Depth

When someone else says it? I have no idea, because there's a good chance that the person who says it really doesn't know either. What she says or claims isn't important. What she chooses is important. If she keeps going back to a certain type, that's what she wants regardless of what she says she wants. Your favorite is always what you go back to, even if you think something else would be nice.

 

I agree that "depth" is probably going to vary for different people. But if we contrast it with "superficial" then maybe that gives some sense of what many people mean when they want a relationship with depth. But even that distinction doesn't capture the problem.

Conversations and the things couples do together can be, for one or the other, less than they want. Depth is always going to refer to something lacking, which happens to make the relationship seem flat, less robust, for one of the two. Of course, this is ultimately going to be a matter of personal preference, I think to some extent. What gives "depth" to one might leave another longing for more. Conversations on the latest Hollywood breakup are not going to seem of much substance to me. But to another, who knows all the ins and outs, and all the intrigue, that might be what "depth" means.

 

Exactly. Depth can go no deeper than the interests and values of the those involved.

 

Well…



Deep subject!



After looking for pictures of wishing wells online, however, many of them are relatively shallow.



The way I see it, "depth" is about having things in common to talk about. Somebody isn't necessarily shallow just because you don't see eye to eye, but your conversations with them likely won't be as engaging.

 

Depth differs for everyone. It can also be a copout or escape depending on the person. The term is vague and that’s part of the allure for some.

When used by the opposite sex I’d interpret it as rich or meaningful experiences.

~bella