Discernment - Prayer request

[FaithOFtheBroken]

Hello my fellow Christian brothers and sisters. I could use some prayer and general Godly thought onto the following short scenario.

Previous relationship, I dated a pathological liar. I have now been dating another Christian, who I have every logical reason to doubt her in areas of her past.

I love her deeply, and see a tremendous future, and marriage with, however her past continues to haunt me. She has assured me of her past relationships and choices that she made, and her commitment to purity. However, she has has said things which would completely contradict her. Please understand that this is not important because of what her past may consist of, but rather that she is continually lying to me.

We are both at the point of wanting to start our lives together, but I understand that trust in this area is a major issue, and needs to be clarified. I am asking for prayer that the truth, and discernment over the future of our relationship be displayed and opened. I want the best for her and myself no matter what is revealed, but am being, "impatient." Thanks everyone.

 

[Bootstrap]

I'll pray for you.

Obviously, if you can't trust her, then there's not a lot of room for a relationship. The hard part is figuring out if it's trust issues that you have, integrity issues that she has, or a combination of the two.

But if you have any doubt that you can trust in her integrity, nothing else matters. You either have to fix that or get out. Building trust takes time, and if you are a suspicious person you may need to give her a chance. But if you really feel that she has a basic lack of integrity, get out, move on, and find someone with character.

Jonathan

 

[FaithOFtheBroken]

I'll pray for you.

Obviously, if you can't trust her, then there's not a lot of room for a relationship. The hard part is figuring out if it's trust issues that you have, integrity issues that she has, or a combination of the two.

But if you have any doubt that you can trust in her integrity, nothing else matters. You either have to fix that or get out. Building trust takes time, and if you are a suspicious person you may need to give her a chance. But if you really feel that she has a basic lack of integrity, get out, move on, and find someone with character.

Jonathan

Thanks for the great words. You made some very good points, and it has shed some light on things... Wanted to give an update.

UPDATE: Around our 6 month anniversary (long distance relationship) she was emailing and talking to someone she had history with from 9 months prior. She told me she was working with him on something, but promised that they never had any history, so I was ok with it. Well, she eventually informed me of the past after I pried into issues. She has now agreed it was best not to talk to him anymore.

QUESTION: If someone is still, "talking with a friend (even though they made out)" with someone when they are courting another person, is that cheating?