Do I just give up?

[SarSardonic]

Now that I am a Christian, I am so sad that my husband is not a Christian.

He's against Christianity.

Do I just give up on talking to him about the Lord and trying to convert him?
(I'll continue to pray, of course....)

I worry about him and I want him to be saved. ...

Any advice, thoughts, prayers are much appreciated.
Thank you.
God bless.

 

[Mayzoo]

I recommend you to continue praying and wait for the Holy Spirit to move in his life.

Not sure how to word this properly, but I will struggle and try. Unless you respectfully listen to his religion/beliefs and give it considered thought (not to convert, but to learn) then have educated discussions with him, then you cannot expect him to take the time to listen what you have to say about Christianity. The more you know about his religion, the more you can discuss the pros/cons of both religions. Odds are since he was raised Catholic, he probably already knows far more about Christianity than you know about his beliefs possibly making a mutually challenging discussion of beliefs difficult.

Again these questions do not mean you should consider converting. Do you ask him questions about his beliefs, and show genuine interest and a desire to learn about his beliefs? Do you engage him in discussions about the similarities and dissimilarities of both your beliefs in a non-judgmental fashion?

It is possible the more genuine interest you show in his beliefs, the more interest he will show in you as a Christian and you as a more positive model of Christ. Many Christians are reluctant to learn anything about other religions/beliefs, and that can lead to non-Christians feeling that Christians are "know it alls." This does not, IMO, foster open communication, and it can make discussions of conversion difficult with someone if you know very little about what they believe.

I may be way off here and if I am, I am sorry I wasted your time.

 

[Bella Vita]

Unfortunately you will have a hard walk because of this. A women should not marry a man that can't be her spirtual leader and that she can not follow. Now since that choice has already been made to marry him you will have no choice but to fully lean on God for your spiritual guidance and not your husband. I'm sorry you can't have a godly man in your husband. I feel for you and other women in your position is makes things so much harder. Hang in there and run to God, and don't give up on your husband he may never admit it but he sees your happiness from God, from church, fellow believers, ect. and he wants that he does he just doesn't know were to start probably. All you can is pray fpr him and love him and be a good role model I know that doesn't seem like much but you can;t make someone else change he has to want it for himself. All you can really do is make sure you are walking your journey with the Lord hopefully he will follow suit. =]

 

[dayhiker]

Hi SarSar,
Interesting situation you two have found yourself in. Two people often find they go different directions without even intending to.
Ya, I'd go along with learning about Wicca. The thing about Christianity is our relationship with God thru Jesus. The preaching I heard most of my life hid an aspect of the scritpured from I think you can learn and will surprise your husband. Jesus said love does no harm to ones neighbor. This is one of the main ideas your husband found and loved about Wicca. So Jesus and Wicca have this same love one another thing in common. You know, the 1st commandment is to love god. 2nd is to love people. Jesus said if we love him we will keep His commandments. Yup, and that commandment is to love God and neighbors. Churches often want to say our love for Jesus will mean we do this and that and 100 more things but they never say our love for Jesus means we will love period. Jesus also said love fulfills the law. Paul said we can't obey the law we can't keep it. But if we love we fulfill the law.

So notice that in our Bible reading. Your husband wants to love. What a great thing. don't set up a contrast. See love as being what its all about along with your husband. God created nature. God says nature is good. OK, we can love the nature that God created and thank God for it.

We Christians really have a hard time with this godness thing. But there is the idea as Paul tells us that Christ is in us. So we have God inside us. James says we are partakers of the divine nature. We are also created in the image of God. So yes we aren't god, not even close. So often the church emphasis the transcendence of God. God is other. God is outside time because He created time. God is eternal. God is all powerful. All true. Yet God is also immanent. God is so close to us that He chose to live inside us and He is one with us.

These things mean something to your husband. So you don't have to say he is wrong. He isn't. He's in love with the principles of love, god in us and the world we life in is wonderful. As Christians we can also embrace all those things. So don't see what he is going thru as negatives. You too can embrace all these things as a Christian but you got one thing your husband doesn't have. You have the Holy Spirit making your relationship with our Father and Jesus so personal. So my advice is to love what your husband loves and let him also see the dynamic of your relationship with God.

 

[SarSardonic]

Thank you all for the advice.

 

[20grace11]

Letting go and alowing the Lord to move on him is the best thing that you can do. The Lord will show you the areas that you need to pray for him. Don't allow the enemy to build any walls. Love him see the need and be the wife to him that God is calling you to be.. Be Blessed

 

[mhoelzer2988]

First of all you will never be able to change him or convert him or whatever. That's between him and God. Your job as his wife is to pray and stay close to God. He will take care of the rest! I wouldn't shove God down his throat but I wouldn't not talk about Him at all either. Just find a healthy balance! Of course he's not going to want to hear it because he's being rebellious but I'm sure there are things he talks with you about that you don't care to hear. Stay faithful to God and he will take care of you!