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Did You Wait?
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blythe_ann
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We waited. Dated for 5 years and married virgins. It's possible, it's great. Kudos to the OP for wanting to wait.
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Really old thread, but posting anyway.
We were both virgins when we got married. I was 22, he was 30.
We were both virgins when we got married. I was 22, he was 30.
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Teufelhund
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This is interesting it's almost like somebody is searching for all threads containing any sort of sexual discussion and then posting in them to bring them to forefront regardless of their [the thread's] age.
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tessas212
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If you want to stay a virgin, more power to you! But looking specifically for a virgin is a bad idea. Don't love their virgin/non virgin status, love the individual person!
I did not have sex until I was 100% positive I was going to be with that person for the rest of my life. We'd already promised ourselves to each other. To me, that is the equivalent of marriage, no matter if there is no papers or ceremony. If you see marriage as ONLY the paper or the ceremony, then in that view I had premarital sex with my now husband. NO regrets. I would not change it.
I did not have sex until I was 100% positive I was going to be with that person for the rest of my life. We'd already promised ourselves to each other. To me, that is the equivalent of marriage, no matter if there is no papers or ceremony. If you see marriage as ONLY the paper or the ceremony, then in that view I had premarital sex with my now husband. NO regrets. I would not change it.
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Kiwicee
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My husband and I waited. We came very close to the line, and even that put strain on our relationship. We both knew we were not going to have sex before we got married so we had to watch ourselves very carefully. When we got married...sex...hurts so we still haven't fully been able to enjoy it, but I wouldn't take back our decision to wait.
If we had tried to have sex in our dating relationship we probably would have broken up because it has caused a fair amount of difficulties. In our marriage we have to work through it because we are committed and I love him, but sex hurts a lot for me so i am not always in the mood which has caused tension sometimes. I do know that it will stop hurting eventually and it will be a pure blessing!
If we had tried to have sex in our dating relationship we probably would have broken up because it has caused a fair amount of difficulties. In our marriage we have to work through it because we are committed and I love him, but sex hurts a lot for me so i am not always in the mood which has caused tension sometimes. I do know that it will stop hurting eventually and it will be a pure blessing!
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LovesToBless
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Yes.
And I too am surprised to see such old threads brought up again. Why not start new ones on the same topics?
And I too am surprised to see such old threads brought up again. Why not start new ones on the same topics?
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I didn't wait and really wish I had. I only hope that my mistakes will become teaching moments for my daughters.
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united4Peace
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Did not wait, had partners prior, wish I hadnt had the other partners however that said, am glad we did not wait, infact we lived together for a couple of years prior. I remember my husband standing outside one night and as we were looking into the stars he said "In God's eyes we are married" as marriage to him is when a couple is dedicated to one another,loves one another, not a piece of paper and ceremony in order to get free gifts. Married 16 yrs and together for 20
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HisLittleHazelnut
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No, we didn't wait but we were each others first. We don't regret NOT waiting. In fact it was largely because we did not wait that we were able to hang on to each other during the five years before we could get married.
All the same, it was infrequent based on the fact we were long distance.
All the same, it was infrequent based on the fact we were long distance.
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Niffer
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Both my husband and I waited - I was married at 21, and he at 24.
It's very possible to wait and to find someone who has waited as well.
But it's NOT THE END OF THE WORLD if the person you're in love with has had other partners.
Of course, it needs to be discussed, not shoved in a closet and forgotten - but would I have still married my husband even if he had, had sex before marriage?
Of course!
I love him, and he loved me - and deciding to wait when we were together, was ridiculously hard but we both figured we had stayed virgins this long, so might as well wait 'till the wedding night.
It's more about you than your spouse, I wanted to wait for my husband, but that doesn't mean I expected him to do the same. (I hoped, of course) but didn't automatically dismiss him because he made some wrong decisions - y'know what I mean?
Good luck!
- Niff
It's very possible to wait and to find someone who has waited as well.
But it's NOT THE END OF THE WORLD if the person you're in love with has had other partners.
Of course, it needs to be discussed, not shoved in a closet and forgotten - but would I have still married my husband even if he had, had sex before marriage?
Of course!
I love him, and he loved me - and deciding to wait when we were together, was ridiculously hard but we both figured we had stayed virgins this long, so might as well wait 'till the wedding night.
It's more about you than your spouse, I wanted to wait for my husband, but that doesn't mean I expected him to do the same. (I hoped, of course) but didn't automatically dismiss him because he made some wrong decisions - y'know what I mean?
Good luck!
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andross77
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yes, we waited. i was 27 and she was 23. one of the best decisions we made for our marriage. it is still possible to follow God's plan for sex regardless of what the world says. It will ALWAYS be possible! Not always easy/common/simple/without fear/without ridicule and never without denying one's self and letting Christ live in us!
God bless.
God bless.
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