. When I wrestle with him, it takes my relationship with him to a much deeper level and it exhausts me and ends up helping me love the person more than if I were angry at them.

 

[* kittie *]

Well I'm one of those *evil* ones that has gotten mad at both. Angry at "them" because of how much I hurt...
Sometimes angry at God out of frustration. I wouldn't say angry...more like saying angrily that the person really...irks me. And needing direction before I kick them out of my life.
But I'm honest, and don't believe in pretending like everything is rosy. Cause really, for me, I'm not all roses.