i am so tired of struggling with being attracted to women. i was repeatedly molested as a kid, i don't even know when i lost my virginity! I've always felt filthy. My ex husband was violent in bed and I grew to hate the idea of sexual relationships with men. But I know being attracted to women is wrong. I am desperate. I don't know how to stop wanting to be with women. I am so lonely and there is no way I want to spend time with men. I feel so desperate, so alone and so filthy. I hate who I am. i hate what I am and I want to be free. i was free for years and now I am pulled back into this sick desire. I'm so tired of the struggle. I need help.
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Hi, I'm so sorry you are struggling so with this. I am praying for you to find the answers.
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I too am praying for you.
My advice: Really sit down and think who would be the perfect guy for you. Now scrap that idea. Now imagine the guy who you could live your life with without hating yourself (or him).
Now what would you have to trade to get him? Good sex? Good money? No possibility of kids? The point being you don't have to have the perfect guy, you just need to have a good guy. Sex isn't going to be the highlight of your life, maybe, but Christ calls us to restrain ourselves sexually anyway and concentrate on the important things.
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Your past experiences may well be contributing to your present feelings. Have you ever discussed those horrible times with anyone?
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raven1
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You can't beat yourself up about this. You didn't choose to be attracted to women. As far as not struggling with it I don't know how to help you. I have struggles with areas of my sexuality also. Everyone has there cross to bare. I am sorry you where harmed as a child you didn't deserve that at all.
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It is not your fault you are attracted to women. Everyone struggles with something. I know it's hard and you did not choose it. You were born that way or what happened to you caused it. Don't be mad at yourself. I would give anything to get rid of the crosses I bare so I know your pain, but you are gonna be ok. You made it this far 
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