Depression & Anxiety

[Alison Peebles]

I am 27 years old and I have been suffering with Depression & Anxiety issues since my childhood days back in Primary school, I was putting up with bullying from other kids both in Primary & High school. It was mostly verbal & emotional bullying but I don't think many people realise that verbal & emotional bullying is just as bad as physical bullying, at the end of the day bullying is bullying whether it is physical, verbal or emotional bullying it doesn't make words hurt any less. I have also experienced bullying both in real life & online, I have experienced online bullying just recently as well. At school & even online I have been called ugly and called me names like big nose, someone at school even said to me "You're so ugly that no one would want to marry you." And to this day I have never been in a relationship ever, it just makes me think are they right or is it God's purpose for me to be single? If so then what's his purpose for me staying single? and will I ever find someone & get married and start a family with that person. I worry that i'm going to spend the rest of my life alone and will probably die alone. The neglect I have experienced from my biological parents, plus all the bullying I have suffered from a child up until now and the verbal & emotional abuse from my Mum which has been going on for 15-16 years has really taken it's toll on my mental health. Plus my Depression & Anxiety tends to get worse in the Winter which is not too far away, we've already started getting the cold weather here in Australia and my mental health is not stable at all. I honestly don't know what to do, I have already tried getting professional help by a phyciatrist and a phycologist but it didn't really help me. I am taking antidepressants but they don't always seem to work , especially in the Winter. I don't know what else to do.

 

[Cheylynn]

Where does Jesus Christ and His work on the cross fit in to all this?

 

[TimAM]

Praying for you!

 

[Alison Peebles]

Where does Jesus Christ and His work on the cross fit in to all this?

I'm not sure what you mean by that question?

 

[Jude1:3Contendforthefaith]

It will all work out. Praying.

 

[Alison Peebles]

Praying for you!

Thank you Tim ❤️

 

[Alison Peebles]

It will all work out. Praying.

Thank you , I hope so

 

[Cheylynn]

I'm not sure what you mean by that question?

Well, you explained in great heart felt detail of what you have gone through - and I did not hear a word of God in your story - when I ask I wonder if He is in your life? Christ died for you, the pain and hurt - He took it on the cross and experienced the bullying - so that you can let it all go to take His life as your own, which you do not live any longer to your old life. If you don't understand, I have written a few blogs on this in my blog Way Truth & Life (click below).
As a Christian, and I assume you are, you need to be born again. This means you are no longer living in 'self' but for God. You are a new creation - this is part of the Good news package. He gives you what it is you are needing. You can never get what you need from others. Trusting in Him involves letting go, and letting God - sorry for the cliche but it works. I so understand what you are saying and do not discount it at all - I am only pointing you to freedom from it.

 

[Jeshu]

The good news is that with Jesus there is hope. See all the negativity that people have brought your way is now living within you and making your life bitter and sore. Jesus however can heal the wounds of the abuse and rebuild your self-esteem in Him and for Him for only then you are safe from the bad treatments of others.

So best thing to do is to find your identity in Christ through the promises the word makes to us a believers.

For example Psalm 139 tells us that we have been beautifully and wonderfully made, so hold on tight to your identity in Him like that and all the hurtful words of others will begin to become irrelevant For Christ will sustain you through the word and in His love.

The best is to seek good life in Him and for Him for then no one can take it from you, surely not people who use nasty labels or words.

As far as relationships concerns please don't fret to quickly being alone but prepare yourself according to Proverbs 31 for the time you meet a possible partner in your life. It is best to be ready than get court out by surprise.

Be of good courage there is healing possible for your form of depression. o fight the lies people have thrown your way and re-find the answers in Scripture is the way to go about that.

Peace.

To God's Depressed Child,

To think less of yourself then God's own
Brings you much pain and suffering.
Your worth is an incredible high price
Also for you did Jesus die on the cross.

Depression is also what devil's lies brings inside
letting a low-self-esteem your good life rob
Untruths roaming freely through heart and mind
Evil lies extinguishing all happiness and fun.

His loving truth brings you His good life
While to believe lies brings pain and grief
So hold onto the promises Jesus made to you
and don't let Satan your good life squander.

Take hold of God's precious loving truth.
A life in Him stays safe from lies that hurt.
Jesus' truth will comfort your bleeding heart
Lovingly remaking your fallen life anew.

 

[Zoii]

I am 27 years old and I have been suffering with Depression & Anxiety issues since my childhood days back in Primary school, I was putting up with bullying from other kids both in Primary & High school. It was mostly verbal & emotional bullying but I don't think many people realise that verbal & emotional bullying is just as bad as physical bullying, at the end of the day bullying is bullying whether it is physical, verbal or emotional bullying it doesn't make words hurt any less. I have also experienced bullying both in real life & online, I have experienced online bullying just recently as well. At school & even online I have been called ugly and called me names like big nose, someone at school even said to me "You're so ugly that no one would want to marry you." And to this day I have never been in a relationship ever, it just makes me think are they right or is it God's purpose for me to be single? If so then what's his purpose for me staying single? and will I ever find someone & get married and start a family with that person. I worry that i'm going to spend the rest of my life alone and will probably die alone. The neglect I have experienced from my biological parents, plus all the bullying I have suffered from a child up until now and the verbal & emotional abuse from my Mum which has been going on for 15-16 years has really taken it's toll on my mental health. Plus my Depression & Anxiety tends to get worse in the Winter which is not too far away, we've already started getting the cold weather here in Australia and my mental health is not stable at all. I honestly don't know what to do, I have already tried getting professional help by a phyciatrist and a phycologist but it didn't really help me. I am taking antidepressants but they don't always seem to work , especially in the Winter. I don't know what else to do.

Dealing with the issues you describe is a long road but I really believe you should find a good psychotherapist, preferably one with a strong knowledge of psychiatry and medications, who can be your long term counsellor and as a nexus to a pathway into a psychiatrist if that's ever needed. A lot of counsellors have limited skills and most do not have a mental health background. You need to find someone who has both eg a mental health nurse who did masters or PhD counselling/psychotherapy. Those types in Australia a few and far between but are gold as they have the psychiatry/medication/aberrrant psych angle nailed, have the practical experience of community resources, and have a strong practical grounded approach to counselling - keep looking - and when you find that person stick with them.