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I, too, have noticed the desire for argument surpassing the need for edification and fellowship here. What Dean either overlooked, or was to much of a good Christian to mention, is that the majority of harsh words and accusations seem to come from the younger menbers. These "folks" have a little scriptural knowledge and need "milk" to nurture them, but instead they seek out "meat" most often in the form of confrontation. If we were talking about the difference of real presence verses remembrance, that would be one thing. But most of the arguments that erupt here involve "degrees" of scriptural content. And that is something the younger members among us are simply not qualified to handle -- yet!

Because of the nature of CF, and the enemies that Baptist have in most of the other forums found here, there is no real answer for this problem. The youngsters want their opinions heard and recognized, so we old fogeys (elders?) must in turn learn how to put up with their discussions and do our best to stear them along the righteous pathway that is scripturally true.

Personally, I visit here every day without fail. But I simply refuse to any longer join in on any discussions involving personal opinions (such as KJVO or not) unless I see what I believe to be scriptural error involved. Then I feel it is my Christian duty to attempt to bring those persons back to the reality, beauty, anchor, truth that is our Christ.

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Yes, it's true that the "debate" side of our Baptist forum has exceeded some limits.

But, if not of these "debates" a lot of growth in people wouldn't be taking place. I, for example, have learned so much from these "debates." I've truly let God speak to my heart and a few beliefs have changed for the better!

I'm glad we have debates. But, I am sad when people start attacking each other out.

James 1:19 & 20

"Ye know [this], my beloved brethren. But let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath: for the wrath of man worketh not the righteousness of God." (ASV)

"Wherefore, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath: For the wrath of man worketh not the righteousness of God." (KJV)

I really learned something form this this morning. No only had I been to quick too judge, but I was also too quick to get mad.

Truly, some of us all could learn something from this.
 
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Dean, I want to thank you for your kind words. CF I believe was designed primarily with the best intentions. The exponential growth has made it very difficult to control much of the vitriol.
I admire Erwin for his efforts, and believe very much in the overall mission of CF.
I admire you and most all of the mods who continue to slug it out here and do the best they can to keep the peace.
Be strong in the Lord and in the power of His might, my prayers are with you brother.
In Him,
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I think the problem lies in the whole ecumenticalism thing. Christians are to be a witness, to spread truth, but any truth that offends another on this board is viewed as a "flame." We live in a world where political correctness rules over common sense and logical thinking. Not only that, but any effort to promote holiness and righteousness is now labeled bigotry, intolerance or my favorite; "mean-spiritedness." There is no edifying because room is being made to accommodate evil. We are not uniting all Christians as one body but uniting with the forces of darkenss.

2 Corinthians 6:15 And what concord hath Christ with Belial? or what part hath he that believeth with an infidel?

Come quickly Lord Jesus!


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This is my first post under my new faith icon - for similar reasons - like was previously said this stuff crosses over to many forums - I initially came here to learn more about the Baptist viewpoint and frankly got jammed in the process by certain posters. With that being said, I think this is an excellent thread with many great points and posts. I have still learned a lot here despite the problems, and I will pray that we find peace in all of our fellowship here . . .
 
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I don't post here too much anymore. Free speech and truth are stifled. I'm tired of being politically and ecumenically correct. It just isn't me. It takes a lot of energy, time and thinking to present views that fall within the rules of the board without getting chastised for it. I've never had a warning or infraction in the 3+ years I've been here and I'm not about to start now. I just go away for awhile. IMHO Pretty soon this place will become so ecumenical that it will be secular.
 
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I've seen too many strawmen in the OP. You are painting a picture of me that isn't there.

In spite of your comments about me friend, I'm not going to let that get to me and I'm not going to respond to you in like manner. But just so you'll know, I did not have any one particular person in mind when I posted this. Rather it was started because of all the flaming, slaming, bashing, ridiculing, name calling, insults, and just plain old arrogance that is becoming so prevelant here in what was once a nice peaceful haven from the rest of the forum. And to express MY concerns over what I have seen happening over the last couple of months or so.

With that in mind, I'll just say God Bless you and leave it at that.

May the Lord bless you in your own personal convictions.

God Bless

Till all are one.
 
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Go to Bapstist board and compare it with the baptist forum on RCF.

Notice the difference?

Baptistboard = nice, peaceful, edifying

Mike, I have visited Baptistboards.com. I have an account under the exact same name I use here. The difference? I have perhaps 25 posts total in a year. Why is that? Because it is my experience, limited as it is, that if one visits the discussion part, and even hints that they support any tenant of Calvinism, no matter how small, you will be attacked. If you support Arminianism, are a supporter of man's so-called free will, you will prosper there. I made one reply to one thread and used a tenant of Calvinism to support my comment, and was attacked, I mean attacked 35 times. I may be wrong, but it is my opinion that Baptistboards.com are very anti-Calvinist, and openly hostile to anyone who even supports any tenant of what John Calvin taught. I know that I will not be back. And lets not forget how hostile they were towards people who are members of the Southern Baptist Convention.

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Why? It's the difference in the moderators.

What time I was on the Baptist boards I never seen not one moderator on-line when I was. I was openly flamed, called every name under the sun, and nothing, I mean absolutely nothing was done or said about it. One moderator even said

Calvinism is the biggest lie ever concocted, and anyone who supports it should be run out of the church or hung

And you want to be a part of this?

MikeMck said:
I agree. However, you're still posting on a forum that's specifically for Baptists.

No matter how bad it is getting here, it still isn't quite as bad as what I experienced there. All I know for sure, is that unless this forum is down for "X" amount of time, and I can't get on-line here, I'll not be back to Baptistboards.com anytime soon.

That is just how I see it. That is the impression I got from there.

God Bless

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What do you expect when a lot of people on this site aren't even Christians to begin with? The only way THIS is ever going to stop, is for you guys to get over your, we don't want to offend anybody phobia.

Feel free to move on down to another message board if you don't like how things are run here. If your expectations or requirements for unity are that we all agree with you then this isn't the place for you. But Christ prayed for unity within the body, and the efforts this board makes towards it are noble and needed.
 
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Feel free to move on down to another message board if you don't like how things are run here. If your expectations or requirements for unity are that we all agree with you then this isn't the place for you. But Christ prayed for unity within the body, and the efforts this board makes towards it are noble and needed.
Christ also warned us to look out for wolves who were dressed in sheep's clothing. Why don't we just let the mormons in while we're at it too?
 
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What do you expect when a lot of people on this site aren't even Christians to begin with?
As to whether or not a certain person is or is not a Christian, is not my call. I have to accept them as is until proven otherwise. If I catch them posting contrary to my Baptist beliefs, and what I accept as true according to the Nicene Creed, then I will call them out and report them for it. But I can't confront them toe to toe. What was the lesson Jesus taught here:

"And John answered him, saying, Master, we saw one casting out devils in thy name, and he followeth not us: and we forbad him, because he followeth not us. But Jesus said, Forbid him not: for there is no man which shall do a miracle in my name, that can lightly speak evil of me. For he that is not against us is on our part." -Mk. 9:38-40

Just because one does not follow after Baptist doctrine and beliefs, does not mean they are not a follower of Jesus Christ.

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The only way THIS is ever going to stop, is for you guys to get over your, we don't want to offend anybody phobia.

What most people don't seem to understand, is that whether or not you personally disagree with the Catholics, or the Eastern Orthodox, or the Lutherns, or the Methodists, or which ever group you choose to name, if they confess in a Savior who was manifest in the flesh, died for our sins and arose on the third day, then they are a Christian. I may disagree with the doctrines that these groups teach, but I must respect them none the less. For they honestly and truly believe their doctrinal teachings just as much as we do ours. I can post scripture to support my argument against any sort of doctrinal teaching. I can say here is what I believe based on this. And if it isn't believed or accpeted, then I can agree to disagree with whomever. Now let me ask you a question, how many Christians do you think you can make or how many Christians of other faiths can you convert, by going up to someone and telling them that what they believe is a lie straight from the devil and that they are doomed to hell because of what their church teaches? You may, may, get a few, but what will happen more times than any is that you end up driving a person away from what you are trying to present them with. I heard an old preacher once say:

J. Harold Smith said:
I'd rather make a person a Christian than a Baptist. I'd rather led then to the Lord first as to try to led them to the Baptist

And this man was a Baptist preacher. So just consider this, it is better to lay the word out, let the Spirit do His work, than to beat them in the head with the Bible. I may not agree with what other denominations teach, but I cannot in good faith, disrespect them over it because more often than not, I have made an enemy and not a friend in Christ. I could not in good conscience, go to their rooms and disrespect them and likewise, I would expect them to do the same. If you feel in your heart that they are so wrong, instead of debating with them in here, invite them to the debate room and have at it.

Feel free to move on down to another message board if you don't like how things are run here. If your expectations or requirements for unity are that we all agree with you then this isn't the place for you. But Christ prayed for unity within the body, and the efforts this board makes towards it are noble and needed.

Thank you friend. I know you and I haven't always seen eye to eye on some issues, but I do believe that we have never gotten into a full blown, knock down, blow out of an argument. We speak our minds, show scripture or theologians to support our position, and if it gets too heated, walk away. And that is what we should all do. I see the Mods here as volunteering their time and energies to making the Baptist room one to where all Baptists, Southern, Northern, Independant, Free Will, to be able to come and exchange ideas, and edify each other in such a manner that those weaker in the faith can be taught, and those who are strong in the faith, aid others. But as of late, this has not been the case. Its all about using this Bible, and your wrong if you use this Bible or your wrong if you don't use this Bible. It's been all about how the other person is dead wrong while the other is dead right. The Spirit of unity and brotherhood here in this room is ALMOST DEAD. There are exceptions to be sure, but it has almost all but disappeared.

And I for one, ask each one, if you honestly believe we are doing such a bad job, or the rules are scued so as to support one group over another. Let your voice be heard. There are proper places to voice your concerns. Voice them, after all, if you don't nobody will. And if you want to be a part of the Moderators, apply.

In all honesty, you can complain all you want, but if you do nothing about it, nothing is what you are sure to get.

God Bless

Till all are one.
 
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As to whether or not a certain person is or is not a Christian, is not my call. I have to accept them as is until proven otherwise. If I catch them posting contrary to my Baptist beliefs, and what I accept as true according to the Nicene Creed, then I will call them out and report them for it. But I can't confront them toe to toe. What was the lesson Jesus taught here:

"And John answered him, saying, Master, we saw one casting out devils in thy name, and he followeth not us: and we forbad him, because he followeth not us. But Jesus said, Forbid him not: for there is no man which shall do a miracle in my name, that can lightly speak evil of me. For he that is not against us is on our part." -Mk. 9:38-40

Just because one does not follow after Baptist doctrine and beliefs, does not mean they are not a follower of Jesus Christ.



What most people don't seem to understand, is that whether or not you personally disagree with the Catholics, or the Eastern Orthodox, or the Lutherns, or the Methodists, or which ever group you choose to name, if they confess in a Savior who was manifest in the flesh, died for our sins and arose on the third day, then they are a Christian. I may disagree with the doctrines that these groups teach, but I must respect them none the less. For they honestly and truly believe their doctrinal teachings just as much as we do ours. I can post scripture to support my argument against any sort of doctrinal teaching. I can say here is what I believe based on this. And if it isn't believed or accpeted, then I can agree to disagree with whomever. Now let me ask you a question, how many Christians do you think you can make or how many Christians of other faiths can you convert, by going up to someone and telling them that what they believe is a lie straight from the devil and that they are doomed to hell because of what their church teaches? You may, may, get a few, but what will happen more times than any is that you end up driving a person away from what you are trying to present them with. I heard an old preacher once say:



And this man was a Baptist preacher. So just consider this, it is better to lay the word out, let the Spirit do His work, than to beat them in the head with the Bible. I may not agree with what other denominations teach, but I cannot in good faith, disrespect them over it because more often than not, I have made an enemy and not a friend in Christ. I could not in good conscience, go to their rooms and disrespect them and likewise, I would expect them to do the same. If you feel in your heart that they are so wrong, instead of debating with them in here, invite them to the debate room and have at it.



Thank you friend. I know you and I haven't always seen eye to eye on some issues, but I do believe that we have never gotten into a full blown, knock down, blow out of an argument. We speak our minds, show scripture or theologians to support our position, and if it gets too heated, walk away. And that is what we should all do. I see the Mods here as volunteering their time and energies to making the Baptist room one to where all Baptists, Southern, Northern, Independant, Free Will, to be able to come and exchange ideas, and edify each other in such a manner that those weaker in the faith can be taught, and those who are strong in the faith, aid others. But as of late, this has not been the case. Its all about using this Bible, and your wrong if you use this Bible or your wrong if you don't use this Bible. It's been all about how the other person is dead wrong while the other is dead right. The Spirit of unity and brotherhood here in this room is ALMOST DEAD. There are exceptions to be sure, but it has almost all but disappeared.

And I for one, ask each one, if you honestly believe we are doing such a bad job, or the rules are scued so as to support one group over another. Let your voice be heard. There are proper places to voice your concerns. Voice them, after all, if you don't nobody will. And if you want to be a part of the Moderators, apply.

In all honesty, you can complain all you want, but if you do nothing about it, nothing is what you are sure to get.

God Bless

Till all are one.
My problem is not with those that have different doctrinal differences with me. My problem is with those that think they can earn their way to heaven, or that they will pay some, and Jesus will pay some. And YES, they are here, and NO, I cannot correct them without getting in trouble. And NO, it's not ok. Your attitude of, can't we all just get along is grounded in error, because you will accept any bum of the street to come in here, and say, I am a Christian. Don't you know the Bible says FEW are they that walk the narrow path. Do you REALLY believe everyone in here is just a Christian, and that nothing anyone in here believes is going to send them to hell? If you do, you stand in complete opposition of God's Word. You are telling God he is wrong, and you are right. You wanna quote preachers? Good, so do I actually.

"Stick to the book, and keep to the standards. Oh, but it's not popular! If I take a stand I lose people. Better lose people than lose God! Better to have no body with you, and have God for you, than have the crowd with you, and God against you." - [URL="http://www.sermonaudio.com/search.asp?SpeakerOnly=true&currSection=sermonsspeaker&Keyword=Dr.%5EIan%5ER.%5EK.%5EPaisley"]Dr. Ian R. K. Paisley[/URL]
 
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My problem is with those that think they can earn their way to heaven, or that they will pay some, and Jesus will pay some.

If you have trouble with the doctrine of purgatory, then invite someone who believes in this to the debate room and have at it. That is all I'm saying.

BigChrisfilm said:
And YES, they are here, and NO, I cannot correct them without getting in trouble. And NO, it's not ok.

Who said you can't? Aren't we told:

"And whosoever shall not receive you, nor hear your words, when ye depart out of that house or city, shake off the dust of your feet. Verily I say unto you, It shall be more tolerable for the land of Sodom and Gomorrha in the day of judgment, than for that city.
Behold, I send you forth as sheep in the midst of wolves: be ye therefore wise as serpents, and harmless as doves." -Mt. 10:14-16

You can rebuke in a fashion that won't get you in trouble. But as long as you call people "Heretics," or "atheists" or any other name, you have created a closed mind.

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Your attitude of, can't we all just get along is grounded in error, because you will accept any bum of the street to come in here, and say, I am a Christian.

Now hold on there friend, where did I say that? What I said is that certain groups confess and risen Savior, and according to the Bible, that makes them Christian.Are we not taught:

"And we have seen and do testify that the Father sent the Son to be the Saviour of the world. Whosoever shall confess that Jesus is the Son of God, God dwelleth in him, and he in God. And we have known and believed the love that God hath to us. God is love; and he that dwelleth in love dwelleth in God, and God in him."-1 Jn. 4:14-16

BigChrisfilm said:
Don't you know the Bible says FEW are they that walk the narrow path.

Yes, I also know that:

"Not every one that saith unto me, Lord, Lord, shall enter into the kingdom of heaven; but he that doeth the will of my Father which is in heaven. Many will say to me in that day, Lord, Lord, have we not prophesied in thy name? and in thy name have cast out devils? and in thy name done many wonderful works? And then will I profess unto them, I never knew you: depart from me, ye that work iniquity." -Mt. 7:21-23

It's not up to me to judge, there is one coming who is the "righteous judge" that is His duty.

BigChrisfilm said:
Do you REALLY believe everyone in here is just a Christian,

Yes I do until they prove themselves otherwise. We are told we will know them and see them for what they really are:

"Wherefore by their fruits ye shall know them." -Mt. 7:20

BigChrisfilm said:
and that nothing anyone in here believes is going to send them to hell?

Again, where did I say that? What I said was:

DeaconDean said:
how many Christians do you think you can make or how many Christians of other faiths can you convert, by going up to someone and telling them that what they believe is a lie straight from the devil and that they are doomed to hell because of what their church teaches?

Where was it gonna get you to tell them what they believe will send them to hell, or just how wrong it is to believe in a certain doctrine. What I meant by my statement there is this:

"Let your speech be alway with grace, seasoned with salt, that ye may know how ye ought to answer every man." -Col. 4:6

It does no good to beat a man over the head with your Bible. All that will do is give you cramps in the arm and them a headache.

BigChrisfilm said:
If you do, you stand in complete opposition of God's Word. You are telling God he is wrong, and you are right.

You just don't get it. If a person says I pray through Mary to get her to interceed on my behalf. I can say I disagree because scriptures say this_____. But if your beliefs say you can do this, fine by me. In the end, whether I'm right or they are right, who are they going to have to answer to? You? Me? No, they will ahve to answer to God for what they do. So what is wrong in simply saying, "you have your beliefs, I have mine, may God bless you in your convictions."? Where is this saying that I am right and God is wrong. I have done what is expected of me in the scriptures, I have put the word out there. It is then up to the Holy Spirit to donHis work. If they don't accept what I show from scriptures, aren't we told to shake the dust from our feet as a testimony against them? Wasn't it Paul who said: I have planted, Apollos watered, but God who gave the increase. And in all this, I have not disrespected their beliefs.

You just don't understand that our conversations with those of other faiths must be:

"Only let your conversation be as it becometh the gospel of Christ:" -Phil. 1:27

It does no good to belittle, berate, call names, and overall, bash someone over their beliefs.

Although George Whitefield disagreed with John Wesley on some theological matters, he was careful not to create problems in public that could be used to hinder the preaching of the gospel. When someone asked Whitefield if he thought he would see Wesley in heaven, Whitefield replied, "I fear not, for he will be so near the eternal throne and we at such a distance, we shall hardly get sight of him."
W. Wiersbe, Wycliffe Handbook of Preaching and Preachers, Moody Press, 1984, p. 255.

"The ground is indeed level for all mankind, at the foot of the Cross."
-Robert E. Lee​

That is all I have to say for today, because I'm about to leave work.​

God Bless​

Till all are one.​
 
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BigChrisfilm said:
because you will accept any bum of the street to come in here, and say, I am a Christian.

Matthew 7:1-6
1 Judge not, that ye be not judged.
2 For with what judgment ye judge, ye shall be judged: and with what measure ye mete, it shall be measured to you again.
3 And why beholdest thou the mote that is in thy brother's eye, but considerest not the beam that is in thine own eye?
4 Or how wilt thou say to thy brother, Let me pull out the mote out of thine eye; and, behold, a beam is in thine own eye?
5 Thou hypocrite, first cast out the beam out of thine own eye; and then shalt thou see clearly to cast out the mote out of thy brother's eye.
6 Give not that which is holy unto the dogs, neither cast ye your pearls before swine, lest they trample them under their feet, and turn again and rend you.
 
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