Do men need to be needed?

[iambren]

Another excellent, provocative question, Michelle.

My first thought was that I like a woman that makes me feel like a man. It's not a big thing, sort of when she wants me to lift something heavy that would be hard to do.

But generally I need to be needed to SOME extent and this is where your question gets tricky. I believe that men and women hook up because not only do they desire each other, or feel a sense of happiness, but there is some measure of a need to achieve completeness in life.

Doctor was on to the other thought I had having to deal with the degree of neediness and when in excess it becomes dysfunctional. Then you have two people sucking the life out of each other and their distinctive growth is stymied.

So I would say yes, to some extent I need to be needed. To little is lonely, too much is suffocating.

 

[memoriesbymichelle]

Ahhhh yes, the balance of life.

I believe we all have a need to feel loved. I also think men were created in the image of God (as we were) and when I read the bible stories I believe God likes being the "hero" coming in to save the day.

Do I need a man for home repairs? well if I do I could certainly hire one so that is a yes/no question. He isn't my "hero" because he fixes my sink or mows my lawn (that I don't have ).

He (if I was in a relationship that is) is my hero for understanding when I need a shoulder to lean on or someone to express my opinion to and/or ask for help. Someone to take care of me if I need it, or pick up the slack when I need it. Someone to hold me when I need held and to cry with me if that's what I need. Or to stand up for me if I need that. To pick me up when I fall and understand when I fail that I am human.

AND likewise I should be all those things to him too. JMHO