Did anyone else live a like this?

[Fire for God]

You sound like the kind of guy that girls like. It's just the facial features that seem to be a problem.

I don't know. I tend to envy guys like you. I can't say that looks are nothing, but I think confidence is everything. You have intelligence, drive, and a rather masculine mindset. I've known ugly guys that girls really like (much more than guys who are 10 times better looking) because of their confidence and other positive traits. Confidence is always the number 1.

 

[NotTooImportant]

I don't know. I tend to envy guys like you.

I'm slowly starting to think you guys are just saying this to make me feel better regardless of truth. You would be envying someone who has never gotten asked out, or has never been attractive to someone.

 

[JesusSaved]

I hate being patronized or given sugar coated half truths. I wouldn't do this to anyone and I genuinley don't think Fire For God is either.
But there is more to envy about someone than just good looks and arm candy. Just because you don't have those ( though the former is debatable, since I don't actually know what you look like beyond your description) doesn't mean that ppl don't envy something else about you. We all hold ideals of what a perfect life/person should be, and it always seems to be qualities that someone else has that we don't.
My advice is to work what you've got and be damn proud of it!

 

[JesusSaved]

*accidentally hit reply twice, backspaced second message

 

[ponderingnwandering]

In all honest, your friend(notsoimportant) may be getting all these girls to make himself feel more important. I could be wrong, and probably am, but a true man is happy with one woman ;D

Anyway, if you want to be more attractive to people in general, confidence helps out alot. If you are not outgoing, or struggling with your own self esteem even still, try to develop quiet confidence, not exactly never being afraid in front of others, but being able to admit your own mistakes or imperfections and move on. It's not easy, but it does require coming to terms with who you are and who you aren't. You gotta accept that God designed you like this(and if you don't believe in God, then humor me).

I'm about a foot shorter than my younger bro(he's 7ft). People always try to dig at me by comparing our heights. I just tell my bro to kick their butt.

Point is, you do eventually have to learn to live with yourself. How do you do that? I can't tell you, i'm still learning myself . But i do know this. If you keep focusing on your flaws, other people will as well. If you try to focus more on your positive features, other people will slowly do so as well.