Being single I can date an endless supply of people. So if I'm with someone and either of us lose that lovin feelin we can move on and its not that big of a deal. This is one reason I fear marriage. I think eventually all our stories will become old news and we'll be left in a stagnant relationship rehashing our glory days wondering if either of us could have done better. How do you avoid this, can you avoid it?
so now i'll get into the nitty gritty instead of just answering the title question... sorry!
ya know, i always struggled with relationships. seems like the longest i could stay in a relationship without feeling bored with the person was a couple of months. in one case, it lasted a couple of years, but i think the only reason it lasted so long is because he kept walking out on me and i'd stay obsessed til he came back around. yeah, totally unhealthy.
and unfortunately, that pattern of boredom and finding a new partner even existed during my first marriage. ouch.
but after my divorce and nearly ten years as a single mom, i turned my 'love life' over to God and asked Him to bring me His very best for my life. sometimes i still wonder why God brought me my particular husband... it certainly hasn't been a smooth ride, and there are some major issues, and my husband has wandered far from God at this point. BUT....
God gave me an unconditional love for this man that has lasted for 12 years and counting. he's made me angry, he's made me sad, and he's made me want to hate him, but through it all, i've never stopped LOVING him. not an unhealthy kind of love, but the kind of love that only God can give.
and He'll give YOU that kind of love for your spouse too, if you wait for God to bring you the person He has in store for you.