- Jan 21, 2018
- 11
- 10
- 30
- Country
- United Kingdom
- Faith
- Oneness
- Marital Status
- Married
Both my husband & I are 24 years old, devout Christians, married with two beautiful kids.
We are very active within our church ministries in both the youth department & Praise & worship & music ministry.
We have a little boy, who is in school, and a six month old baby girl. Shortly after her birth, my husband was ordained as an Evangelist.
I adore my husband, he is caring and loving, sensitive and yet is strong. But I do feel that my life has been paused almost, and his life has changed very little since our daughter has been born. I would do anything for him and supporting his comeup is absolutely my honour... but I do feel a little despondent and taken for granted almost. I am jealous that he can get up and pray every morning and then go to the gym before leaving the house by 7:30am to go to work. and I can barely get up on time after a night of 3 hourly night feeds.
I feel unimportant, and slightly silly when I wait all day for him to come home, to realise he has to produce a lesson or he has to write a sermon for prison ministry or he is counselling someone and can make plans to do so, just assuming I will care for the children.
I have served my church as Youth President for 4 years, and am due to step down next month as it has become too much especially with a young family....And I absolutely love my children fiercely, and there is nothing I would love more than to care for them........yet still.......... I feel slightly 'lost' maybe?
I feel almost reduced... to 'just a' wife and mother & yet without belittling the beautiful fulfilment and reward being a mother and wife brings........I know God has put so much more in me...........
Is this my role as a Christian wife? Am I ungrateful/frustrated? Is this married life?
should I expect a level of reciprocity ?
I think it's worth mentioning we are both aware that we were called to ministry individually as well as as a unit yet some days I do just want to sit and laugh at nothingness with my best friend again.....
Or has that time in our lives gone...?
It is frustrating because we tried our best to things the right way yet people don't live for God, and find loving relationships where the only compromise is what colour cushions to have...
Here we are juggling marriage with ministry with hobbies with two kids under 10 with extended family dynamics and politics.............. I need a three year holiday !
We are very active within our church ministries in both the youth department & Praise & worship & music ministry.
We have a little boy, who is in school, and a six month old baby girl. Shortly after her birth, my husband was ordained as an Evangelist.
I adore my husband, he is caring and loving, sensitive and yet is strong. But I do feel that my life has been paused almost, and his life has changed very little since our daughter has been born. I would do anything for him and supporting his comeup is absolutely my honour... but I do feel a little despondent and taken for granted almost. I am jealous that he can get up and pray every morning and then go to the gym before leaving the house by 7:30am to go to work. and I can barely get up on time after a night of 3 hourly night feeds.
I feel unimportant, and slightly silly when I wait all day for him to come home, to realise he has to produce a lesson or he has to write a sermon for prison ministry or he is counselling someone and can make plans to do so, just assuming I will care for the children.
I have served my church as Youth President for 4 years, and am due to step down next month as it has become too much especially with a young family....And I absolutely love my children fiercely, and there is nothing I would love more than to care for them........yet still.......... I feel slightly 'lost' maybe?
I feel almost reduced... to 'just a' wife and mother & yet without belittling the beautiful fulfilment and reward being a mother and wife brings........I know God has put so much more in me...........
Is this my role as a Christian wife? Am I ungrateful/frustrated? Is this married life?
should I expect a level of reciprocity ?
I think it's worth mentioning we are both aware that we were called to ministry individually as well as as a unit yet some days I do just want to sit and laugh at nothingness with my best friend again.....
Or has that time in our lives gone...?
It is frustrating because we tried our best to things the right way yet people don't live for God, and find loving relationships where the only compromise is what colour cushions to have...
Here we are juggling marriage with ministry with hobbies with two kids under 10 with extended family dynamics and politics.............. I need a three year holiday !