Do you ever crave...

[dluvs2trvl]

romantic physical affection from the opposite sex?

I was telling flnativegrl earlier today that I am absolutely craving physical affections from a man and I'm not talking about sex though that would really nice too...but I'm just absolutely longing to be held and kissed and cuddled with and hold hands and the feel of a mans hand in the small of my back as we are crossing the street or his arm around me as we sit in a movie theatre....

Do any of you ever battle with craving that romantic affection that comes with a dating/committed relationship?

And the really scary thought for me is, what if I never have that again???

 

[ido]

I really wanted a kiss tonight - but I got a hug instead (he said he was being a gentleman )

I've gone ridiculously long stretches without dating someone. There was even one guy that I went out with a handful of times and never held hands/hugged/kissed at all. I'm a touchy feely person, so I definitely crave hand holding, hugging, kissing, snuggling.

My advice? Get a dog like Breann said.

 

[dluvs2trvl]

Yeah...it's really difficult for me cause one of my love languages is physical affection so it's so hard to go long stretches without it...but I also don't want it from any Tom, Dick or Harry! I want to actually like the guy and be attracted to him! Like with your date tonight...you like the guy so you wanted a kiss...I would've been the same way - if I don't like the guy I don't want one but if I do - I do

Yeah - a dog would be great but somehow I just don't think it would be the same...

 

[Jenster]

Hey! Someone went on a date!

D, I don't know that I crave physical affection like you do, though I sure do remember how great that feels. My love language is quality time. If I think about either too much, I'll probably get really sad since I don't have either...

 

[dluvs2trvl]

Hey! Someone went on a date!

D, I don't know that I crave physical affection like you do, though I sure do remember how great that feels. My love language is quality time. If I think about either too much, I'll probably get really sad since I don't have either...

Hmmm...that's interesting...I miss having time with that someone special because that is one of the other love languages high up on my list but I don't miss it as much as I miss the physical affection....

I think that we each miss different things about relationships and I'm just not sure how to deal with it because there isn't anything we can do about it...it just is what it is but how do you deal with the feelings??? I just don't know...and then what if it's like this forever? What if I don't find anyone and stay single - that is really going to SUCK!!!

 

[Jenster]

Uh-oh! Now don't slip into "what ifs" on me, sister. "What ifs" don't exist. They're just fear trying to convince you to give up and be miserable. Try to get your mind off of them and back onto things you enjoy or things that you have some control over.

Or at the least, turn them on their heads: "What if" you meet your husband next week? What if you land the job you want in April? What if a sudden opportunity comes up to do something wildly fun? Won't that be GREAT?

Hang in there, D. I know where you're at 'cause I've been there too, but I pray that you'll sense God's presence tonight through His Spirit and that you'll hold onto His hand and feel His arm around your shoulder. You are His beloved daughter.

 

[eatenbylocusts]

Do any of you ever battle with craving that romantic affection that comes with a dating/committed relationship?

No, never. Wait, why is my nose growing? This was seriously lacking in my relationship with T1. I never knew when he was going to be affectionate, and it seemed to be seriously lacking when he was around anyone he knew. He rarely ever held my hand. That was the first time I realized how much the hugs and kisses meant to me. When they stop, it feels like the relationship is over. What's worse is being in a marriage where sex is the only physical affection you get. (Why do I hear the men saying what's so bad with that?)

No hugs = more eating.

 

[dluvs2trvl]

Uh-oh! Now don't slip into "what ifs" on me, sister. "What ifs" don't exist. They're just fear trying to convince you to give up and be miserable. Try to get your mind off of them and back onto things you enjoy or things that you have some control over.

Or at the least, turn them on their heads: "What if" you meet your husband next week? What if you land the job you want in April? What if a sudden opportunity comes up to do something wildly fun? Won't that be GREAT?

Hang in there, D. I know where you're at 'cause I've been there too, but I pray that you'll sense God's presence tonight through His Spirit and that you'll hold onto His hand and feel His arm around your shoulder. You are His beloved daughter.

I hear ya Jen but I guess I'm just at a place right now where I think what's the point of hoping for things like that because I've done that before and it hasn't happened...I'm still alone...

I do get what your saying though because I would be saying the same thing to me if I were you...I'm just down and it seems like it's all I have on my mind lately...and yeah - I try to distract myself with other things but it's just that a distraction and I know that I'm just trying to distract myself from feeling frustrated about being single so it really doesn't accomplish what it is supposed too...

meh...I'm sure the mood will pass and I'll be fun...just frustrated right now and feeling down...

 

[ido]

Uh-oh! Now don't slip into "what ifs" on me, sister. "What ifs" don't exist. They're just fear trying to convince you to give up and be miserable. Try to get your mind off of them and back onto things you enjoy or things that you have some control over.

Or at the least, turn them on their heads: "What if" you meet your husband next week? What if you land the job you want in April? What if a sudden opportunity comes up to do something wildly fun? Won't that be GREAT?

Hang in there, D. I know where you're at 'cause I've been there too, but I pray that you'll sense God's presence tonight through His Spirit and that you'll hold onto His hand and feel His arm around your shoulder. You are His beloved daughter.

Great post! Reps coming your way.

 

[AirForceTeacher]

romantic physical affection from the opposite sex?

I was telling flnativegrl earlier today that I am absolutely craving physical affections from a man and I'm not talking about sex though that would really nice too...but I'm just absolutely longing to be held and kissed and cuddled with and hold hands and the feel of a mans hand in the small of my back as we are crossing the street or his arm around me as we sit in a movie theatre....

Do any of you ever battle with craving that romantic affection that comes with a dating/committed relationship?

And the really scary thought for me is, what if I never have that again???

Yes.

 

[dluvs2trvl]

Yes.

Uhmmm...seriously, could you try to make your posts shorter cause you're really clogging up the thread flow here!

 

[AirForceTeacher]

Uhmmm...seriously, could you try to make your posts shorter cause you're really clogging up the thread flow here!

k

 

[dluvs2trvl]

k

 

[ido]

Yoy - I'm not sure who the bigger child is here.

 

[dluvs2trvl]

Yoy - I'm not sure who the bigger child is here.

He started it!

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

My advice? Get a dog like Breann said.

I have a dog....it's not the same! Do I think about it? Only every day

 

[dluvs2trvl]

Do I think about it? Only every day

Glad I'm not the only one!

 

[AirForceTeacher]

I have a dog....it's not the same! Do I think about it? Only every day

Yeah, I love my cat, but it's not the same either.

 

[ido]

I would hope it's not the same. I love my dog to pieces, but I hardly use her as a replacement for a man. lol

I think it helps to have a pet for at least some level of companionship, tho.

 

[FlatpickingJD]

Having a pet makes the house less lonely to come home to, and it's nice to know that something living gives a care that you're there.

But it doesn't keep you from wanting someone to share more with.

So, like AFT said to your OP: yes.