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Decidedly Celibate Singles
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WS,
You didn't mention your age group, but I see nothing wrong with having younger friends...if you have the same interests, sports, movies, whatever, why not....some people are mature in age but young in spirit!
You didn't mention your age group, but I see nothing wrong with having younger friends...if you have the same interests, sports, movies, whatever, why not....some people are mature in age but young in spirit!
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I find it strange that I only know 1 of my friends (she's 30) who is married. Alot of them are still out travelling the world or going through boyfriends, but no one seems to be settling down. Is this a culture thing? I mean I know that people are not getting married as young these days, but the fact that the divorce rate is over 50% is a little disheartening.
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This has been an interesting read. It is easy to identify with what is shared we you have experienced the same thing.
I have been divorced for nearly five years. Wife decided she wanted out. Both Christians with three children.
I have made the decision not to remarry primarily because I believe that is what Scripture teaches. I can also see the practical wisdom of remaining single. As someone has said, that decision gets tested. In a recent thread I shared my experience trying to get through to another single mum, that while I valued the friendship, marriage was not on the cards.
While divorce was not my choice, and I did all I could to maintain the relationship, I can now appreciate the release from the strain of the situation. An unhappy marriage is a big emotional drain when love turrns to hate.
I have been divorced for nearly five years. Wife decided she wanted out. Both Christians with three children.
I have made the decision not to remarry primarily because I believe that is what Scripture teaches. I can also see the practical wisdom of remaining single. As someone has said, that decision gets tested. In a recent thread I shared my experience trying to get through to another single mum, that while I valued the friendship, marriage was not on the cards.
While divorce was not my choice, and I did all I could to maintain the relationship, I can now appreciate the release from the strain of the situation. An unhappy marriage is a big emotional drain when love turrns to hate.
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wonder111 said:
Better unmarried than badly married! Stick to your guns and be wise!
On the other hand, given that wisdom, there was an excellent quote the other day stating
"All people by definition are incompatible. Marriage is the process of bridging those imcompatibilities".
I agree.
-kc
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I have decided to be celibate for an indefinite period. I don't know at the moment if Christ is calling me to the priesthood, to the monkhood, or what. I am praying very sincerely about His Plans for me, and I am continuing my single life so I don't have to hurt anyone just in case God tells me that celibacy is the route I should go. Everyone, please pray for me
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DudeBornAgain:
I salute you in your decision to remain celibate. It's great. It does not mean that God is calling you into the priesthood. Nor does it mean that you are going to be sent off to preach to the nations. It is a gift of God to those that really want to take their relationship to the next level. As we all know fornication is a sin and God does not want us to sin under any circumstance. So if you are called and have heeded the calling then great!!! God wants you!!! You are prompted to come out of this wicked generation to walk in the light. So Go for it.
Also at times God will have us be tested for a while and then will give us a spouce! So remain faithfull so that you can please God and be blessed by that faithfullness.
I myself have been celebate for 9 years. I am currently 39 years old.
I feel all those same things at times and at times it is hard to find a girl that you are attracted to that is willing to wait and is faithfull to God and you. So do not feel like it's too much. God will supply strength when needed if you ask.
blessings pete
I salute you in your decision to remain celibate. It's great. It does not mean that God is calling you into the priesthood. Nor does it mean that you are going to be sent off to preach to the nations. It is a gift of God to those that really want to take their relationship to the next level. As we all know fornication is a sin and God does not want us to sin under any circumstance. So if you are called and have heeded the calling then great!!! God wants you!!! You are prompted to come out of this wicked generation to walk in the light. So Go for it.
Also at times God will have us be tested for a while and then will give us a spouce! So remain faithfull so that you can please God and be blessed by that faithfullness.
I myself have been celebate for 9 years. I am currently 39 years old.
I feel all those same things at times and at times it is hard to find a girl that you are attracted to that is willing to wait and is faithfull to God and you. So do not feel like it's too much. God will supply strength when needed if you ask.
blessings pete
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deg
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Wonderful thread.
I have considered long and hard the road less travelled. I was saved only a year and a half ago, out of deep depths, my forte being sexual promiscuity (although well mixed with wild substance abuse). I had broken the belt at 17, and had slept with 3 people by university. I had a nipple ring "installed," I was so enthralled with my sexual house. Entry into God's house, however, has proven most cleansing; burning; purifing. We serve a Mighty King.
With my salvation came an absolute abhorrance to my intimate encounters. I immediately broke it off with the girl I was with, and have, ever since, considered walking clean and clear. The realms of Spirit which I am moving into are beautifully full and overwhelming, while the thought of entering back into those physical thirsts instantly draws me from my Father. I almost feel as if satisfaction of those elements of life would take away from my walk with the One who we all know and dearly love. Perhaps it is my "still smells like newly saved" spirit, but I feel a complete balance between the scales of choice. It is as though it is up to me; the Lord has offered and performed the cleansing, and has left the choice of celibacy and utter devotion to himself a wide open and feasible door, right beside the future with a beautiful wife (who I am now good friends with: I believe the Lord has shown me that I may be wed to her) and children.
I say all this for a few reasons. One, that we may all with one accord Praise our God. He is so wonderfully pure. Two, that those who have passed this place before and chosen which ever course, will be able to relate their stories. I am only 20 years old, but I fully feel a deep groaning of the Spirit within to give my life wholly to Him. Should that include my wife and prospective children? What do you all think? I believe the choice is now mine to make...so understand that your advice may become living testimony!
"I would that you were all like me..." these words ring in my spirit...
I have considered long and hard the road less travelled. I was saved only a year and a half ago, out of deep depths, my forte being sexual promiscuity (although well mixed with wild substance abuse). I had broken the belt at 17, and had slept with 3 people by university. I had a nipple ring "installed," I was so enthralled with my sexual house. Entry into God's house, however, has proven most cleansing; burning; purifing. We serve a Mighty King.
With my salvation came an absolute abhorrance to my intimate encounters. I immediately broke it off with the girl I was with, and have, ever since, considered walking clean and clear. The realms of Spirit which I am moving into are beautifully full and overwhelming, while the thought of entering back into those physical thirsts instantly draws me from my Father. I almost feel as if satisfaction of those elements of life would take away from my walk with the One who we all know and dearly love. Perhaps it is my "still smells like newly saved" spirit, but I feel a complete balance between the scales of choice. It is as though it is up to me; the Lord has offered and performed the cleansing, and has left the choice of celibacy and utter devotion to himself a wide open and feasible door, right beside the future with a beautiful wife (who I am now good friends with: I believe the Lord has shown me that I may be wed to her) and children.
I say all this for a few reasons. One, that we may all with one accord Praise our God. He is so wonderfully pure. Two, that those who have passed this place before and chosen which ever course, will be able to relate their stories. I am only 20 years old, but I fully feel a deep groaning of the Spirit within to give my life wholly to Him. Should that include my wife and prospective children? What do you all think? I believe the choice is now mine to make...so understand that your advice may become living testimony!
"I would that you were all like me..." these words ring in my spirit...
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I have been a celib all my life and I'm ambivalent about marriage at this point in my life. So far, up to this point, I have been a celib because of my shyness as I'm socially handicapped when it comes to meeting women.
I'm also thinking about remaing single by choice because (1) I have been living with my mom for 30 out of 31 years of my life and I want my own space (2) they're some stuff I wanted to do before settling down but now I'm thinking of doing instead of settling down such as studying the martial arts, working out at the gym regullary, living in the "big city", traveling around Europe, or just hanging out.
Another reason I'm thinking about remaining single the rest of my life is because I'm planning to pursue a career in law enforcement with a large city.
Police work is also hard on marriage and a family. Police work involves long, irregular hours and its also stressful and hazzardous. I'm not so sure I want to leave a spouseless woman or fatherless children behind should I go down in the line of duty. If I do remain a celib, my possible demise won't affect too many people.
OTOH, a part of me won't close the door on marriage because (1) that innate desire God put in all of us (2) because my mom wants grandchildren someday (3) because a part of me does want to pursue a political career someday and celibs never get elected. Not to mention its hard to espouse a pro-family platform when you never married and raised a family of your own. A part of me also thinks its a duty to get married and raise a family for the sake of the future of our country.
I'm also thinking about remaing single by choice because (1) I have been living with my mom for 30 out of 31 years of my life and I want my own space (2) they're some stuff I wanted to do before settling down but now I'm thinking of doing instead of settling down such as studying the martial arts, working out at the gym regullary, living in the "big city", traveling around Europe, or just hanging out.
Another reason I'm thinking about remaining single the rest of my life is because I'm planning to pursue a career in law enforcement with a large city.
Police work is also hard on marriage and a family. Police work involves long, irregular hours and its also stressful and hazzardous. I'm not so sure I want to leave a spouseless woman or fatherless children behind should I go down in the line of duty. If I do remain a celib, my possible demise won't affect too many people.
OTOH, a part of me won't close the door on marriage because (1) that innate desire God put in all of us (2) because my mom wants grandchildren someday (3) because a part of me does want to pursue a political career someday and celibs never get elected. Not to mention its hard to espouse a pro-family platform when you never married and raised a family of your own. A part of me also thinks its a duty to get married and raise a family for the sake of the future of our country.
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That sounds great. Wish I had the means to travel to Europe someday. It's always been a dream of mine.Praetor said:
As for the future of this country, I wouldn't worry. The birthrate isn't slowing down one bit, as far as I can tell. Not to mention all those unplanned pregnancies going on.
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Dude I also applaud you (and others in this thread) that have decided to remain celibate. I'm 24 and have also considered staying single and never marrying, because I want a closer relationship with the Lord. Not to say married couples don't have a close relationship, but it's more difficult persay, because you have to juggle your devotions between family life and God. I pray that His will be done and not my own, so if He wants me to be married later on, then so be it...but if not, I'm perfectly fine with that!
I'm 24 and have also considered staying single and never marrying, because I want a closer relationship with the Lord. Not to say married couples don't have a close relationship, but it's more difficult persay, because you have to juggle your devotions between family life and God. I pray that His will be done and not my own, so if He wants me to be married later on, then so be it...but if not, I'm perfectly fine with that!
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What gets me are the people in my own church,think there is something weird with someone if your single and you don't date.
A lot of the single ladies in my church date,but they are also having sex outside of marriage with these men also.
I don't date, I don't believe in sex outside of marriage,and thats-that.
I haven't dated since I became a christian, figure its Gods way of telling me, he doesn't want me getting married.
A lot of the single ladies in my church date,but they are also having sex outside of marriage with these men also.
I don't date, I don't believe in sex outside of marriage,and thats-that.
I haven't dated since I became a christian, figure its Gods way of telling me, he doesn't want me getting married.
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What gets me are the people in my own church,think there is something weird with someone if your single and you don't date.
A lot of the single ladies in my church date,but they are also having sex outside of marriage with these men also.
I don't date, I don't believe in sex outside of marriage,and thats-that.
I haven't dated since I became a christian, figure its Gods way of telling me, he doesn't want me getting married.
But then again,I've got a thing for British guys, and maybe I need to go to England to find Mr. Right... lol
A lot of the single ladies in my church date,but they are also having sex outside of marriage with these men also.
I don't date, I don't believe in sex outside of marriage,and thats-that.
I haven't dated since I became a christian, figure its Gods way of telling me, he doesn't want me getting married.
But then again,I've got a thing for British guys, and maybe I need to go to England to find Mr. Right... lol
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Sorry I aint read all the posts far too many and I'm far too tired. but I never thought of Celibaty being a gift.
More like a curse.
More like a curse.
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I don't understand how it can be a gift myself when, in my eyes, it's just the absence of committing one's life with someone.
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Donny_B
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There is a difference between voluntary celibacy and forced celibacy. Voluntary celibacy is a gift (Matt 19:11-12, I Cor 7:7). But forced celibacy, or forbidding to marry, is a "doctrine of devils of the latter times" (I Timothy 4:1-3). Here is what Paul had to say on forced celibacy, or forbidding to marry:
"1 Now the Spirit speaketh expressly, that in the latter times some shall depart from the faith, giving heed to seducing spirits, and doctrines of devils;
2 Speaking lies in hypocrisy; having their conscience seared with a hot iron;
3 Forbidding to marry, and commanding to abstain from meats, which God hath created to be received with thanksgiving of them which believe and know the truth. I Timothy 4:1-3
Of course, until marriage, we are commanded to avoid fornication and to not commit adultery during marriage.
"1 Now the Spirit speaketh expressly, that in the latter times some shall depart from the faith, giving heed to seducing spirits, and doctrines of devils;
2 Speaking lies in hypocrisy; having their conscience seared with a hot iron;
3 Forbidding to marry, and commanding to abstain from meats, which God hath created to be received with thanksgiving of them which believe and know the truth. I Timothy 4:1-3
Of course, until marriage, we are commanded to avoid fornication and to not commit adultery during marriage.
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Hey, love it that this exists. Having been looking for a celibacy like this for ages.
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Is voluntary celibacy a gift because it's basically a freedom from the need to get married and have a physical relationship?
If so, then I'm glad to have it!
If so, then I'm glad to have it!
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