I feel too embarrassed, ashamed, trapped and fearful to discuss my experiences with anyone I know. Maybe I just would rather forget. Is that ok? to just try and forget? too embarrassed to even put any detail in this post, IM (see my profile) me, if you are someone who would want to listen/discuss/share.
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shye
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You shouldn't be ashamed about discusing you experiences. do you know who did it? It is not ok to forget it without talking to someone about it. Sooner or later it will catch up to you and you will be worse off. You should tell someone, and if you know who it is report it to the police.
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Reyna said:
Hi...I have been hurt too...I am only a couple of years older than you...I just emerged from an 8 year abusive relationship. I was hurt in all the ways one can be hurt including a bit of violence and sex. I know it is a scary time for you...but even though forgetting about it sounds good...it won't go away. In order to find healing you will, when you are ready, need to face it and work through it. I blocked something out for almost 9 years and it came back to haunt me when I wasn't expecting it.
Many people feel scared and ashamed and embarassed when something like this happens. It okay to feel that way...but know that when you find the courage to finally open up to someone...whether on here or one on one with someone, you will begin a little at a time to feel less of these awful feelings you have right now.
God loves you and he wants you to feel his loving arms hold you and carrying you through this time of turmoil. But he also understands that the trauma you have been through pushes you two apart...so He will be waiting patiently for you to feel His goodness again.
It is late and I was headed to bed and your IM says you are offline right now...so if you want to talk to me tomorrow afternoon (EST) I should be online...I will also check back here to see if you respond...you can IM me on Yahoo or private message me here...I have several friends that have been hurt like me and we spend lots of time chatting to get things out. It is much easier to IM for me then to talk on the phone...rest assured you are not alone. Not only is God with you...I will be here for you if you let me.
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Your feelings are quite common. Shame and pain so often follows rape.
You just can't forget - it happened, and produced all sorts of feelings within you. You must face up to them and work through them to become free of their ongoing effects in your life. A good counsellor can help.
Most sexual abuse victims I deal with are very reticient about talking initially, even though they are wanting help.
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You just can't forget - it happened, and produced all sorts of feelings within you. You must face up to them and work through them to become free of their ongoing effects in your life. A good counsellor can help.
Most sexual abuse victims I deal with are very reticient about talking initially, even though they are wanting help.
John
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The thing is, that shame and guilt... It'll spill into everything in your life eventually. Take this opportunity to say "@#@#$@ You, that was yours but I'm mine" and don't own the conscience that should be the perpetrators.
I'm trying to effect this approach in my own life... and am available to talk about anything: assault... oatmeal raisin cookie recipes... darling pets... confusion... guilt... the weather... Whatever you feel like talking about.
It's a communicated disease when one is raped; let those who will and can help you to not allow it to progress and mutate.
I'm sorry. I really am.
I'm trying to effect this approach in my own life... and am available to talk about anything: assault... oatmeal raisin cookie recipes... darling pets... confusion... guilt... the weather... Whatever you feel like talking about.
It's a communicated disease when one is raped; let those who will and can help you to not allow it to progress and mutate.
I'm sorry. I really am.
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