I started giving my wife flowers every few weeks and she was suspicious at first but now she just likes it. Is it normal for women to think the guy did something wrong if he gives her flowers?
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Do guys usually only give flowers when they have messed up?
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Lol! First response is yes, most women will think there's an alterior motive you're buttering them up for, OR you've messed up and this is an apology bouquet. 
However, my DH has never given me flowers after a fight or when he's messed up, he thinks it's too cliche. *grin*
Personally, I love recieving flowers, and it's great you're doing it every few weeks. It's such a sweet gesture simply saying that 'I thought of you'.
Classic romantic. Good job!
Edited to add: I have a male version of the 'bouquet'...every once and a while I go out and buy Remi a "Hockey News" magazine. He never buys them for himself - so it's my "thought of you" treat for him.
Though he has eyed me suspiciously and asked what the catch is!! So it works both ways...
However, my DH has never given me flowers after a fight or when he's messed up, he thinks it's too cliche. *grin*
Personally, I love recieving flowers, and it's great you're doing it every few weeks. It's such a sweet gesture simply saying that 'I thought of you'.
Classic romantic. Good job!
Edited to add: I have a male version of the 'bouquet'...every once and a while I go out and buy Remi a "Hockey News" magazine. He never buys them for himself - so it's my "thought of you" treat for him.
Though he has eyed me suspiciously and asked what the catch is!!
So it works both ways...
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CrystalBrooke
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Um..maybe it's just me, but I think it's rude to assume that you're man has done something wrong when he gives a gift. How about "Thank you, these are beautiful" instead of "What did you do?" or "What do you want?".
There have been a few occassions that my husband has stopped to pick me some wild tiger lillies that grow around our neighborhood. When he gave them to me, I thanked him because that's what a normal person does. I appreciate the thought he put into it, he knows I love all types of lillies.
I think women just like to find a reason to be cranky sometimes.
There have been a few occassions that my husband has stopped to pick me some wild tiger lillies that grow around our neighborhood. When he gave them to me, I thanked him because that's what a normal person does. I appreciate the thought he put into it, he knows I love all types of lillies.
I think women just like to find a reason to be cranky sometimes.
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My hubby does it to cheer me up when I'm down, or when he's just thinking of me and wants to do something special.
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notanordinarygirl
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My husband gave me flowers after I gave birth. I'm not huge on flowers, so he hasn't given me that in a while. My equivalent to flowers is chocolate, candy, pastries or just food in general. And no, I don't suspect him when he does come home with a cake. I'm just happy. 
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my hubby buys me flowers just when either he has messed up, or if i am really having a difficult time, or on valentines day hardly ever just for the sake of it! xx thats a lovely thing your husband is doing he sounds really very sweet! my hubby has other ways of expressing kindness though, like he will bring me a cup of tea sometimes or bring fruit that i like.
hardly ever just for the sake of it! xx thats a lovely thing your husband is doing he sounds really very sweet! my hubby has other ways of expressing kindness though, like he will bring me a cup of tea sometimes or bring fruit that i like.
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My husband says sorry when he's messed up.
I don't especially like cut flowers so I tend to only get them on Mother's day because the kids insist on it.
I don't especially like cut flowers so I tend to only get them on Mother's day because the kids insist on it.
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I don't do it except on occasions like valentine's day.
My wife was abused in a previous relationship and that guy gave her flowers all the time to apologize for things like flipping out because she didn't set the forks on the correct side of his plate.
So she has a negative association with flowers, so its rare when I buy her some.
My wife was abused in a previous relationship and that guy gave her flowers all the time to apologize for things like flipping out because she didn't set the forks on the correct side of his plate.
So she has a negative association with flowers, so its rare when I buy her some.
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c1ners
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My husband (when he was working) would buy me flowers every couple of weeks. It wasn't because he did anything wrong. It was because he wanted to. Sometimes I'd surprise him and buy him some. Right now though with him not working I find it a little wasteful to give or recieve something that isn't a necessity.
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I'm like c1ners - hubby and I have both given each other flowers, just because. We haven't in a while, either - b/c our money needs to be focused on other things. But, I might splurge and get him some this weekend. He's been feeling kind of down and I think it would help put a smile on his face.
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If he has really screwed up that's usually part of the Make-up MO, However
on occasion & I mean infrequent he has done it just to brighten my day
& I Love that--
(my guy is not a wine & roses kind of guy by the way) so either way is rare-but when he does do it-they are usually HAND-PICKED, which makes them very very special occasions-
But over the years I have increased my worth & when he really screws up; he can't buy his way out with flowers--no no not these days (that takes jewels..)
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dallasapple
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My husband has given me flowers mostly for "no reason"..if he tried to ever give me flowers for an apology like so i wold forget about it..that doesn't "work" on me..LOL!
If flowers are from the guy only when he messed up?Whats a girl to think who's husband keeps a rose bush growing most of the year ????
Dallas
If flowers are from the guy only when he messed up?Whats a girl to think who's husband keeps a rose bush growing most of the year ????
Dallas
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This thread made me think of something my hubby did when we were first dating. He called me when I got off work one night and I was telling him about the particularly cruddy work day I had. He asked if he could come over and hang out - so he showed up about 45 minutes later with flowers and a 6 pack of beer. It was perfect and totally made me smile!
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My husband rarely gives me any flowers..... and I never heard an 'I love you' from all the 19 yrs we've been married.
So..if he bought me any flowers ...I would show him my appreciation ...underneath..I would be thinking..." what did I do...that suddenly I get some attention."
Since my husband is abit into hunting..I've bought him hunting magazines on the odd time...and he doesn't even read it. So....I just don't know what to think anymore.
So..if he bought me any flowers ...I would show him my appreciation ...underneath..I would be thinking..." what did I do...that suddenly I get some attention."
Since my husband is abit into hunting..I've bought him hunting magazines on the odd time...and he doesn't even read it. So....I just don't know what to think anymore.
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It wouldn't probably phase DH to get me flowers unless I asked him specifically to. I was actually shocked one day to hear him say, "You know, I almost brought home flowers tonight so we had them on the table for Shabbat."
I'd mentioned repeatedly (non-nagging, once in a while) that I would like to have flowers every Friday for our table, as they tend to keep for about a week. Nothing special, just something bright and pretty and a few leaves and baby's breath to go between. Nothing over 8€. I think we've had flowers maybe 5 times this year, and some mostly because we had company coming for dinner.
I never got a gift or "oops, I'm sorry" flower.
I would wonder however if he just started bringing flowers home every Friday without saying anything. It's just not his personality to think of things like that. He thinks in more concrete ways.
I'd mentioned repeatedly (non-nagging, once in a while) that I would like to have flowers every Friday for our table, as they tend to keep for about a week. Nothing special, just something bright and pretty and a few leaves and baby's breath to go between. Nothing over 8€. I think we've had flowers maybe 5 times this year, and some mostly because we had company coming for dinner.
I never got a gift or "oops, I'm sorry" flower.
I would wonder however if he just started bringing flowers home every Friday without saying anything. It's just not his personality to think of things like that. He thinks in more concrete ways.
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I think it's awesome that you are giving her flowers regularly. Keeping the romance alive is always a good thing!
My husband is logical thinker so I know that he thinks flowers are not the best use of money. I agree intellectually...yet when he gets them for me anyways, I just melt. Partially because I know he thought of me and got them for me to show his love, and partially because I know he's doing it only for me...that he doesn't "get" it but is trying to meet my romance needs.
My husband is logical thinker so I know that he thinks flowers are not the best use of money. I agree intellectually...yet when he gets them for me anyways, I just melt. Partially because I know he thought of me and got them for me to show his love, and partially because I know he's doing it only for me...that he doesn't "get" it but is trying to meet my romance needs.
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