do you believe that there is that one person out there for everyone? (marriage)

[cplsamcorion]

I guess this has kind of popped into my head recently because I was talking to someone about how I would rather not have kids and was wondering.. do you think that there is one specific person you are supposed to be with or is it that there are many different people out there that you could have a successful marriage with?
Marriage is mostly just loving the other person beyond the annoying things they do and past differing opinions (as far as I see it), so why couldn't it work with more than one person.

 

[waywardone]

Sorry I have to disagree. Marriage is embracing all the things that annoy you about that person, and seeing well beyond the simply human needs. To me, I am amazingly crazy for my wife. She calms my nerves, makes me smile, supports all of my stupid ventures, and even encourages me when I am ready to walk out the door. Anyways, when you need that person more than air, that is when you know you have the one. As for children, truly they are a blessing from God, nothing is more fulfilling than t watch a child grow in God under your care.

 

[Fed]

I think, by definition, there is one person out there that is more ideal than everyone else. What I don't believe is that you're destined to meet that person. People grow to love each other and you can be satisfied with someone who's not the most ideal person in the world.

 

[alfrodull]

I feel that if there were only one person, then most people wouldn't be able to marry at all. I mean, everyone sins and goes against God's life plan for us. And our sin effects not only ourselves, but others. What if one destined partner dies, or marries the wrong person?

I think that for most individuals, there are a few people that would make an ideal match. Obviously there are some people that are meant to remain single and maybe there are even a few that do have to be paired up with a specific partner for some reason, but for the most part I think God is merciful enough to give us some backup plans.

 

[Ainuhina]

I don't know what I think...really...I just know that I believe that there is ONE man out there for me and that I'm gonna wait for him even if it takes the rest of my life....though I have no clue how I will know when I met him

about a year ago I commited the whole issue to God - before that the first thought when meeting a boy was "is he the ONE?" and I was sick of that....so I just prayed to God that if I stopp thinking that He will tell me when it's the right one...I stopped worrying and started waiting and so far it works pretty well for me....

There might be more than one person out there with whom a marriage would work for me - but I'm not gonna settle with less than the perfect match God planed for me

 

[BeautifulChange]

if you are meant to be married than there's ONE person at a time not necesarily just ONE in your lifetime. there are times where divorce and death happens that may open another door.

 

[micbmac]

many different

 

[Bowedb4Him]

with couples(marriage)..i believe there is a rib (woman) for every adam (man)....

 

[tbird_energizerbunny]

Just my 2 cents.

I think that there is one person out there, that we could have the greatest marriage in the world with, if we pursue that relationship instead of giving up. These kinds of deep relationships arent' made in just a few minutes, hours or months, this relationship grows as people continue to grow. It's a test of your patience as well as your comittment to a person (probably also a test of self-control as you decide to "wait" for marriage).

However, sometimes people "settle" for something instead of looking for the "one". These "settlements" can be just as good or just as sucessful.

 

[emilina22]

my opnion is that God know what he has set for you, he knows whats going to happen to you and your life, and whether that be to get married, start a family and then God forbid something were to happen to your spouse (other than divorce) there may be another person out there that you are compatible with. to say that there is one person out there for the rest of your life is ideal becasue when you are in love and you are getting married to that ONE person thats what it is, and thats what gods plan is, but if something were to happen to your spouse i do think that there are other people that God may have set out for you, NOTE that i do not condone cheating and i would never see myself marrying any one other than my boyfriend. But who am i to say what Gods will is...its up to him and not me.

 

[smile]

I really don't know. I think you can have a happy marriage if both partners pursue it.

 

[Briseis]

I believe that there is more than one. Love is a choice. Find someone you want to love, and simply decide to love them forever. If there was only one person for everyone, it wouldnt really be a choice.

 

[PostTribber]

...yes, His name is Jesus!

 

[Lead]

I guess this has kind of popped into my head recently because I was talking to someone about how I would rather not have kids and was wondering.. do you think that there is one specific person you are supposed to be with or is it that there are many different people out there that you could have a successful marriage with?
Marriage is mostly just loving the other person beyond the annoying things they do and past differing opinions (as far as I see it), so why couldn't it work with more than one person.

I think that God has appointed a specific person for each of us. I get that from the story of Isaac and Rebeca. The servant, when he was praying, said something along the lines of "let her be the one you have appointed for my master's son." You can look it up. I think it is around Genesis 17.

What happens if you marry the wrong person? I believe that once you are married to a the "wrong" person, that person automatically becomes the "right" person. In other words, it may not have been God's best, but you have made a vow and you must absolutely keep it. The reason for that is, that God no longer wants you to marry that first person He had in mind, he wants you to stay with the person to whom you have made a commitment. Furthermore, God will be faithful and provide grace enough grace to deal with the situation.

God has said "I hate divorce." That right there tells us that God wants people to stay together once married and He will provide enough grace to do so.

On the issue of "love." I believe love is a choice to a certain extent. If it wasn't why would men be commanded to "love their wives as Christ loved the church." However, just because love is a choice, it does not negate the fact that God has a specific person picked out for us. The reason for this is that the two are seperate and distinct. You may love one person but God may have another picked out for you. Then choose to love the person that God has picked out for you. I hope I am making sense.

 

[Briseis]

I think that God has appointed a specific person for each of us. I get that from the story of Isaac and Rebeca. The servant, when he was praying, said something along the lines of "let her be the one you have appointed for my master's son." You can look it up. I think it is around Genesis 17.

What happens if you marry the wrong person? I believe that once you are married to a the "wrong" person, that person automatically becomes the "right" person. In other words, it may not have been God's best, but you have made a vow and you must absolutely keep it. The reason for that is, that God no longer wants you to marry that first person He had in mind, he wants you to stay with the person to whom you have made a commitment. Furthermore, God will be faithful and provide grace enough grace to deal with the situation.

God has said "I hate divorce." That right there tells us that God wants people to stay together once married and He will provide enough grace to do so.

Interesting. In a way it is like saying there is more than one, its just some are better than others.

 

[Forever trying]

There are many people out there who you would be able to have a long and happy marriage with. However, I do also believe that there is someone special out there for everyone. The hard part is trying to find that special person.

 

[Tinkerbell33]

I think that there is one person for everyone but that doesnt mean that everyone is destined to marry, some decide to serev God by living a monastic life and for them God is their spouse like Mother Theresa who said "Jesus is my God, Jesus is my spouse".

 

[springlake04]

If CF started a match making forum there would be enough people for everyone!

 

[indigo tree]

I think it depends on the person. For some people there is only one person for them in life, and if that person dies, they may never want to find another. Other people can choose to love another. Hmm, I guess when you think about it it really does all come down to choice.

 

[fuzzymel]

I don't believe in one person out there for everyone.

Dont worry about not wanting children. There are plenty of us childfrees out there.