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What do you think the difference is? Please post examples and keep it clean.
Tough love?
If you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all?
which one is better? Being brutally honest with someone to the point it becomes insulting(yet, an insult can still be honest and true, however) or sugar coating the truth so no one's "feelings" get hurt.
Personally, I don't think there is a difference; if you call someone short-sighted, I suppose it can be honest and well-tempered, but at the same time have a malicious motivation behind it.
I agree. There are nice and mean ways to tell someone the truth.There is absolutely no reason to be purposefully insulting even when being brutally honest ever IMO. One can be honest without insulting people.
I see it as coming down to intent. Is the intent of a remark to get a rise or upset a reader? Then it's flaming. If that isn't the intent, but the reader still gets upset then that's their problem, which should be easily corrected by a simple explanation.
If it's a christian speaking then it's just being honest.
If it's a non-christian speaking then it's almost certainly flaming.
Except that does not address the OP.
I agree. There are nice and mean ways to tell someone the truth.
I could tell someone that their breath smells, or I could offer them a piece of gum. Both address the issue, but only one makes them feel bad.
It's basically a matter of 4 factors -What do you think the difference is?
Please post examples and keep it clean.
If an explanation is offered and rejected then, personally, I would close the door on the issue and let the recipient stew in his own juices. I haven't the time or the inclination to placate people who insist on taking offense. Let them whine. If others want to listen to them that's their choice.I completely agree -- in theory.
In practice, however, it is usually the recipient of the remark, not the originator whose opinion the rest of society pays attention to.
If it's a christian speaking then it's just being honest.
If it's a non-christian speaking then it's almost certainly flaming.
What do you think the difference is? Please post examples and keep it clean.
For the purposes of posting at CF, it's a difference between flaming and just being honest
I tried an honest post up in GA and christians (except one) responded as if it were a flame.
ETA: The question isn't about who is saying it, but what is being said.
"Being honest" and "flaming" are descriptions of intent.What do you think the difference is? Please post examples and keep it clean.
What do you think the difference is? Please post examples and keep it clean.