Disabled Dating

[redblue22]

How do you feel about dating or marrying someone who is disabled?

 

[JMH]

I believe if you love someone it should not matter, everyone is unique in their own way, and someone with a disability has just as much right to be loved as anyone else.
Besides beauty is in the eye of the beholder, it does not matter what other people say

 

[Greg J.]

Everyone is disabled in my eyes.

 

[Sir Robbins]

I have a disability but it's not visible 90% of the time...

 

[sundewgrower]

Hmm I told a girl where I was at with driving and she disappeared--saying she'd not and continue to chat. Eh I just don't want to end up on a date and tell her--or have her notice I'm not driving there.

 

[redblue22]

Wow, a lot of favorable responses. So far, no one has said anything negative about having a relationship with a man or woman who is disabled.

 

[alsughasoughaiuyfygh]

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[ReesePiece23]

Love is a pretty awesome thing. I don't know that a disability can stand up to it. I hate to sound like a cliche, but it's really true. The universal language of love knows no bounds...


Right, if anyone wants me, I'll be in the bathroom with my fingers down my throat.

 

[sundewgrower]

I couldn't really work with a severe mental illness. I can deal with somebody who's had a lot happen, however, some facets won't work for me. Physically speaking that's amicable, however, the degree and severity does carry some limits for me.
Being stuck with 20/70-80 vision forever is difficult and I have my shortfalls.

 

[Greg J.]

Wow, a lot of favorable responses. So far, no one has said anything negative about having a relationship with a man or woman who is disabled.

Let's be honest, we all evaluate people for whether we like them or not or want to get to know them better. A disability is one thing that might make us uninterested in someone. So is being too tall, short, fat, or scrawny, as well as being too cold-hearted, too emotional, too smart and self-centered, and too dumb and self-centered, and a million other things. The good news is that the older the person you're interested in, the less a disability is going to matter, whereas a person's perspective on some of the things I mentioned might not.

 

[ImAllLikeOkWaitWat]

Wow, a lot of favorable responses. So far, no one has said anything negative about having a relationship with a man or woman who is disabled.

Lots of politically correct answers in this thread and perhaps the people who responded really do mean what they say, but all they have to do is walk outside of their house into the real world and its not too hard to see the world does not think this way. Everyone is taught to respond the way people have done in this thread, but the world doesn't really work this way. We all have our own personal bias that discriminate against a multitude of people.

 

[MehGuy]

If someone was blind, deaf or whatever, sure I'd date them.

 

[Oliveira1997]

This reminds me of the show "The Undateables". Have any of you heard of it?
My favorite was Sam. I really hope he found someone, he seemed like such a sweet guy.

 

[redblue22]

People with disabilities are the first to turn me down.

 

[ImAllLikeOkWaitWat]

People with disabilities are the first to turn me down.

You gotta start asking out some healthier people then

 

[.Mikha'el.]

How do you feel about dating or marrying someone who is disabled?

I couldn't do it.

 

[Servant68]

I once dated a girl who had no sense of smell; does that count?

 

[blackribbon]

Wow, a lot of favorable responses. So far, no one has said anything negative about having a relationship with a man or woman who is disabled.

Last I checked, nobody dates a disability....they date a person. We all have our flaws and our strengths and who we decide to marry depends on the whole person. Chances are that no one goes out intending to date a down's syndrome person but down's syndrome people do get married when they find a compatible match. Same goes for every disability that exists (assuming the ability to function as an independent adult). We fall in love with the person and then decide if we can live with their flaws. That is how marriage works. People who wait for the "perfect person" either never get married or are deeply disappointed within the first year of their marriage. We get no guarantees that the person we marry won't develop a disability in their life time. We also can't guarantee that we ourselves won't develop a disability.

Finding a date is hard. To blame your singleness on a disability or characteristic like height or weight is to deny the fact that it isn't easy to find a life partner and that love is unique and special...even for the people who have no obvious strikes against them.

 

[Servant68]

My little brother was born with arthrogryposis. Severe physical handicap. Was told he would never walk. He did. Was told he'd never ride a bike. He did. Was told he'd never drive. He did.

He was 19 and going to college when a girl he had a crush on turned him down at a party, hard. Called him a freak and said she'd never date a freak.

He killed himself that night.

I would date a handicapped person...

 

[blackribbon]

How many would want to date a person with Aspergers when you got sites like this floating around?

I know many women who have married Asperger's men...the tech & engineering field is full of them.