Discussing Intimacy With Sibling

[CuriousInIL]

I am interested in knowing people's attitudes towards a spouse discussing intimate (i.e., sexual) issues with their sibling. Is this OK? Wrong? Why or why not? Does it depend upon whether the spouse knows or not? And, does it matter whether the sibling is the same sex or opposite sex?

 

[alwaysyoung]

I think it depends on what sort of relationship one has with their sibling.

 

[Redguard]

I don't think that there's anything wrong as long as their both of adult age.

I won't be doing it through. My sister is 7 yrs younger than me and that's just gross. She freaks out whenever she sees Mrs. Redguard grab a handful of my firm round buttocks.

 

[Savedthroughfaith]

My husband and I talk about it with our siblings. I don't see anything wrong with it. I have 4 sisters and we are pretty open with each other.

 

[outhwaar]

Well, I have to disagree. This is an intimate subject, that should remain private between husband and wife..

 

[ksbriscoe]

I agree with outhwaar. Sex is a personal thing and is something my husband keep to ourselves. But on the same note, if my brother was having issues or had a question and I feel I could help him without going into too much personal detail or have it conflict with my husbands and my privacy I will talk to him about it.

 

[HeatherJay]

I think it depends on what sort of relationship one has with their sibling.

I agree.

 

[Filina]

Usually men are not very happy when a wife talks about intimate matters with other people... siblings or not!

Am I wrong?

 

[BrBob]

I think it depends on what sort of relationship one has with their sibling.

I think it is more important that the other spouse's opinion about the matter be ascertained.

I also believe that this is a situation that more women would find themselves in than men. Men just plain don't want to discuss their marital sexual relationship. Other than complaining about frequency that is...

Bob
Spearfish, SD

 

[HeatherJay]

Usually men are not very happy when a wife talks about intimate matters with other people... siblings or not!

Am I wrong?

Again...I think it depends on the man, and on the relationship that the husband and wife share together.

 

[Redguard]

Usually men are not very happy when a wife talks about intimate matters with other people... siblings or not!

Am I wrong?

I think it depends on if their talking about "issues" (ie. performance, lack of, etc) versus just plain regular sex chit chat.

 

[Filina]

Again...I think it depends on the man, and on the relationship that the husband and wife share together.

Yes... I see what you mean.

The point is: should a wife ever ignore her husband wish not to share their private matters?

If yes... when and why?

 

[HeatherJay]

Yes... I see what you mean.

The point is: should a wife ever ignore her husband wish not to share their private matters?

If yes... when and why?

In 99% of cases, I think the answer to that is no. A spouses feelings and wishes on the matter should be respected. There are always exceptions...though, none of them frivolous.

 

[MikeK]

I think I speak for all men when I say this.
Ladies: You are free to discuss what amazing lovers we are and how you are more satisfied than you ever thought possible. You are free to brag to everyone you come accross about our amazing bodies and our amazing skills. Any talk of any part of our intimate relationship in anything less than glowing terms is strictly prohibited. Carry on.

 

[MikeK]

The point is: should a wife ever ignore her husband wish not to share their private matters?

In all seriousness, you ought not ever ignore your spouse in favor of anyone, including a family member. Spouses come first, every time.

 

[Filina]

In all seriousness, you ought not ever ignore your spouse in favor of anyone, including a family member. Spouses come first, every time.

Yes... of course!

 

[CuriousInIL]

What is one to do when they feel as if they need someone to talk with about such an issue? Is it reasonable for the spouse to cut off the possibility of help by saying that it simply can't be discussed beyond the two of you?

 

[GolfingMom]

Well, I have to disagree. This is an intimate subject, that should remain private between husband and wife..

 

[cutie76]

That's a sticky situation, in my opinion.

I would say absolutely no if the spouse did not feel comfortable with it.

Brothers and sisters should not, at any time in their life, talk about sex and intimacy with each other. I think it crosses too many lines.

Same sex, that's a hard call. Are both siblings married? That would be a requirement, I think.

Personally, I would say - no thanks on that subject. I would not talk about that with my own sister, even though she is married. I agree that some topics are way too private and personal.

 

[Nobility]

In my case, I will discuss it with my like-sister (best friend who is like a sis).... it's rare that we do, and when we do it's to work out difficulties.