I don't want to say too much because I haven't been orthodox that long and I know that the discussion between all of the jurisdictions, or whatever you want to call them, can get heated at times. We should all be helping one another rather than criticizing. Have you asked your priest why they do the things that are bothering you? It is probably worth discussing and bringing up your concerns.
I also wanted to drop this quote from St. Paisios in his work "On Our Times"
"If you want to help the Church, then try to mend your own ways, rather than others’. In straightening yourself out you straighten out a particle of the Church. If everyone were to do that then the Church would be in perfect order. But today’s people attend to everything under the sun, only not to themselves, because it’s easy to teach others, while mending one’s own ways requires effort."
