Depression Support

[Judy02]

Hey guys,
I just want to say that academic achievement is not everything and i know it can feel that way sometimes but it's not - and i'm a teacher saying this!

The most importnat thing is that you are a good person and that you learn to love yourself. Don't beat yourselves up about finding uni diffciult - it's not easy and with depression to contend with too it can become near enough impossible.

You need to hold fast to the fact that you ar both loveable human beings and that having qualifications will not alter that or make anyone like you anymore.

You are both so open , honest and genuinely kind and those are more qualities than a lot of people have.

Big hugs
Rs xxx

Thanks RS, was nice to hear that

Did u find uni hard with depression? did u have depression back then? xxx

 

[Judy02]

Jude

I'm petitioning for a medical withdrawal because of teh stress. I got incompletes in all my classes, and had the opportunity to finish them this summer, but I couldn't/can't because I stress out so terribly, especially over chem, that I'd end up in hos a fourth time. Stress makes my depression and suicidality worse wish it didn't. So there you go.

Yeah, it is INCREDIBLY frustrating!! You didn't sound arrogant - I know that if I could only apply myself I'd be able to pass too, it's just that I can't concentrate on studying and so I would do poorly. I was doing badly in chem at the end of the semester, and I'm pretty sure that I would fail it if I was forced to take the final exam now. UGH.

In real life, I've not met anyone who's had depression get in the way of academics. All my friends are doing very well in their classes ... and then there's me. GRRR. How I hate it. But there really isn't anything you can do except try and recover from depression. That's kind of what I'm trying to do this summer - put all my energy into figuring out ways to cope with stress. Of course, I haven't found any good ways yet, so that's a moot point. *sigh*

Anyway, gorgeous, hope things are going a bit better now than they were. Take care of you, yeah? *hugs*

Aww, I'm so sorry you've been struggling with school too! It really does suck big time (ahh this website is turning me into an American!)

Hopefully we can beat this together, and say what helps each other. At least we both have a steely determination not to give up, that's gota be one step in the right direction! xxx

 

[Restoredsoul]

Thanks RS, was nice to hear that

Did u find uni hard with depression? did u have depression back then? xxx

I did but i didn't know it so i just got ill a lot - ended up in hospital in my 3rd year etc... it was almost 12 months later before i was diagnosed

Rs xxx

 

[Soulwings]

RS, that had to have been an awful time! Not being diagnosed and still having to struggle through uni ...

Hehe yeah Jude, we aren't the neither of us going to give up Righty-o?

 

[Judy02]

RS, that had to have been an awful time! Not being diagnosed and still having to struggle through uni ...

Hehe yeah Jude, we aren't the neither of us going to give up Righty-o?

Definetely girl! God called us to university for a reason, if He brings us to it, he'll bring us through it Good thing about God guiding us, is he has to help us with the consequences. If we're following his will, and try and lean on him, I think he will help make the pathway smooth. I think il try counselling (thanx to ur reply in my other thread) I think I just need to stop being anxious about everything, it will definetely make me feel a lot better. Thanx april xx

 

[Soulwings]

You're welcome We'll make it through. Remember, falling isn't failing unless we don't get up again. And we ARE getting up again to tackle the stuff that we stumbled over the first time 'round.

 

[Soulwings]

I'm really not doing the best. Just so terribly low, I don't know why. I'm scared that the medical withdrawal won't go through and that I'll have to take my exams when I'm not ready for them. I'm scared. And I've cut last night, really badly, and I don't want my mum and dad to find out about it, because they probably would've taken me in to hos for stitches, and they'll be angry and disappointed in me.

 

[Judy02]

I'm really not doing the best. Just so terribly low, I don't know why. I'm scared that the medical withdrawal won't go through and that I'll have to take my exams when I'm not ready for them. I'm scared. And I've cut last night, really badly, and I don't want my mum and dad to find out about it, because they probably would've taken me in to hos for stitches, and they'll be angry and disappointed in me.

Aww I'm sorry hun ur not doing good

Why are you worried the med withdrawal wont go through on time? Is that likely or are u just feeling anxious? Have u spoken to anyone at uni about how you're feeling? Personal tutor maybe? xx

 

[Soulwings]

I'm just feeling anxious. We've got to get some signatures for it to go through, and one of the people that needs to sign it is a thousand miles away right now. My dad works at uni so he's helping me with it, thankfully! Else I'd be soo lost, lol.

The residential place wants me back.
I'm confused, and I really don't have a clue what I ought to do.

How are you, luv?

 

[Restoredsoul]

I'm just feeling anxious. We've got to get some signatures for it to go through, and one of the people that needs to sign it is a thousand miles away right now. My dad works at uni so he's helping me with it, thankfully! Else I'd be soo lost, lol.

The residential place wants me back.
I'm confused, and I really don't have a clue what I ought to do.

How are you, luv?

If the residential want you back is that not a good thing?

I'm sure all of the paperwork will go through fine hun.

I am worried about you cutting - if it is bad you need to get it seen to hun - i used to self harm - if you want Pm me.

Hugs
Rs xxx

 

[Soulwings]

I guess it's a good thing. It's mainly for eating disorders, which I've got, but I'm not a typical anorexic or bulimic, so that complicates things a little and makes me feel as though I don't deserve to be in this program. But they'll work on stuff like self worth and self image, and healthy eating, and depression and cutting on the side. Soo...

I think I'm going. I'm just TERRIFIED.

 

[AnointedPoetess]

I'm depressed and feeling oppressed at the same time!!!

 

[Eponine]

I'm depressed and feeling oppressed at the same time!!!

A big to you, and a prayer that God would send one too.

 

[gracechick]

I have Social Anxiety disorder & dpressn can be a result of this.

So could someone give me a "chin up" today..the past few days have been rather hard. & I do usually hide this so most people probably wouldn't even know how Im really feelin'

Thanx

 

[Soulwings]

gracechick. You'll get through this low spot, because that's all that it is. Depression and social anxiety suck - I've got both - and I understand what you mean about hiding it. Is there any way that you can drop the act and let people know how you really feel?

 

[gracechick]

Thanks Swings
My one sis pretty much knows, but probably not how hard it is for me.
It's difficult for my hubby to have to see it so I just sort of go through it with just me & God.

I do see someone though occasionally & I imagine he sees straight through the anxiety & the depression I deal with. I meet with him next week....geez it's good to have someone to vent to & bounce things off of. He's good at giving a fresh perspective & steps to cope with things.

Sometimes though one just wants to scream the house down...how do ya'll deal with the why me's??? & Lord just how much longer will I have to be livin' with this stuff...

Sorry just venting today & being honest with myself I suppose

 

[Soulwings]

Being honest with yourself is good. I know, I'm not sure really how to deal with the "why me's" either. They're hard questions, those. I'm glad you've got someone to talk with about depression & anxiety - facing those alone are tough.

 

[AnointedPoetess]

A big to you, and a prayer that God would send one too.[/quote}

Hey Laurelin, thanks for the hugs and prayers! I need em' alot esp since my house seems like a warzone, no peace, etc!!!

 

[Soulwings]

Crystal, I'm sorry things are so rough for you right now. You're in my prayers.

 

[Judy02]

So how has everyone been doing recently?

I've been considering starting anti depressants again (I stopped for about a month and a half to see how I'd cope without them after being on citalopram and prozac for just under a year.
How do u know for sure whether its the right thing to do? I'm trying to pray, but when your mind's depressed, it feels almost impossible